This year, the 50-year-old brother Li and his wife Xie dajie have been married for 28 years, both of their hometowns are anhui, but a year ago, the family came to Ningbo Yuyao to work, but what Xie dajie did not expect was that she lived well in her hometown, but when she came here, her husband was like a changed person, always turning his face and not recognizing people, and always dumping her face.
As soon as she saw the mediator, Sister Xie cried out of breath and couldn't speak at all, and Brother Li on the side said that his ears were a little bad, and his voice should be louder to hear.
He said that he had been married to his wife for 28 years, and his feelings had always been very good, because when he was young, he was not angry, he had eaten a lawsuit for 4 years, and his wife waited for him for 4 years alone with their 3-year-old son, so he was very moved.
After returning home, Brother Li also swore that no matter what big things and small things there were in the family, he would rely on his wife in the future, and he had never changed over the years, in short, he was obedient to his wife, recalling the past, Brother Li suddenly burst into tears and lost control of his emotions.
At this time, Sister Xie took over her husband's words and said that her temper was not good, her husband was very obedient, let him do whatever he wanted, but the dissatisfaction with her husband began after coming to Yuyao, and she was always angry after coming to Yuyao to work in the first month of the Spring Festival this year, and these months were sadder than decades at home.
As for what really happened, Sister Xie was reluctant to say more, and she wanted her husband to tell herself what the problem was.
Since his wife threw out the problem, Brother Li also gave an explanation, it turned out that a year ago, Brother Li's nephew opened a lighting factory in Yuyao, so he called his uncle Brother Li's family to come to work, and at the same time, the nephew also arranged a small leadership position for Uncle Li Big Brother and managed 20 people.
In Brother Li's view, his wife used to say anything at home, but now that she has become a small leader and managed some people, then her wife can no longer be like she was at home before, as a man, he also needs a little face, otherwise the people under his hands will not obey the management, which is very difficult to do.
Before the words were finished, Sister Xie refuted her husband's words, she said that her husband had no conscience when he spoke, he was not angry in the factory at all, but the husband shrugged his face when he came back from work all day, he did not pay attention to him, he would only lie there and sleep, in the factory my husband said that I was, I was also silent, when I got home, I sometimes wanted to say something about him, but he ignored him, even if I did not eat for three days, five days and six days, he did not care.
Before at home he coaxed me, here are I coax him, my temper is like suppressing a lot, but also endured a lot, I am uncomfortable, and the husband also told the niece and daughter-in-law to see me is enough, see me annoyed, in short, the husband's attitude towards me is changed, with a change of person, in the factory I have a problem will not ask him, he will throw his face to let me get it himself, when others will not do how to ask him how to get it, he will smile and run to help others get it, this attitude I must not be able to stand it.
In this regard, Brother Li hastily explained that he is also bitter, there are many things to be managed in the factory, the quality should also be controlled, and the customer who sent it out reacts to the product is not good, then he is also responsible, when he encounters this kind of thing, then he is definitely unhappy in his heart, and his face is naturally not good-looking.
The current management is not the same as the management of one or two decades ago, in any case, and to improve the efficiency of the product, but also to manage the personnel well, the pressure in the heart is very large, at that time with the people is a smiley face, but when you go home with others, there is a breath in your heart, this time you will pull the face down.
Brother Li means that people now are not as easy to manage as before, can not lose their temper in front of the employees, the attitude is better, otherwise people will not do it, after returning home, he dares to emit the anger in his heart, and in the past four or five days, in addition to a contradiction with his wife, there are three things that make him unhappy, holding his breath in his heart, on the surface it is not very good-looking, in fact, the face is not good-looking and not directed at his wife.
Listening, Sister Xie also admitted that her husband was under a lot of pressure, because he had to manage a lot of things in the factory, and even the salaries of employees had to be liquidated, but Sister Xie hoped that if her husband could not manage it, he would not care so much, and he could come back early from work to cook, because she could not cook, what she did was not delicious, and every day was the meal cooked by her daughter-in-law.
Sister Xie said that the daughter-in-law is a teacher in a nearby kindergarten, and when she comes back from work, she has to bring two grandchildren, the eldest is 7 years old and the younger is 4 years old, and she and her husband and son are working in the nephew's factory, buying food in the morning, eating in the factory at noon, only eating at home at night, here the daughter-in-law came back from work to make a meal, the dish was cold, and the husband dared to turn his face and get angry.
Speaking of this, Sister Xie is very angry, she questioned her husband, no matter what dishes are cooked and how they are made in their hometown, you will not be angry when they are salty, and when you come here, you will talk about why you are angry.
In the face of his wife's accusations again, Brother Li said that he was also very aggrieved, it turned out that the nephew's factory had only recently opened, many things were not perfect, as an uncle and a small leader, Brother Li was very attentive, and there was no fixed time for work every day, and the employees left work at 5 p.m. every day, Brother Li's son was engaged in molds in the factory, and there was no fixed time for work, under normal circumstances, it was seven or eight o'clock in the evening to go home.
In the view of Brother Li, eating badly in the morning, are to buy a few buns to pad the stomach, at noon in the factory to eat is also a large pot of rice, either fried a pot of vegetables with a few steamed buns, or is the next bit of noodles, then go home at night to eat, life must be improved.
The wife should go home to help the daughter-in-law after work at five o'clock in the afternoon, busy for more than an hour, so that he and his son can eat hot meals after work, but the wife does not go home every time she leaves work, she has to wait for him to come back, that day also happened 4 unpleasant things in the day, plus there are only two dishes to come back to eat, one is cabbage, and it is still cold, so Brother Li can no longer bear to be angry.
But Brother Li also said, so far, he only complained to his wife this time, and has not mentioned it since then, anyway, 5 days out of 10 days at home is to eat cabbage, cabbage, on these two dishes back and forth, without change, and so many years he also handed over the salary to his wife, there is no money on him.
At this time, the mediator also asked Sister Xie why she didn't come back early after work to help the family, why did you have to wait for her husband to leave work, are you not at ease with your husband? Sister Xie said that she was not uneasy about her husband, and did not come back to cook because she could not cook.
Can't cook can help bring the next grandson, you can let the daughter-in-law free up to cook, otherwise the daughter-in-law has to go to work, and you have to take two children, but also cook, people are tired, this is not people to do cabbage and cabbage is estimated to be simple to deal with it.
Who once thought that Sister Xie also said that she had a big temper and liked to argue with children, so she did not bring grandchildren. Before the mediator finished speaking, Sister Xie quickly shifted the topic to worry about her husband's body, she said that her husband got up at three or five o'clock every morning, but there was no one in the factory at night, his brother and nephew were also off work, but the husband still had to do it there, he kept doing it, that is, he did not leave work, he was not in good health, and there were stomach diseases, and it cost fifty or sixty to buy a box of medicine.
She also said to her nephew, your uncle's health is not good, don't let him manage so much, you can recruit another person to manage, every day your uncle comes back from work very late, there are contradictions in the family, but the nephew just does not listen, and said that there is no need to recruit people to manage, which makes Sister Xie very angry.
At this time, Brother Li hurriedly called for his nephew, he said that he was not tired at all when he went to work, he was tired, he was tired, and his nephew also told him that he would not let him work, and no one in the factory did it, he volunteered to do it, and the workload a day was only five or six hours.
In order to find out the situation, the mediator dialed the phone of Brother Li's nephew, who said that he was very appreciative of his uncle's efforts, very diligent, and very reliable, and his aunt was ok, and he had no opinion on his uncle and aunt.
As for the contradiction in the uncle's family, he also understands a little, that is, the uncle is very responsible, may also be new to management, a lot of things are not smooth, the heart is a little stressful, but this may only be a one-sided problem, on the other hand, the uncle and aunt communication may also have a little problem, and finally the nephew also said, privately will advise the uncle, do not leave work too late, and make a good relationship with the family.
After hanging up the phone, Brother Li also said that he always shrugged his face and there was another reason, that is, for so many years he listened to his wife, but his wife was not all right, there were also wrong times, even so, he did not say anything, his wife scolded him, but he did not scold his wife, he could not beat, he could not scold, how to spread the anger in his heart, he could only suffocate in his heart and show it on his face.
It is not difficult to see that Brother Li did suppress a lot for the sake of a promise at the beginning, and the mediator also persuaded Brother Li to say everything, the wife is wrong, then it must be pointed out, you have become so spoiled, then what else to say, but Sister Xie does have to give her husband a little face, all as a small leader, he also wants face now, can not always blame him.
Before the words landed, Sister Xie put her husband in an army, she said that when she was busy in the factory, she called her husband to come and help, her husband only made two for her and ran, people shouted, he ran over to help others do dozens, and all women called him, he was also very happy.
This remark almost did not let Brother Li catch his breath, where is this, in the view of Brother Li, the nephew has been doing management for 15 years, and the management in the old factory is also very good, the experience is very rich, the nephew also said a word to him, first of all, the management belly should be large, and the second is to learn to buy people's hearts.
For example, there are 5 employees under the hand, then at least one of them must be with their own confidant, can help themselves to carry things, and some of the work can not go on, someone can help you to bear this part, if none of the 5 employees have a good feeling for you, then your management will definitely not go on.
However, Brother Li also expressed his attitude, he has nothing to complain about, if he is wrong, as long as his wife brings it up, he will change it, anyway, he will still rely on his wife as always in the future.
The mediator persuaded Brother Li to learn to communicate, do not hold all things in his heart, and the mediator also put forward his own suggestions to Sister Xie, the heart should be tied back by himself, not by management, to understand her husband's work, tired and do not want to do, you can also support your husband to change a job, change your mood.
And the daughter-in-law's side also has to help a little, people also have complaints, as the child's grandmother, change the temper, people say that the next generation of relatives, you take the grandson also want to have a big temper do not want to bring, the child is also thoughtful, who is good to them, who is in charge of them, they all know.
After some persuasion, Brother Li and Sister Xie gladly accepted, in fact, the relationship between the two was not too much of a problem, and in the end they were reconciled.
I have to say that Brother Li's personality is still very good, a promise, can stick to so many years not to be angry with his wife, rely on his wife, this is really rare and valuable, at the same time as a small leader, but also to the nephew's factory dedication, no complaints, this is also worth our learning point.
It's just that we do have to learn to communicate, to say the words in our hearts, blindly tolerate, blindly accept, accumulate more grievances, sooner or later one day will erupt, this time things will be big, unless you have the ability to endure for a lifetime, do not complain, obviously, this is not ordinary people can do.
In fact, Sister Xie is also used to her husband's resignation, when the husband is a little bit rebellious, she can't stand it, for Sister Xie, she is really happy, the family is embracing her, do not cook, do not bring children, on this also have to find things, this is also no one.
As a wife, you must also learn to understand the difficulty of the husband, understand the difficulty of the son and daughter-in-law, are all family, and live together, when you have time, you will take the handle to help, so that everyone is in a good mood, the face will not be shrugged, will not be a big temper is not an excuse, as long as you want to do it, there is no thing that will not be done, do not take the good of others to you as a matter of course.
In the end, maybe the two families working together really do more harm than good, do you think?