"Happy Women's Day!"
——Before following the routine blessing every year, I really want to care about you first, are you happy now?
Now we seem to have a lot of "unhappy" moments:
For example, worry that you will not be able to "paper" others for graduate school entrance examinations, internships, and job searches;
For example, due to environmental influence, anxiety about appearance, figure, and age;
For example, after 996, I returned to the small bedroom I shared and I couldn't see a way out in the future...
Japanese drama "Rin's New Life"
There was once a writer who opened her mailbox to those who were "unhappy" to answer everyone's confusion about life, love, friendship, family, etc., and the payment of each reply letter was our familiar name - Sanmao.
Sanmao's letters with the readers are included in "Dear Sanmao". On this special day, we would like to invite you to join in the reading of "Dear Sanmao", in this book, there is always a letter similar to your current situation, and there is always a reply letter that can light a beacon for you.
The following clip is excerpted from "Dear Sanmao", the "unhappy girl" who wrote to herself, feeling mentally poor, anxious in appearance, and deeply inferior, these problems still haunt us today. Today, we don't just wish you happiness, but also hope to find ways and abilities to make yourself happy for a long time with you through this clip and future reading activities.
Ms. Sanmao:
I am twenty-nine years old, unmarried, the lowest clerk of a customs broker, often after work, back to the rented bucket room, facing a life that is quite poor both materially and spiritually, I feel that the value of living is very ... Sorry, my bleak mood cannot be expressed in words. I have low self-esteem, please tell me, what is the ultimate purpose of life?
As a humble person as I am (my appearance is so ordinary), my ability to work is limited, I can't say anything special, and I've never been interested in me by the opposite sex.
I really envy you, I can't wait to live like you, but unfortunately I can't, please write more books to me to enrich my life, otherwise, I really don't know what happiness is there in living? Congratulations
Chunan
An unhappy girl on
Unhappy Girl:
From your short self-introduction, it seems very shocking that twenty-nine years old is just young, and you actually used a series of incorrect definitions - lowest, poor, bleak, inferior, ordinary, humble, limited ability to describe yourself.
In my personal experience, I have also thought many times about what the meaning and ultimate purpose of life are, but at present I have only one answer, a very simple one, that is, "seek true freedom" and then enjoy life.
Unhappy girl, your mind is not free, is it? Of course, I have not achieved absolute transcendence, but I no longer use the words written in your letter to myself, although we are about the same in comparison.
If I were you, the first step to do was to increase the expectation and value of self, sweep away the string of inferiority words in the letter from life, and never look down on yourself again.
You have a legitimate career, can afford to rent a room, look good, know how to further explore the meaning of life in addition to commuting, these are beautiful things, why do you feel humble? It is a pity that you feel humble because you do not look at yourself with your subjective eyes, but use the general utilitarian eyes of society.
A person who does not appreciate himself is difficult to be happy.
Of course, from your letter, it is easy to think of part of your mood, your ability to express is not weak, by your words, you can clearly see an urban single woman's helplessness and sadness for life, this helplessness, not superficial, is worth paying attention to.
Very practically, without talking about the empty method, if I lived in what you call a "bucket room", if it were me, the first thing I would do would be to decorate my room. I would paint the room a bright white, make myself a beautiful curtain on the window, I would put a small ordinary radio at the end of the bed, make a bookshelf in the corner of the wall, change a warm and welcoming lampshade for the light bulb, and then, I would go to the flower market, carefully pick a few pots of pleasing bonsai, and put them in my window. If I still have money left, I will buy a few replicas of famous paintings – the poster-like kind and hang them on the wall... In my estimation, it will not exceed four thousand Taiwan dollars, of course, except for the radio, doing everything by yourself, saving the cost of craftsmen, and life will be much more interesting.
The beautiful room is the first step to enjoying life and changing moods, and for me, it is no longer a bucket room. Then, when I pay my salary—if I were you, I'm going to give myself very little money to buy a beautiful and functional dress. If I don't feel cheerful enough, I will probably go to a hairdressing shop and spend NT$100 to trim my hairstyle that has not changed all year round, change my look, and give myself a refreshing happiness. The month after my paycheck, I'll pick out a few light-colored cosmetics for myself or buy a new pair of shoes. Of course, the salary is still paid every month, and I have four or five hours to spare after work, at that time, I may go to the YMCA to enroll in Chinese studies, flower arrangement or other courses of interest, and do not stress to attend classes twice a week at night, which is another way to change the environment and enrich myself.
You see, if I were you, I would slowly change.
I go to class, maybe I make some friends, and since my little room is so beautiful, maybe I can occasionally invite friends to sit down and talk about their lives and dreams.
Slowly, I will no longer feel inferior, I will have the courage to reach out to people of good and moral character (there are still many, many such people in society), and I will find that everyone is ordinary - but beautiful, just like myself. I will also realize that a beautiful life does not need too much money to achieve. I no longer care whether the opposite sex is interested in me, because my own life is enriched little by little, and it is too late to enjoy myself, do I still think so much?
If I were you, I would no longer wait for Sanmao to publish a new book, I would write my own notes, write for my own enjoyment, and I would slowly find that what I write by myself also has style and fun, and I am really a lovely woman.
Unhappy girls, please act! Don't rely on others to give you happiness. You first go to decorate the room, reluctantly do it yourself, you will find that things are not as difficult as you think, and interest can be sought, try east and west, as long as you decide that you like it, you will cultivate it and become a pastime after work.
Japanese drama "My husband has depression"
However, I still feel that the deepest happiness in this world is to help others, not just enjoy it in the world of oneself – and of course, it is important to enjoy one's own life. You first imagine yourself as someone else, help yourself build confidence, make up your mind to change your current lifestyle, make yourself lively, don't let life pass and be sad, at least you have to try, try your best, okay?
There are many, many ways to enjoy life, the problem is that you must have action, fantasy is not enough. The next time you write to me, the girl who signed Happy Signature, delete the word "no", okay?
Your friend
Sanmao on it
· Bibliography·
"Dear Sanmao"
Sanmao