Once a woman falls in love, it is easy to become a weak person between the sexes, because compared to men, women are more likely to be overwhelmed by love and more likely to be swayed by emotions.
Therefore, many times women seem to be more likely to be in a passive position in love, while most women want the best, most complete love for a man.
But the reality is diametrically opposed to what they imagined, so they are in pain and try their best to get each other's love.
However, we must understand a truth, whether it is too humble or too tired in love, you will not get too good love, because a man really loves you and does not need a woman to be too tired.
So what should a woman do if she wants to eat a man, psychologists believe that the best way is to use the Zeignick effect.
What is the Zeignick effect refers to a memory effect, which refers to the fact that people are more impressed by what has not yet been processed than what has already been processed.
In 1927, the German psychologist Zeignick did such an experiment, giving 32 subjects 22 different tasks, allowing half of the work to be completed, and half of them to block it halfway, but the final results showed that the former had a higher repetition rate of their own working memory than the subjects who had already completed the work.
In fact, people tend to be more interested and motivated for things that aren't done.
The premise of a woman wanting to eat a man is to be the "motivation" of the other party, and the Zeignick effect is exactly what tells us this truth.
What is a "motivation"? What is a man's motivation in love?
Motivation is the internal psychological dynamic that causes and sustains the activity of the individual and orients the activity towards a certain goal, the motivation and the needs of people are closely related, the need is the basis and root of the motivation, and the motivation is the direct cause of the promotion of human activities.
Men's motivation in love is mostly very simple, out of the original desire of men themselves, in the process of love, men want to conquer the woman in front of them to meet their own needs to love and be loved.
Women should know how to leave blanks when they speak
The communication between men and women is artistic, the more intelligent women, the more they will not speak too bluntly, one is the lack of implicit beauty, and the other is that women can't help but be in a passive position.
1. Listen to each other
Women have to know how to listen to each other, and psychologists believe that when two people talk, we tend to focus more on the issues we care about.
When men feel that women are interested in their words, they will have a psychological projection of women psychologically.
Psychologist Freud thought that only when the other person thinks you are interested in him, he will have a good feeling for you, so he let down his psychological defenses against you.
2. Don't always talk about it
The most taboo thing for women to talk about when communicating with men is to talk about it, and usually the more things you express, the less things are left for men to fantasize about.
A woman sitting in front of a man, for the vast majority of men, he is more inclined to guess what kind of woman you are, and he will be particularly curious about you.
When you tell the other party everything about yourself, it will undoubtedly break his curiosity, then his interest in you will be reduced.
If he is curious about you, constantly asking about your past, curious about what has happened to you before, you can express it appropriately, but you must be reserved.
Maintain appropriate distance
Usually motivation reflects a person's subjective inner psychological state, while a man's motivation in love will constantly change with the change of time and environment.
So a lot of women find that once the relationship between the two of you is determined, the man's patience with you will become lower, and even he begins to crave more and more time and space of his own, and some men, he will even choose to empathize.
So no matter what stage of the relationship between the two of you is in, women must know how to keep a moderate distance from each other.
This distance is not for the woman to deliberately alienate the man, but to give him a certain degree of satisfaction after understanding his needs, but this satisfaction must be moderate.
We found that when this man gets this woman completely, it means that his goal in love has been achieved, then at this moment, his motivation will decline, so many people will have a sense of boredom and even frustration in the end.
The Zeignick effect illustrates this truth, when an individual achieves a relationship or is satisfied, the subconscious sense of motivation decreases.
If a woman can love herself a little more when she loves a man, instead of being overwhelmed by love, giving away one brain, and satisfying men indefinitely, then she will eat this man instead.
It is not easy to do this, which requires women to listen to their inner needs in advance when meeting men, and when you focus on self-needs, men have a stronger sense of motivation for you.
References: Psychology of Love, Subconscious