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1, emotions, in the final analysis, lie in themselves, and have nothing to do with others
It seems to me that people are angry because we have a lot of "shoulds" and "standards" in our minds.
When others do and say things that don't meet our standards, and their own needs and interests are not met, we get angry.
When you feel that others are deliberately making you angry, you are actually thinking too much.
He just does things according to his own needs and understanding.
So emotions, in the final analysis, lie with ourselves and have nothing to do with others.
2, the implementation failure, the root cause is in their own
Most of the time, people's execution failures are not really due to external obstruction.
Because of the destruction and troublemaking of others, there is no one who has defeated, and the root cause is still in themselves.
It is the self who is defeated by doubt, fear and inferiority in the heart;
It is I who let the failure appear at the moment of complete abandonment.
A good wish, a good path, will also be ruined by the lack of execution, and it will become difficult because of abandonment, and even more and more difficult.
The fulfillment of wishes looks like a correct one connected to a correct, a victory connected to a victory;
But from the process point of view, it will be a pressure connected to a pressure, a problem connected to a problem;
But that's often the way to go.
3. The influence of subconscious repression on us
The depression in life is far beyond our imagination.
And our psychology often follows the principle of "pursuing happiness", only remembering what we like, and "forgetting" those who are unwilling to face.
As a result, over time, our thoughts and actions become an iceberg, and on top of it is the self we like and have become accustomed to.
Beneath the iceberg, there is the sensitive, anxious, careful self.
In fact, the damage to the heart happens from time to time.
In life, people will try to maintain psychological balance, let the restless elements of the subconscious mind be hidden, and let life continue to maintain sunshine and happiness.
But inadvertently, this defense mechanism will relax, and these hidden contents will unconsciously manifest themselves, causing us to behave abnormally.
For example, saying the wrong thing and doing the wrong thing in daily life, emotional abnormalities, absent-mindedness, some strange dreams, unexpected behavior, etc., are often the result of the subconscious mind playing a role.
When it is serious, it may also lead to psychological discomfort, which has a great impact on our lives.
——Excerpt from "The Subconscious"
4. Recognize children's multiple intelligences
An important task for parents is to establish a scientific education concept, understand the multiple intelligences of children, and open the best intelligence zone for children.
Every child is condensed with the hope of their parents, and every parent sincerely hopes that their children will become talents.
However, despite a good starting point, many parents are "off" the course of their efforts.
One of the most typical is that parents always impose what they think is the best set of methods on their children.
Some parents spend a lot of money to let their children learn piano and practice painting, but many children are often not interested, and even have bored emotions, which is because parents have "biased" the direction of their children's training and have not found the best intelligent area for children.
ZhouZhou has conducted many major musical performances, but his IQ is only thirty percent of ordinary people, which is known in the medical community as an irreversible innate stupidity.
In the face of such a child, all the hopes given to the child by parents are shattered.
But once Zhouzhou's father found that whenever the music sounded, Zhouzhou behaved particularly quietly.
The musicians asked Zhouzhou if he wanted to conduct the performance, and Zhouzhou blurted out: "Think." ”
Silently, he walked up to the podium and picked up the baton.
In the sound of music, Zhouzhou is a normal conductor.
Since then, his musical talent has continued to emerge, and although his IQ is only equivalent to that of a three-year-old child, his understanding of music is difficult for ordinary people to achieve.
It can be seen that although Zhouzhou has a low IQ, he has still achieved impressive results because he found and opened his best intelligence zone.
It is not uncommon for children to be completely denied because of a certain aspect of intelligence, and other intelligences are completely denied.
This traditional understanding makes education one-sided and hinders the healthy growth of children.
Therefore, parents should establish a scientific concept of education and use scientific educational theories to measure their children.
5, the technology is not pressed, not much benefit to the growth of children
When children focus on a certain subject, they will change from passive learning to active learning, and their enthusiasm for learning will be high, and the research on this subject will be more in-depth, and they can often achieve good results.
Like Wan Lievenhoek, he focused on doing one thing in his ordinary post, with his own interests and hobbies, and finally achieved brilliant achievements in this matter.
Many parents adhere to the traditional concept of "technology is not pressurized" and let their children get involved in multiple fields, but in fact, this is not much good for their children's growth.
Because the child is shallow in every field, before he can become interested in this matter, his attention is diverted to another aspect.
If the child is not interested in every field, he will not succeed in these areas.
On the contrary, if the child is focused or even obsessed with a certain area of interest to him, he will study in depth in this field and enjoy it.