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01. Preface
Love, like the flowers in the flower bed, is delicate and bright, and it needs to be watered and cared for with the heart. Otherwise, a storm can make it wither.
Men and women in love, the thinking mode is not the same. Men prefer a more direct, proactive and clear way of falling in love. Women, on the other hand, prefer the subtle, reserved and introverted love mode.
Sukhomlinsky said: "True love requires not only love, but also mutual insight into each other's inner world." ”
When talking about love, use the right way to fall in love, in order to better capture each other's hearts. However, many men always blindly pay and please when pursuing women.
In fact, excessive pay and flattery cannot be exchanged for a woman's sincerity.
In love, a woman's heart is like a flower, which needs to be cared for by men. Using the right way of love is like fertilizing the plant with the right fertilizer, in order to make love flourish.
For women, what they need is three kinds of love, otherwise no matter how much men pay, it is useless.
02, blindly pay, it is better to give "preference"
In love, a man's blind payment will actually reduce the value of payment, but it will make women look down on him even more.
To make the effort valuable, you may wish to try "preference".
What is "preference"? In psychology, it is a kind of paranoid love.
For example, in the sea of thousands of people, others say that you are not suitable for being together, but for love, you can firmly care for love, which is a kind of preference.
Preference is not to care about the evaluation and vision of others, to observe what a woman needs with your heart, and to give her unique love.
Women care about what they give. That's preference.
Giving women preference will enhance the value of men's efforts and make it easier for women to feel cared for and loved.
The love that a woman wants is a different kind of preference. Preference, verification is the sincerity and sincerity of men. Be willing to give a woman a "preference" so that she can feel your difference.
03, do their best to give a unique "pampering"
In love, the most touching thing is the unique "pampering".
When men pursue women, giving women a unique "pampering" will make women more moved. Because, unique pampering, can make women feel unique, exclusive.
Before the famous writer Sanmao and Jose got married, she said to Jose: "After marriage, I will still do my own thing, otherwise I will not get married." ”
At that time, Jose replied to Sanmao like this: "I just want you to 'do what you want', if you lose your personality, then why should I marry you?" ”
The love a woman wants most is to be able to be herself and get the greatest understanding and support from men.
Sanmao also said: "True love is not nervous, that is, you can burp, fart, goug your ears, and run your nose in front of him without scruples." ”
A woman can truly be herself and express herself unscrupulously, that is a man's "exclusive favor" for women. Don't ask her to change or let her give up her dreams because of love.
Man, care for what a woman loves, accept her shortcomings, this is a unique "pampering".
04, in the wind and rain of life, give a "respect"
The love that is full of each other must be based on mutual respect and mutual respect.
In love, the more a man knows how to respect a woman's feelings, the more he knows how to respect her, then she can harvest more freedom and love.
In the entertainment industry, Liang Jiahui's love story is worthy of praise.
At the low point of Liang Jiahui's career, he met Jiang Jianian. No matter how difficult his career was, no matter how much money he had, she never abandoned him and took care of him.
At that time, the people around her were very puzzled and asked her: "Why do you like this poor boy?" However, Jiang Jianian did not shrink back and continued to use his social connections to help Liang Jiahui.
Liang Jiahui was very touched, and he swore that he would never fail Jiang Jianian in his life. Later, Jiang Jianian fell seriously ill, and his figure became very bloated and haggard.
However, Liang Jiahui still did not give up, taking her hand everywhere he went, giving her the best "respect" and favoritism.
In the stormy road of life, a man can respect a woman and give her a respectful love, that is, the most affectionate love.
"Respectful" love, on the one hand, is respect, on the other hand, care.
In the long years, if a man can give a woman respectful love, the woman will also live a very happy life.
Respect is the highest level of love that a man gives to a woman.
Because, in this kind of love, there is recognition of women, there is care for women, and there is appreciation for women.
05. Summary
Good love depends on fighting, but also by operating with heart. At any time, don't blindly express love.
To truly love a person, please understand a woman's heart, to understand her needs, to respect her, to understand her, to love her. In this way, love will have power.
Ai Xiansheng once said: "In the final analysis, love is the reflection of a person's self-worth in others." ”
With the love of the heart, it is the most heartwarming.
The love that has been used by the heart will make people feel that there is a temperature, and people feel that there is a vision and hope.
Chase a woman's heart, don't blindly pay. Rather, learn to enhance the value of giving, so that women feel a different kind of love.
A woman, if a man can give you favoritism, pampering, and respect, please cherish him.
Because, vivid love, not everyone can cultivate with their hearts. Once you encounter it, it is a kind of luck. Don't live up to a man's affection.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychologist, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the Internet, a happy woman manager, who has focused on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.