I particularly agree with Professor Li Songwei's words:
A good rejection is an effective rejection, so that the other party clearly accepts: this is not allowed, and there is no need to talk, the clearer the better, do not drag mud and water to leave too much imagination space.
Don't be hesitant, distressed, gentle and euphemistic, those are all decorations that want to make themselves look "decent", and the result of all these decorations is to prolong the process of rejection, make the process longer, and hurt more.
"Spring Day Delay and Departure" David (Lin Chengwei) rejected Lu Ying, both decent and resolute, not only to leave Lu Ying with enough dignity, but also to express his intentions clearly.
However, David and Lu Ying's streak still caused controversy among the guests in the observation room, so let's first understand what happened between them.
Lu Ying, young and beautiful, simple and lovely, although she has experienced a failed marriage, she is still brave and full of hope for love.
After divorce, others will have a fear of love and marriage, so that they will consciously open the self-defense mechanism, and will not easily step into another relationship, but Lu Ying is eager to fall in love, meet the man of the desired type, and then enlarge or even make up each other's words and deeds, Lu Ying is this state to David.
Zhangjiajie trip is Lu Ying has a good feeling for David, Changbai Mountain trip is the beginning of Lu Ying's complete love brain, the first day David guarded Mo Fei, Lu Ying said ambiguous words, the next day to go to the snow to be taken care of by David, also selected in a group, she began to brain supplement; in the evening she was frequently coaxed by Wu Yating and other guests, so on the third day, Lu Ying took a picture of the heartbeat.
Such a fast pace, all of a sudden, David was confused, in fact, he had already politely rejected Lu Ying in the "positive talk and reverse talk" link, and he said that it was not a couple relationship. It's just that Lu Ying has been immersed in her own imagination and has not read David's meaning.
Lu Ying patted the lamp to make David fully realize that he may have caused a misunderstanding for Lu Ying, so he gave Lu Ying the opportunity to invite his own heart-warming female guests to date one-on-one, lu Ying received David's invitation call, full of joy, but waited for David to say "I am when you are a sister."
Seeing this scene, the guests in the observation room boiled over.
In particular, Fu Seoul is very emotional, and this substitution as a guest in the observation room is sincere, but it also leads to her excessive empathy and lack of objectivity when expressing her opinions, so that people feel that the speech is too extreme.
She said:
"Lu Ying's moth put out the fire, but he was expecting to refuse, why didn't he just let this first shot, don't continue to the third shot."
"In the end, why does a person become rational and calm, because every open-mindedness you have about love, every transparency you have about human sophistication, is bought with disappointment." 」
Obviously, Fu Seoul believes that adult indifference is accumulated with disappointment after disappointment, and she is sympathizing with Lu Ying and accusing David.
This is an act of over-interpretation, which completely negates Lu Ying's subjective initiative and makes David responsible for Lu Ying's disappointment, which is extremely unfair to David.
Therefore, Fu Seoul's speech caused controversy, and the audience launched a barrage:
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