Big s flash marriage again! It turns out that divorced women can also be so dashing.
Yesterday's March 8th Women's Day, the biggest hot search turned out to be the big s that caught people off guard by officially announcing marriage. I have to say that this female star who has been in the entertainment industry for decades really holds the public's curiosity steady.
The marriage with Wang Xiaofei, from the seaside wedding to the low-key divorce, almost every step has stepped on the hot search point.
And this time the official announcement of marriage, but also by the man broke out such as "20 years ago lovers continue the frontier" such as the plot of the romantic idol drama, the big s studio is lightly forwarded, with the text "Life is impermanent, I cherish the happiness of the moment." Thanks for everything that allowed me to get to where I am now. ”
Compared with her ex-husband Wang Xiaofei's "big outbreak" on Weibo from time to time, Big S can really be called sober in the world, and she sees it more clearly than anyone else in the treatment of divorce.
When you love, strive to love, chase backwards, flash marriage, and are not afraid at all.
When you don't love, turn around and go, calm, determined, not at all noisy.
And the big s after the divorce, did not as everyone expected, depressed in the shadow of the breakdown of the marriage, as her official marriage caption said, "Thank you for everything let me step by step to all now", marriage or divorce, there is no so-called failure in life, every experience has shaped us, let us become today's self.
In fact, not only the big s, for everyone, divorce should not be a terrible thing, especially for contemporary women. This is probably why more and more variety shows began to focus on the "divorced women's group".
Last year, the best emotional variety show deservedly was "Goodbye Lover", a divorce variety show with no traffic that could cause so much resonance. This is not, taking advantage of the victory to chase, after less than half a year, the original team of people and horses once again came out, launched a new variety show that also pays attention to the topic of divorce, "Spring Day Delays Departure".
If "Goodbye Lover" shows a quasi-divorced couple and a divorced couple who have become a boat, revealing the problems of their married life, thus causing everyone to reflect, then this is to focus on the single people after the divorce, to discover the harm they have suffered, but also hope to let them face their wounds and learn to get along better with it.
A group of unmasked divorced men and women, forming a tour group, can tell their own stories and try to open their hearts to a new life. They are not stars, the show still does not take the traffic route, but not long after the show was broadcast, it climbed the hot search, causing a wave of heated discussion. I have to say that the topics discussed in this program are far more profound and common than those in some domestic TV series.
So, now most people superficially look at the word "divorce" lightly, but in fact, it is not so light and simple to really get out of the emotional haze. Let's take a look at the stories of some of the guests.
"Whether rich or poor, whether sick or healthy..." This passage has been watched countless times on TV, many people have recited their marriage vows backwards, some people feel solemn, some people feel solemn, some people ... Feel free to talk about it.
This irresponsible liaring spirit was encountered by a female guest in "Spring Day Delays Departure". Lu Ying is 29 years old and is a beautiful ballet teacher. 4 years ago she got married, half a year later unfortunately diagnosed nephritis, she chose to be hospitalized first to cure the disease, the next day after discharge, her husband informed her that divorce.
What did she do wrong? We can't figure it out, let's see if you can help come up with a reason from her husband's words back then.
"After I cried, he didn't wipe my tears, didn't tell me I was sorry, and just said divorce." Even though more than three years have passed, Lu Ying will still cry until she can't help herself when she mentions it. The ex-husband said that marriage is to get better and better. Because you are sick, it must be getting worse and worse, then there is no need for this marriage to exist.
Now, the ex-husband had long since stopped answering her phone, but she still kept a coat of the other person, she said, wanting to remember the warmth the man gave her when he was by her side.
Lu Ying has the elegant temperament of a ballet actress, she was not yet 26 years old when she got married, with the eyes of a secular straight man, she has everything in stature, appearance, and youth, but once she faces the incomparably real and heavy topic of life such as life, old age, illness and death, even if you are the reincarnation of a mink cicada, how? Even if you have made vows in front of the witnesses and the heavens and the earth, so what?
When some people advise you to get married, they often say that it is pitiful to have no one to accompany you when you are old, but how should people who abandon you when they are in full bloom judge the meaning of marriage? Did it protect you, or did it become a weapon to hurt you?
Another female guest, Wu Yating, was a full-time housewife before the divorce, with two children at home. Before getting married, she was the choreographer of Hunan Satellite TV, and her ex-husband was Wang Quexin, a happy male voice. The two announced their divorce at the end of 2020.
After agreeing to participate in this variety show, she once called her ex-husband to ask if he could say anything about the past, and the moment the phone was connected, the first sentence of the other party was: Which one are you?
After the divorce, Wu Yating decided to "re-employ", she changed from a housewife to a cargo anchor, earning money to support herself and raise children. Her attitude on the show is worth learning from many people: although I am divorced, I don't think it is a failure, it is just an experience.
How do you feel when a man who has loved and had children asks "which one are you" on the phone? In Wu Yating's view, scars are scars that can heal, but they will not disappear. Now that she is calm and strong in front of the camera, we can't imagine how sad and embarrassed it was when we just got divorced.
If men forget you, so what, you can get yourself back.
The third female guest, Liu Liqi, a thoroughly Kochi woman who works as a finance teacher at a university in Shanghai, speaks very fluent English, teaches in English, and keeps track of cutting-edge financial current affairs. Such a standard independent woman template, what makes her choose divorce? And why did it end in divorce?
You would never have imagined that it is not the story of the independent woman pursuing self-worth told in the TV series, but the sad story of a modern woman trapped in a traditional thinking society.
Liu Liqi found out after giving birth that her husband had uninterrupted cheating throughout the marriage. After she found out, she did not immediately pick it out, one shot and two scattered, but pretended to be deaf and dumb for 4 years. It wasn't until her ex-husband played out of control and did it so ugly that she "had to" get a divorce.
"Man, just go home." "Everything for the children." Friends around her are persuading her in this way, this set of brainwashing that teaches ancient women three from four virtues, marrying chickens and marrying dogs with dogs really constantly shakes her values, so that she still questions herself: Should I not leave?
How many women are trapped in an unhappy, unhappy and even humiliating marriage, refusing to withdraw, saying that it is for the sake of children, but Fu Seoul tells the truth: in fact, there are feelings for him in his heart. He even thinks he will change, he will get better, and he still holds out hope.
However, many bloody facts prove that there are only zero and countless cheating times. Don't believe the fairy tale of the "prodigal son turning back", gold can't be exchanged for the prodigal son's return, not to mention that many people don't have a golden house.
Truth be told, the show is good but very depressing precisely because it's a little too real, and a lot of reality tends to be more gripping than these stories. The first time I watched it, people really didn't want to get married anymore. However, the second time I looked at it, I carefully pondered the taste of it and had a kind of inspirational and heart-warming taste.
How to let women re-establish self-confidence after divorce and return to a healthy life, not only physical health, but also mental health, let them feel the tolerance and understanding of society, rather than disgust and harsh responsibility, let them believe in their own value again, this is something worthy of the attention of the whole society.
Author: Mie
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