Love should be sincere, both men and women should be honest with each other, with the purpose of marriage. If you have any deficiencies, or any difficulties, etc., you must make it clear to the other party. If the other party can accept it, then talk about it; if the other party can't accept it, then break up early, and no one should delay anyone's youth.
Whose youth is precious, you are wasting the youth of others at the same time, but also wasting your own youth. You have to have confidence in yourself, no matter what kind of you are, there will always be people who like you, "don't worry about the road ahead and don't know yourself", so don't try to get love through deceptive means.
Now it is no longer the era of marrying chickens and dogs. If you cheat on the other person, it is married, and the other party can also file for divorce. Even if there is no divorce, because of your deception, the other party will have a knot in their heart, and your marriage will not be happy.
When in love, quietly play with your heart, go to pit each other for your own interests, and when the other party understands, your feelings will definitely be finished. Therefore, when it comes to love, we must be honest with each other, and we must touch each other with sincerity, and only if you are willing to do so, you will be happy.
In love for three years, the boyfriend did not mention marriage but wanted to have a child first
Huang Li and her boyfriend met online, and after the two talked online for more than half a year, they developed into offline. Huang Li's family is local, she is an only child, the family has good economic conditions, and her parents have formal jobs.
The boyfriend's home is out of town, there is an older sister and a younger brother in the family, the sister is married, and the younger brother is still studying. The boyfriend said that his parents were working in the factory, and the economic conditions at home were not very good, and asked Huang Li if he would mind?
Of course, Huang Li didn't mind, in her eyes love is the most important, she does not value money. In fact, the reason why Huang Li does not value money is because she has no worries about food and clothing since she was a child, and she has no idea what it is like to have no money, so it is emotional for her to drink water.
After Huang Li and her boyfriend were together, she unconsciously fell in love for three years. In the past three years, Huang Li has repeatedly proposed that she wants to get married, but her boyfriend always looks for reasons to drag. The boyfriend did not want to get married immediately, but he wanted to have a child first, so he always pestered Huang Li to live together.
Huang Li loves her boyfriend very much, but she is very traditional in her bones and does not want to live together before marriage. Her mother also repeatedly reminded Huang Li that living together before marriage is not good for girls, and if she is pregnant, the girl will be very passive, so Huang Li always sticks to the bottom line.
Now Huang Li and her boyfriend have been in love for three years, and her parents are constantly urging marriage, and Huang Li also wants to get married. But after she proposed it to her boyfriend, the boyfriend actually said, you don't want to live with me, but you want to marry me, I always have to try to get married!
Huang Li was very surprised, and did not expect that her boyfriend still had the idea of trying marriage. She also understands that trying to get married does have some benefits, but she still doesn't want to try it, she wants to be a real bride. Huang Li gave her boyfriend an ultimatum, either get married or break up!
The boyfriend had no choice but to agree to get married. Since the two are going to get married, it is necessary to discuss the marriage, and the boyfriend will take Huang Li back to his hometown to meet his parents. Before that, Huang Li had been to her boyfriend's hometown, twice in three years, but both left on the same day.
After arriving at the boyfriend's house, the boyfriend's parents were very enthusiastic and immediately greeted Huang Li for dinner. After eating, Huang Li wanted to behave better, so she took the initiative to wash the dishes. When Huang Li was washing dishes in the kitchen, her boyfriend and mother-in-law were talking in the room, and Huang Li thought that they must be discussing marriage.
When Huang Li washed the dishes and went to find her boyfriend, she unexpectedly heard her mother-in-law saying: "She is not pregnant, what is the marriage?" Do you know how much it costs to get married? Our family's economic conditions are not good, if she is pregnant, the dowry money can be waived, and the wedding can be simply done. ”
"Mom, but she doesn't want to live together before marriage, and I can't force her." The money I earned from part-time work has been called to you, how can the family have no money at all? The boyfriend said.
"You don't know chai mi gui, your father is always sick, every three to five to go to the hospital to see a doctor, this does not want money?" Your brother also needs money to go to school, so how can I get enough of my salary alone? You are also too incompetent, talk to her for three years, how come you haven't made her belly bigger..." the mother-in-law said angrily.
Huang Li was stunned, and she understood why her boyfriend repeatedly dragged on not marrying her, but wanted to have a child with her first, it turned out to be to save money, and the boyfriend's family wanted to marry a daughter-in-law without spending money.
Huang Li is very angry, she is sincere in her treatment of her boyfriend, but the boyfriend's family is calculating her. If the boyfriend's family frankly told her that the family's economic conditions were not good, so there was no money to do the marriage, she would not be counted. But her boyfriend's family cheated on her and calculated her, and she couldn't accept it.
Therefore, Huang Li did not greet her boyfriend, picked up the bag and left. Later, the boyfriend found out that he was chasing her later, and the two of them had a fight in the station. After the fight, Huang Li insisted on breaking up, and she felt that her boyfriend's family was not sincere enough.
When you are in love, you should go to your boyfriend's house to see more
When talking about love, many girls only care about talking about love, and do not care about other conditions. After marriage, the feelings slowly tend to flatten, and the needs of other conditions are highlighted, so the marriage has problems.
Living at home is all chai rice oil and salt, so the material conditions cannot be ignored. When a girl is in love, she must go to her boyfriend's house to see more in order to better understand her boyfriend and her boyfriend's original family.
The influence of the original family on a person is very large, and the girl should not feel that she is just marrying this man, but actually marrying the whole family of this man. What the in-laws are like has a direct impact on the future small family, so the girl should pay attention to the original family of the boyfriend.
Huang Li's boyfriend's home is in the field, and she does not understand the real situation of her boyfriend's home, nor does she understand the person of the mother-in-law, all because the number of times she goes to the mother-in-law's house is too small. Only when the girl goes to the mother-in-law's house more can she better understand the real situation and know whether she should marry into the in-laws' family.
For insincere love, it is better to break up
Huang Li decisively ended her relationship with her boyfriend, and the three-year relationship came to an end. In the golden years, three years of youth is very precious, if you know that this relationship will not bear fruit, it is still decisive to end, do not drag the mud and water. Because when the break is continuous, it is chaotic, and the feelings must also be quickly cut through the chaos!
Huang Li has proposed to get married many times, but her boyfriend has delayed, in fact, Huang Li should be alarmed. In fact, the boyfriend did not want to marry Huang Li, but because the family's economic conditions were too poor and there was no money to marry Huang Li, he planned to let Huang Li conceive a child first.
Fortunately, Huang Li is guarded like a jade, otherwise she is really pregnant, then she is in a passive position. In life, there are many girls who can't hold on for a while, and get pregnant before marriage. When discussing marriage, the girl can either accept the man's conditions or break up the child, which is not good for the girl.
Love must be sincere, for insincere love, or break up as well. If you find that your boyfriend's family is calculating yourself, the rational girl still chooses to break up as well, if she is emotional, she may be calculated more miserably after marriage.
Author: A creator in the field of emotions, focusing on various issues in the field of emotions, welcome to pay attention. Life has warmth because of love and love, let us grow in love, and spend every day in true feelings.