Most middle-aged women like to live in a circle of their own settings, and they always want to pursue happiness, but it is difficult to find the happiness they want, and the reason behind this is because these women are affected by the stereotype effect.
The fixation effect refers to people's perception of things, limited to existing information and thinking patterns, and some middle-aged women's sexuality is due to her long-term solidification in a specific family environment, causing her to think that she has no more choices and rises to space.
There are many women around us who give up their careers for family reasons and are at ease to be housewives, but after entering middle age, there will be two completely different situations.
Some women live happily, without anxiety and stress, harmonious marriages, harmonious family relationships, and a high sense of self-worth, but some women are not so optimistic.
Case Study:
There is a reader who is forty-five years old this year, but she is very anxious to live, life is a mess by her, her husband always does not come home, some people say that he has a third party, the children are going to school in the field, she is responsible for supporting four old people, although he pays her regularly every month, but she is always unhappy.
Open the circle of friends, watching the friends around her go out to travel, her heart is inexplicably sad, she once wanted to emulate one of her good girlfriends, bravely divorce, to find the life she wants, but she decided that she did not have the courage, left her husband, she felt that she had lost her financial resources.
It is precisely because some middle-aged women have lived in a limited family environment for a long time that she has become accustomed to this model, and even always puts the dominance of life in the hands of others.
To know that the only thing that really limits us is ourselves, jump out of the current dilemma, and start over with a different kind of thinking, just like the reader just now, if she can firmly choose the life she wants, instead of continuing to struggle and tangle in the current environment, then she will definitely have a different life.
After middle age, we found that women who learned the "Matthew effect" were very smart.
What is the Matthew Effect?
The Matthew effect believes that "any individual, group and region, once in a certain aspect, such as money, reputation, status, etc. to achieve success and progress, will produce a cumulative advantage, there will be more opportunities for greater success and progress, the so-called stronger the stronger, the weaker the weak." So, what exactly should we women do?
Stick to your hobbies and stay young forever
Women of all ages should maintain hobbies, especially middle-aged women, there are always people who say that there is no time and no energy, but in the long run you will become more and more depressed, and even lose the joy of life.
We have found that if a woman is able to stick to her hobbies for a long time, on the one hand, it can help her to distract some of the stress in her life, and on the other hand, she will also get a spiritual pleasure.
Whether it is traveling, reading or dancing, some middle-aged women have undergone qualitative changes because they have insisted on their hobbies for a long time.
On some big stages such as dramas, there are often active shadows of middle-aged women, who are not professionals, but with their love and liking, they have made higher breakthroughs.
In fact, this is the impact of the Matthew effect, such a woman, she is very optimistic and cheerful, will not be disturbed by those boring family chores in middle age, they love life, more love themselves.
Stick to your career and feel satisfied
In the past, women could hold up half the sky, and now women can fully act as the pillar of the whole family.
Katalin Novak, 44, Hungary's first female president, has three children and has been proving with practical actions that women can do well in their families and careers.
Marriage and family may consume a lot of a woman's time and energy, but the key to really determining a woman's life is what you want.
Career should be the goal that women should pursue at all times, because the economy is always the source of support for women's lives, hobbies, and independence.
Men's "I raise you for a lifetime" words may be a little too impractical at the moment, because the premise is that you have to find a good man who will always be good to you, otherwise everything you pay now is the simplest thing in his opinion, which is why some middle-aged men, he never thinks that his wife cooks hard, but feels that it is a matter of course.
Only by insisting on their own careers, women will have a sense of satisfaction and gain, which is completely different from the feelings that the family brings to middle-aged women.
At the same time, when unfortunate encounters occur in marriage, women who can truly maintain financial independence have more initiative to choose whether to divorce, who owns the children, and future life problems.
In all walks of life, more and more women are seen by their own strength and excellence, such women are worthy of anyone's learning and love, and women who become stronger in their careers will be very gentle in the family.
Smart middle-aged women do not forget to improve themselves at all times, and it is this that makes them needed and loved by more people.
References: Psychology of Love, Psychology of Marriage