Many people are full of rejection of the role of "stepmother", which is not out of thin air, but with the indecent behavior of many stepmothers in history, the character's reputation has gradually become very poor.
The original deceased husband married another wife, which is more or less unfair to the second wife, but it cannot be used as a tool for revenge and catharsis, excluding his own deliberate marriage, if it is because he was forced to be the stepmother of the child, he should also find the problem from the source, rather than venting any negative emotions on the child.
In the Republic of China period, there was such a marriage, Wei Junyi, as a woman with very advanced thinking, could not control her marriage and love, and could only obey the arrangement because of family interests.
After becoming the stepmother of nine children, she was full of hostility and suspicion of everything in the family, because her behavior made many people gradually turn away from her, and eventually she died alone, this marriage, many victims, including her, but the biggest culprit is also her.
The original partner died, leaving behind nine children
Zhang Wuling is a knowledgeable person, he is a very famous educator in the Republic of China period, because the family and all aspects of the conditions are very good, deeply admired by many women.
It is said that marriage pays attention to the door to the door, his first wife is Lu Ying, who has a solid family, Lu Ying's family is in business, and in Yangzhou is a very wealthy family, these two people are naturally also the right door, so they are connected.
But at that time, the society was still relatively feudal, people's thinking was relatively backward, Lu Ying married to the Zhang family as a housewife, she was in charge of the family's economic expenditure, not only that in the sixteen years of marriage, she was pregnant fourteen times and gave birth to nine children.
Lu Ying's frequent births make her body very unbearable, so her health is also declining, weak she also has to take care of the whole family, the traditional family pays attention to "male outside the female lead", all rely on Lu Ying to take care of alone.
Tragedy then occurred, and after giving birth to her ninth child, she died of excessive blood loss. The young children suddenly had no mother, and Zhang Wuling had no wife, so the family asked him to marry another one.
Zhang Wuling met Wei Junyi's grandfather because of work reasons, and after learning of his wife's death, Wei Junyi's grandfather forced Wei Junyi to marry him, although the woman was also born in Shuxiang Mendi and had more advanced ideas, she still could not escape the fate of being arranged to get married.
Because of Zhang Wuling's social status and family, Wei Junyi's grandfather thought that this was the best candidate for his granddaughter to marry, and Wei Junyi married into the Zhang family.
Although the mind is advanced, marriage is not up to itself
Because Lu Ying left nine children, and the servants of the family still missEd Lu Ying very much, Wei Junyi became more and more irritable in this family.
Zhang Wuling is an empathetic person, knowing that Wei Junyi has become the second wife and has a lot of grievances, so he put away everything about Lu Ying in the family, arranged the home as if Lu Ying had never come, and let the nine children call her "mother".
Because Wei Junyi is an interested and elegant person, her Chinese painting and opera skills are very skilled, although Zhang Wuling is usually very busy, he will still take her to listen to the drama and watch the exhibition, and even in order to understand her not to let her do any housework, he turned a blind eye to what she did, but Wei Junyi not only did not appreciate it, but was even more crazy.
She was still very young when she married in, only seven years older than Lu Ying's eldest daughter Zhang Yuanhe, and for some reason, she was full of suspicions about these nine obedient children, feeling that they could hurt themselves at any time.
She was pregnant for a total of three pregnancies, the first two pregnancies for various reasons could not give birth to the child smoothly, the child died in the stomach, which made Wei Junyi very suspicious, she thought it must be their hands and feet, to the third pregnancy, she even ran to the mother's house to raise the fetus, a few months later the child was born smoothly, which deepened the idea in her heart.
She didn't want to be dominated by marriage, she didn't want to be a stepmother of nine children, so she vented all her dissatisfaction on these innocent children.
The behavior is extreme, and there is no place to die after death
Wei Junyi even punched the children, once on her birthday, in order to let Wei Junyi accept these nine children, Zhang Wuling let the children kneel down to give her a salute, which is a very normal and filial piety performance in the eyes of ordinary people, but Wei Junyi reached out to the children is a slap, she yelled loudly that these children are worshiping the dead?
It is not difficult for us to see that she has become a very extreme person, Zhang Wuling is certainly very distressed about the child in his heart, but for Wei Junyi, he still did not say anything, his approach may be to aid and abett, Wei Junyi later did more excessive things.
Because she was full of doubts about the children, when she saw that Zhang Yuanhe had a deep relationship with the staff of Leyi Girls' School, she directly dismissed the staff Ling Haixia, and after the eldest daughter was admitted to a university in Shanghai, she learned that Ling Haixia was also teaching in it and even proposed to let Zhang Yuanhe suspend school, on the grounds that the cost was too large.
When the sisters heard about this incident, they ran to the door of Leyi Girls' School to lead the students to strike en masse, and for the sake of their own face, Wei Jun had no choice but to give up, but she burned all the photos and letters about Lu Ying.
She has a son, but compared to her mother, the son seems to have a better relationship with his brothers and sisters, under their financial support, the younger son Zhang Ninghe went abroad to study and has been settled there, leaving Wei Junyi alone for the rest of his life, in 1999 the lonely Wei Junyi quietly died in the room, and her funeral was also fully controlled by her stepson Zhang Luo.
Because they did not know how to place Wei Junyi, the stepson asked Zhang Ninghe, who was far away, for advice, and finally they chose the method of water burial, and Wei Junyi completely passed away without a tombstone.
brief summary:
Looking back on her life, we can only secretly sigh that this marriage is very wrong, and the limitations of the times make them have to be together, which not only brings harm to her and Zhang Wuling, but also brings irrevocable harm to these ten children.
Ruining Lu Ying's bits and pieces, she did not know the pain of the nine children, and her own extreme thoughts also brought a bad childhood to her son. In the end, she spent the rest of her life alone, and did not bury her husband after her death, and the choice of her own son proved her unqualified mother, such an unfortunate woman, just a microcosm of many unfortunate women in that era.