Zhang Xiaoxian said: "Time can understand love, can prove love, and can also overthrow love." "Good love must be based on mutual attraction, and the longer the time, the more good love can be experienced."
Men are visual creatures, and this is true, compared to women's character, men will definitely leave the first feeling to women's looks.
But beautiful women may not be able to retain men's hearts, the attraction between the sexes should be multi-layered, absolutely not just rely on women's looks, otherwise it is not called love, and men are more and more "can't quit", and it is never a beautiful looking woman.
Ability to satisfy the subconscious of men
The subconscious mind refers to the deeper layers of human psychological structure, the primitive desires of emotions, words or instincts that are suppressed by us, and usually there are many places in the subconscious of the individual part that conflict with reality and social civilization.
But the subconscious mind will always unconsciously enter the level of individual consciousness, perceived by us, and thus affect our lives, and at the same time create conflicts.
Compared with women, men are more accustomed to suppressing their subconscious, and women who can meet men's subconscious needs will inevitably make men unable to quit, because every man longs to be perceived.
In the entertainment industry, people often ask why Liang Chaowei did not choose Maggie Cheung instead of Liu Jialing, because in the eyes of the outside world, it seems that Maggie Cheung and Liang Chaowei are more compatible.
However, to this day, the relationship between Liang Chaowei and Liu Jialing seems to give us the best answer, Liang Chaowei is quiet and literary, he is not good at taking care of things in life, and Liu Jialing keeps his life in order.
Every time Liang Chaowei came on stage to present the award, he always looked at his wife Liu Jialing from time to time, as he said, as long as Liu Jialing was around, he felt that he had a sense of security.
If he gave her love and romance, then Liu Jialing was more like his spiritual pillar, accompanying her and protecting him.
In front of outsiders, Liang Chaowei is a personable, elegant prince, and in Liu Jialing's view, he is more like a child who enjoys in his own world, he longs to be loved, and Liu Jialing just plays this role, allowing him to enjoy his world quietly.
In fact, when a woman is able to meet a man's subconscious needs, men become dependent on women on a spiritual level.
A partner in life
Any relationship needs a medium connection, love relationship is no exception, if hobbies, interests, likes are the premise of mutual love, then real life is more like a shackle that binds the two together.
What a woman wants to do is a partner in a man's life, not just a vase, especially in the later stages of the emotional relationship between two people, when the passion fades, everything has to be implemented into reality.
Sanmao once said: "If love does not fall on the scattered little things such as washing, cooking, counting money, and taking children, it is not easy to last." ”
I've met many female readers who, from before they get married, are inspired to find a man who can spoil themselves all the time, and there's nothing wrong with that, after all, any woman has a dream of a princess.
However, women should also be clear that no one will love you for no reason but your parents.
There are often some middle-aged female readers who talk about their marital status, and there are many women who are once famous local rich wives, they know how to maintain, and they are very beautiful and temperamental, but these are simply within reach of rich men.
They are not playing women behind men, but women who are accustomed to clinging to men and are unwilling to face reality.
There are many people who have entered the ranks of middle-aged women, but they do not even have the ability to rely on themselves, so such women have nothing to say to men in later marriage relationships.
It is precisely because of this long-term difference in thinking and cognition that it is difficult for women to understand men, let alone implement them in reality.
Only when a woman can rely on herself to get what she wants, then she has the ability to give love to others and help each other solve problems.
The women who men believe they want to hold hands for a lifetime are because there is indeed an irreplaceable place in them.
Compared with beauty, what women need is an ability, and this ability is gradually formed in the later stage of the individual, including the ability to love people, the ability to face setbacks, and the ability to live.
Zhu Yaoxie said: "True love between men and women cannot be achieved by the body or spirit, but can only be achieved by the state of mutual integration of each other's spirit and body." ”
The relationship between men and women is delicate, and in this process, after women can get self-growth and recognize the essence of love, men will love you more.
Women's appearance will eventually grow old with the passage of time, look beautiful, far less beautiful than living beautifully, the reason why men can not quit a woman, must be because this woman has been deeply rooted in men's hearts, has become a spiritual pillar that men cannot give up.
References: Psychology of Love, Subconscious