After marriage, the distribution of property will often become the biggest contradiction between husband and wife, especially those who have no emotional basis, who are too selfish in their hearts, who regard money too much, often will be preoccupied, and even who pays more, who pays less to talk about things, and in life, most of the time women manage more money, many men will also turn in their wages, but also let the wife be at ease, in fact, as long as two people can reach a consensus, who can manage money, after all, it is common property, as long as it is reasonable distribution, Just don't use it indiscriminately.
It's just that falling in love is a matter of two people, and marriage is the run-in of two families, especially when encountering contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, if the elders like to meddle in it, the contradictions will naturally emerge endlessly, and eventually affect the quality of marriage.
Xu Ya and Yang Hai originally met at the party, and they also had a good feeling for each other, and with the passage of time, they also came together, and Yang Hai was more wooden, although he was not good at saying some sweet words, but he was sincere to Xu Ya, especially in money, every time he would buy her gifts on various holidays, he would also take the initiative to bear all the expenses when dating, he fell in love for three years, and the feelings of the two people continued to heat up, and finally decided to meet his parents and put the marriage on the agenda.
However, after arriving at the man's home, Xu Ya found that the future mother-in-law was a person who was not very easy to get along with, not only gave people a particularly strong feeling, but also met with continuous "interrogation", such as how many people in Xu Ya's family, where they are working now, how much salary, whether they plan to return to their hometown with Yang Hai in the future, whether their parents have pensions or the like, and Yang Hai does not even dare to say a word on the side, let alone to maintain his girlfriend.
Later, after eating, the future mother-in-law said directly to Xu Ya: If you want to marry my son, you have to be diligent and fast, you also know that it is a natural thing for a woman to do housework, and it is more reasonable to serve her in-laws, so I first went to wash the dishes. Although Xu Ya felt dissatisfied in his heart, out of courtesy, he also saw that Yang Hai's face did not have a seizure, but chose to obey.
The result was indeed as she expected, more than half a month later, Yang Hai found Xu Ya again, and when they met, they looked very happy, and said: Do you know? My mother finally agreed to be with us, at first she was particularly dissatisfied with you, she thought that your education was too low, not high, and let me break up with you as soon as possible, fortunately, I have been doing ideological work for her, and finally she reluctantly agreed to it, but she made a small request, that is, we should hand in our future salaries, she will help us keep it, so as not to spend money indiscriminately, I will help you agree to come down.
Xu Ya was immediately unhappy when he heard it, and directly asked: After spending money, will you still have to reach out to her for money, and there is no freedom to buy anything? Yang Hai listened but said indifferently: It's okay, you want to spend money, I can go and ask for it, now the most important thing is to be able to get married, but it took me a lot of effort to make my mother accept you.
Xu Ya said with a sneer: Then do I still have to thank you, marrying you, the quality of life has not only dropped sharply, but even spending money is not free, not to mention my own hard-earned money, why let your mother control. In the end, the two people refused to give in, Yang Hai's mother has said, do not pay the salary will not recognize this daughter-in-law, for the mother's strong Yang Hai has always chosen to obey, but as an independent woman in the new era Xu Ya naturally can not accept, there is also a gap between the two people, and in the end can only break up as an end.
When interacting, what is needed is tolerance and understanding, if it is too much to calculate, the estrangement will be buried deep in the heart, it is difficult to untie the knot, not to mention the economic power after marriage, I believe that most people are not willing to let the elders intervene in it, after all, money can only be at ease in their own hands, if the mother-in-law's personality is too strong, always want to occupy the position of the head of the family, point fingers at the matter between the two families, and feel that the son's hard-earned money can not be kept by the daughter-in-law, afraid that the son will suffer losses, Indirectly treating the daughter-in-law as an outsider, guarding everywhere, even without respect, and not knowing how to treat equally, it will naturally lead to discord between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and it will be difficult to get along harmoniously.