Love is a romantic and serious thing, the relationship between men and women is delicate and complex, a man's love for women determines the ultimate direction and destination of love, so women should polish their eyes. Actually you know what? After "intimacy", it is easy to judge whether a man is flirting with you or loving you.
If it is imminent, it indicates the man's wavering
After "intimacy" with men, most women will become extra sensitive, and what kind of attitude men have, women know best.
Some female readers will complain that if the love object is divorced from themselves, they will often lose contact inexplicably, but he does not take the initiative to break up, and at some point he will suddenly appear, showing a considerate look.
Women's feelings in this relationship are more like ice and fire, sometimes hurt by cold attitudes, sometimes surrounded by fiery love.
This emotional experience of the dual heavens of ice and fire makes women want to break free and reluctantly.
A woman should be clear about one thing, the reason why he will be so close to you, it shows that he has not put more time and energy into you at all, but also shows that he is wavering in the relationship.
He can't give you unwavering love, then obviously your status in his heart at the moment is not high, maybe you are just a dispensable substitute for him, but he has not yet found a person who can replace you, so such emotions are not worth your nostalgia.
Contrasting attitudes, suggesting that men's hearts are not the same
When pursuing you, he always seems to be enthusiastic like fire, romantic confessions, touching promises, warm embraces, at that moment, you will mistakenly think that you have found the best man in the world, so you begin to sketch and fantasize about your own love fairy tale.
When the woman begins to step into the sweet love drawn by the man little by little, the man gives you a blow in the head, and after the "intimacy", he will immediately change into another face.
He didn't remember the promise he had, so he was picky about you, and even always blamed you, and once you did something that deviated from what he thought, then he would immediately lose his temper with you.
The reason why a man has such a big attitude contrast is because he is a person with different hearts in the beginning, and after the freshness, he begins to feel bored with you.
Psychologist Ponler believes that before a man actually gets the woman, his interest in women is the strongest, and women tend to dominate at this time.
However, once a woman and a man are "intimate", psychologically and physically, women will become dependent on men, good men will take the initiative to take responsibility, and bad men's interest will always be in a state of decline.
Be careful, you really love you
Chernyshevsky said, "What does it mean to love someone?" It means being happy for his happiness, doing everything that needs to be done to make him happier, and getting joy out of it. ”
After "intimacy", you seem to feel that his love is more mature and intense, and such a man really wants to be with you.
He will take the initiative to plan the future with you, he will work hard and want to give you a better life, he will love you carefully and always want to give you the best.
He will never skimp on his love, nor will he hurt you easily, and if he does not see you for a few days, he will fly to your city.
You don't want to get married, when you run for a career, he will silently accompany you and wait for you, if you want to get married, he will definitely give you a romantic wedding and give you a happy home.
No matter how busy he is, he will also take the time to accompany you, call you in his spare time, maybe he will have emotions, but he rarely vents to you, in most cases, in front of you, the fragile he is more like a child.
Smart women are always alive with a little sanity
After "intimacy", the woman should observe the man's attitude, if he can't give you the best love, or becomes wavering, then decisively give up the relationship and stop the loss in time.
There are always some women who think they can change the current man, who think that as long as they are doubly good to him, he can love himself so much, obviously from a realistic point of view, this is just a woman's wishful thinking.
Sacrificing yourself excessively in exchange for a man's temporary love for you is irrational behavior, and once your value is exhausted, you are like dust in front of him.
Marx wrote in "To Yanni": "It seems to me that true love is manifested in the attitude of the lover to his idols implicitly, modestly and even shyly, and by no means in the casual enthusiasm and premature intimacy. ”
From the man's attitude towards "intimate" behavior, it can be seen whether the man has a sense of responsibility, and it is very simple to love a person, but after years of baptism and stumbling, it is still a minority that still has the same original intention.
If a man truly loves you, he will respect your choices, so he will not be intimate with you too early, and similarly, after the "intimacy", the man who treats you better is worthy of the woman's lifelong trust.
The man a woman chooses should be her own safe haven, he will be infinitely tolerant of you, but also able to give you some serious advice, because only if he loves you, will he be willing to face reality with you, so that you can both enjoy love and be yourself, not just some empty promises.
References: Psychology of Love, Psychology of Marriage