Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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After experiencing betrayal, do you want to get revenge on the betrayer or want the betrayer to return?
In the face of betrayal, if the original is equipped with a dan position, which kind of person would you be?
It can be said that most of the original matches that have experienced betrayal in real life are at the bronze level!
In the face of the harm caused by the betrayer to himself, not only failed to reduce his pain, but assisted the betrayer and pushed his tower!
Yes, it is clear that the betrayer is the biggest person responsible for hurting himself, but he has become the betrayer's auxiliary. I don't know if I should laugh or cry!
In the face of betrayal, no matter what the original purpose is, remember the importance of "fire"! The right heat is the right thing to do!
In a marriage relationship, some people will uphold the attitude of "it should come and always come", allowing themselves to usher in their worst results in the wrong "stability".
Any kind of near-ideal result, you need to fight for it to get it. For the face of betrayal, whether the original match is bronze or king, the details are clear:
First: On whether to forgive the betrayer!
After experiencing betrayal, the negative emotions and self-denial of the original match are inevitable. However, time cannot stand still and cannot return to the old times.
If time stands still, you don't have to worry about the future. If you can go back to the old days, you can either not choose the betrayer or you can prevent it in the details of life.
Since everything inevitably happens, facing and taking responsibility is the best attitude.
The original match of the bronze level will only repeatedly ask whether to love or not to love, repeatedly unwilling, repeatedly use negative emotions to pray for the betrayer to return in excessively humble pandering, or use excessive accusations and insults to let the betrayer make his own choices.
Once the betrayer has committed a betrayal, it means that he does not care about the current relationship, does not pay attention to it, and does not love and is not responsible for the person in front of him. Humble pandering works, and all the betrayers in the world are willing to turn back.
In addition, since the betrayer will betray you, it means that he will not worry about being blamed and insulted, and the more you do this, the more he will feel that his betrayal is justified because you are "not good enough". So, the choice of ta will definitely disappoint you.
The original match of the king level, when deciding not to forgive, will definitely not drag the mud and water, and will directly break the marriage relationship. Once you choose to forgive, you will pay attention to the tone and expression of the betrayer, heart-to-heart communication before you forgive.
Forgiveness or not, for the original match of the king level, is only a multiple choice question. However, when choosing to forgive, you will set a bottom line for yourself, and convey such forgiveness only once. And make forgiveness valuable and meaningful!
Second: about the trade-offs, the marriage relationship to stay!
In the first point, I emphasized the question of forgiveness or not. It also gives the distinguishing behavior that Bronze and the King should make to forgive this matter. So, what does the root cause of choosing to forgive or not depend on?
Many people who have experienced betrayal do not know whether they should forgive or let go when they face the betrayer. Therefore, the decision made is very blind.
Some original partners, thinking that they are still in love, are actually unwilling and aggrieved. As a result, most of the redemption is a self-deceptive act of ignorance.
In fact, choosing to forgive or not is to pave the way for the marriage relationship to stay.
The original match of the bronze level will only blindly redeem "love" under the influence of emotions. The original match of the king level is just the opposite.
The original match of the king level will have negative emotions when facing the betrayer, but it does not mean that their brain circuits are broken.
The reason why it is called the original match of the king is because they will weigh the pros and cons as the basis on the issue of staying in the marriage relationship. Instead of being entangled in love and not falling in love.
Under the premise that they can be spiritually and economically independent, the original match of the king level will simply give up the marriage relationship after maximizing their own interests at the most appropriate time.
When one of the two spiritual or economic cannot be independent, the original match of the king level will use the most appropriate way to procrastinate the marriage relationship. During this period, increase your efforts to strengthen yourself, and when the time is ripe, throw your sleeves away.
As for the betrayer, who can look down on a garbage man when he is strong enough?
Third: On how to live the rest of your life!
The marriage relationship runs through the second half of a person's life, and the right person is passionate every day, and choosing the wrong person is a nightmare that cannot wake up for the rest of his life.
In particular, after experiencing the betrayal, it is likely that a person will walk like a shell for the rest of his life.
No matter what bad past we have experienced, it cannot determine our future.
A person, no matter what, can not give up hard work and ability! Otherwise, even if the bad is behind the luck, it is difficult to grasp.
After experiencing betrayal, the original match of the bronze level will only be Xianglin sister-in-law in the self-denial and entanglement that cannot be released day after day. Not only are you tired of yourself, but others are also bored by the repetition of many negative old things.
Over time, it is clear that he has suffered betrayal and is a victim, but he has become a terrible figure that everyone respects.
Everyone is willing to listen to some news that helps their happiness factors. When your story can't bring happy perceptions to others, and it is no longer a fresh joke after tea and dinner in other people, do you say that anyone still listens to your experience?
The original match of the king level will allow himself to be sad and have negative emotions because of the betrayal. However, they are absolutely not allowed to do self-consuming things.
The original match of the king level knows that he has suffered betrayal because of his negligence in running himself, so he will double down on knowing how to live well in the present and add full horsepower to the rest of his life.
As for experiencing betrayal, it is nothing more than an experience that can no longer change the outcome, and too much entanglement is the useless work of mediocrity.
Everything needs to have a degree, and the same is true for feelings and marital relationships. In the face of the marital relationship that has experienced betrayal, we must not be bronze, but be the king.
Otherwise, if you are a bronze yourself, it is difficult to be happy with anyone you really are with.
In the world, not everyone can accommodate your bronze level. In the world, all those who can protect themselves or can make up for the dead are kings.
The king will act with strength, will move forward with his own strength, and will infinitely enhance himself.
The king will not worry about the experience, but will only learn lessons and experiences from the experience, paving the way for the rest of his life.
Bronze is not afraid and can be upgraded! King, keep your position!
Betrayal, just an experience! I only wish you the rest of your life:
Always the King!
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Love is man's purgatory in the world. Love or friendship, the right time meets the right person to cultivate the right results!
Topic Discussion: What do you think are the characteristics of the king who can live out of me after experiencing betrayal? Leave your unspoken words below.