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Every New Year's Festival, all kinds of marriages are urged, and unconsciously the legendary Tanabata is coming again, and the tension of marriage is about to intensify.
On the one hand, young people seem to be increasingly reluctant to get married.
But on the other hand, a professional red bride gambled on her professional dignity and assured us that the main players in the blind date market were born in 1990-1995, and through the traction of the red bride, the success rate will increase.
Although the post-90s generation looks like a personality, the cold reality they face and the value choices of most people are no different from their parents. The iron law of the blind date market remains strong.
Doesn't it say that everyone should not get married together? How come they all secretly went on blind dates?
So we interviewed a few professional red girls. We want to know what new rules and new stories have emerged in the unpredictable post-90s blind date.
According to the red bride, we summarized the six psychological characteristics of the post-90s blind date:
Girls looking for "daddy", boys love "sister"
Post-90s blind date girls all want to find a "father".
I hope that the other half can take care of themselves in life, but also guide themselves in their careers, both to have money and to take her to play and fly with her.
And the post-90s boys want to find a "sister".
Of the 10 boys, 5 can accept girls 3 to 5 years older than themselves, and they will write them bluntly in the information of the recruiter.
Although the urban legend of sister-brother love has been circulating for a long time, the real fire is still in recent years.
I'd rather get married for the second time than have never been in love
"I'd rather have a second marriage than someone who hasn't been in love." A pretty girl from 1992 said to the Red Lady.
Boys have the same idea: being with girls who have no experience in love makes people feel very tired.
If the girl is over 30 years old and has no relationship experience, the boy's first reaction is not "the girl simply likes it", but "will she have a problem".
Red Lady said that this was different from before. A few years ago, people still wanted their first love more.
Red Lady gave a possible explanation: young people in the blind date market are generally impatient, and everyone is too anxious and anxious.
They are not willing to spend time and energy to accompany another person to grow, but just want to save effort, directly find a mature object, and let the other party lead their own growth.
Therefore, in the blind date market, the "cultivation system" does not exist.
Both boys and girls want to "once and for all" and "opportunistically" and directly find the perfect other half.
Red Niang said that the post-90s work hard, and they want to be lazy when they fall in love.
But I think that the first half of the sentence and the second half of the sentence are most likely causal.
Native family has become a hot word for blind dates
In the post-90s blind date market, more and more people talk about the "original family" with their mouths open.
After all, "Chinese-style marriage" is a matter of two families.
The post-90s generation not only considers each other's family background, but in recent years, it is more about whether they can establish a harmonious relationship with each other's family. The influence of parents on their children's marriages is still very large.
The Red Lady told us a lot of blind date stories that were messed up by our parents.
A mother from Fangshan, Beijing, asked her daughter's blind date to give clear information about the house, not only to know how many sets there are, but also to know the specific area, and even to what the direction of the room is. Later, she urged her daughter to leave a boy who lived in the West Second Ring Road because it was "too far away from our house."
There was also a mother, as soon as she entered the door, she took the initiative to say to the boy: "You see how good my daughter is, she is still a virgin." She also asked the Red Lady to write this down in the blind date information.
Red Lady thinks it's not entirely her parents' fault.
On the one hand, children do not want their parents to interfere in their marriage, but on the other hand, children are very dependent on their parents' interference.
This is a question that deserves the joint consideration of both children and parents.
The 25-year-old girl said that the fate was real, and the 35-year-old girl said that the fate was false
Age is still the biggest weakness of women when they are on a blind date.
Let's start with a very dramatic story:
A girl born in 1988, who was born in good condition, was gathered in December 2017 when she opened up for friends, when she was 29 years old. But in January 2018, when the message was sent again, the boys who responded evaporated by 80%. It's only been a month.
The gap between 29 and 30 is that big.
Red Lady gave a schedule: In general, most girls living in big cities will start to be anxious at the age of 25 or 26, start dating, and they still believe in love. At the age of 32 or 33, they will be picky because of their old age.
And 35-year-old women are the most contradictory.
They are both in the "golden age" of their careers and in the "bottom of the bottom" of the blind date age.
A certain red lady has some female clients born in 1983 and 1984, who are generally successful in their careers, independent and mature, and there is no shortage of leaders who earn millions of dollars and have rich experience.
But this group of quality women tends to be more picky, less willing to lower their standards, and therefore harder to find.
This psychology is actually not difficult to speculate, what does the old woman want, so many years of wind and waves have come, why now we have to compromise and compromise?
No room is the biggest pain for blind dates
Poverty is the biggest "hard wound" for blind date men.
In order to maximize the attraction of women, men often have to show off their financial resources like this:
Blind date men show off their rich words
In the blind date market, modesty and low profile are the most unpopular qualities.
There is a young man in Xiamen, who has real estate in Xiamen and Shanghai, but he is reluctant to disclose it, in order to verify whether he can meet true love, he only writes an annual salary of 100,000 yuan, and as a result, few girls are willing to see him.
The Red Lady advised him to show his financial strength a little, and he reluctantly added a sentence "There are two suites, one in Xiamen and one in Shanghai", and immediately sold out of stock.
Men want to be Liu Qiangdong, but women are not willing to be milk tea girls
In the blind date market, the iron law of "boys are young, girls are good property" still exists. But there are still many conditions that together constitute the screening criteria for the dating market in large cities.
Men are the most unpopular: low annual salary> balding> short> no household registration but rich> bad personality
Women's most unpopularity: low looks> divorced> older> bad personality> high annual salary
Overall, young and beautiful women and wealthy men still stand at the top of the chain of contempt.
But the diversity of big cities can also make some subtle changes to the situation.
For example, many rich older men always feel that they are Liu Qiangdong and want to find a young and pure milk tea sister.
However, young beauties in first-tier cities are quite good-looking, at least not bald.
Once a man is bald, even if he has money, he will fall directly from the top of the chain of contempt to the bottom, and it will be difficult to turn over.
Perhaps it is too much pressure to live in the big city, and everyone wants to take shortcuts and find someone who can help themselves, both men and women.
We asked the owner of the dating company, is this "exchange" fair in the blind date market?
He said that boys are not interested when they are young and have no money, while girls enjoy the age dividend at the same age. When they get older, the status of both sides will be reversed. Existence is reasonable, nothing unfair.
But it is clear that ordinary-looking women and men who are not rich will never get a "dividend". And they're the majority.
We also asked, is it possible that this situation will be broken? Well, today is here, Jiajia hopes that each issue of the story can bring friends a little emotional thinking, like Jiajia please pay attention to me, to the article like collection recommended Oh, thank you we will see you in the next issue ~