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Getting old is an experience that everyone has.
Whether you are rich or poor, whether you are a great man or an ordinary person, as time passes, wrinkles will slowly climb up your face and tell everyone that you have signs of aging.
White hair will crawl all over your head and tell everyone that you are getting old.
Old means you can no longer jump up, means you will walk and stagger, means you will hunch over, means you may no longer be able to take care of yourself.
In this case, money and children can help you live a better life, so that you don't make your old age miserable.
Money can give you a sense of security and, if necessary, save your life; your children can give you the best care so that you don't become lonely.
Should I save money for myself or should I give it to myself?
Both of these practices are actually risky. Blindly saving pension money for yourself is bound to cause a certain burden on your children. For example, if the elderly are busy earning money and have no time to bring their grandchildren, the burden of raising children falls on the sons, especially the daughter-in-law.
Although in law, the mother-in-law does not have the obligation to bring children to the daughter-in-law, but most of them will rely on the daughter-in-law when they are old, after all, the cheap way of providing for the elderly without a son has not yet appeared.
As a member of the family, the daughter-in-law will have a very obvious impact on the life of the elderly in their later years.
Second, the elderly may not be able to maintain sanity at all times.
Fang Yuan's parents in "Little Joy" are still relatively literate, but they can't stand being deceived by others. The old couple invested their savings and money borrowed from relatives and friends, thinking that they could achieve the goal of investment, but in the end they lost all their money.
Fortunately, Fang Yuan had some ability, but Tong Wenjie was understanding, and the couple sold the house to pay back the money owed by Fang's father and mother, and they have since become a group of "no houses" in Beijing.
The problem is that not all old people are so lucky. Some daughters-in-law are angry that their in-laws have not helped them take care of their children, and in this case, how can she speak to them calmly?
Of course, this is not to blame the daughter-in-law, after all, it is not easy to raise a child, and the cost of parenting is so high. If the old man can take a little handle, the daughter-in-law's life will be relatively easy.
Is that for children?
There are also certain risks.
First of all, children are easy to develop a dependence psychology. For example, those "nibbling old people", they have arms and legs, as long as they are not afraid of hard work, as long as they go out of the room, they can always find a job to support themselves.
Yet they are reluctant to do so. As for the reason, it is naturally because it is too comfortable at home. Summer has air conditioning, winter has heating, nothing to sleep lazy brush TV series, such a day is really comfortable, why do you have to be busy with pain?
As for the parents getting old, what to do? Then wait until your parents are old! But the problem is that there is a thing in this world, where is the work of doing today and becoming rich tomorrow?
But people who have a dependence on their parents will not think of this, they always hold the idea of "tonight there is wine and this day is drunk", just care about the happiness of this time.
Secondly, what if the child takes the money and does not give the parents a pension? Although there are very few such people, it does not mean that there are none. Of course, some people are not reluctant to take care of the elderly, but it is because they are incapable.
However, this is the same effect as not taking care of parents. The old man gave the money to the child, the original intention is to peacefully old age, but found that the last bamboo basket to hit the water is empty, for this, some old people can not help but feel uncomfortable?
So what should the old man do? Isn't there a good way to provide for the elderly in this world?
Each family situation is different, and the method suitable for this family may not be suitable for that family, so there is no unified method. But that doesn't mean there's no way around it.
Smart old men would do that.
1. Guide your child to self-improvement
In "Little Joy", Fang Yuan is very distressed about his parents being deceived.
Help your parents, you won't have a house in Beijing. Before, he didn't have anything on his own, but now they are a family of three, plus Lei'er. As the pillar of the family, he can't let his wife and children live on the street! Not to mention that both children have to take the college entrance examination, which is the time when they need to study with peace of mind.
Don't help your parents! He couldn't bear it. His parents raised him with hard work, provided him with food and clothing, provided him with education, opened up his marriage, and took care of his children. And when his parents were in trouble, he left them aside, and how could he live in peace.
Maybe this is the truth of the adult world, not the multiple choice questions on the primary school student's paper, but no matter how you choose, you will eventually be hurt, you will be uncomfortable, and you will feel helpless.
As the saying goes, the lesser of two evils is balanced. But the question is which one is lighter? Fang Yuan looked at his left and right hands, and his heart was very entangled. In the end he chose to sell the house.
The plot of "Xiao Shede" is mainly about the fangyuan family and the children of the other two families taking the college entrance examination, so the focus of the camera is on his and Tong Wenjie's education of the child, without too much elaboration on how Fang Yuan's parents educated him.
However, from Fang Yuan's behavior, it can be seen that Fang's father and mother still pay more attention to educating their children to be self-reliant and self-reliant in their daily lives. Therefore, whenever he faced the gifts of his parents, he pushed back, feeling that he was in the same year, and there was no need to deduct money from his parents.
Such a child, whether the parents give him all the money or not, he will take good care of the parents, and will become the parents' "umbrella" to help them cover the wind and rain outside.
Therefore, if parents want to be happy in their old age, they must educate their children to be independent and self-reliant when they are still young.
2. Subsidies depending on the situation
If children are in a hurry to use money, give it to them, after all, the pressure of life is relatively large now. Parents' money may not be able to fully solve the needs of their children's lives, but at least they can give them a breather.
If the child is not in a hurry to use the money, then save the money. Occasionally buy a toy or something for your grandchildren, so as to enjoy the pleasure of teasing your grandchildren, and avoid the loneliness and misery of your old age.
3. Exercise
As the saying goes: there is no filial piety in front of the bed for a long time. No matter who it is, it is difficult to maintain a happy mood in the face of long-term parents who are sick for many years and cannot go out to earn money. So the elderly should exercise well. In this way, you can go wherever you want, and you will not become a burden on your children.
When people are old, whether they save money for themselves or give money to their children, there will be certain risks. Smart old people will choose to educate children to strengthen themselves at the same time, look at the situation of children's lives appropriate subsidies, so that children can survive difficulties, and they also have money for the elderly. Finally, they also exercise without placing too much of a burden on the child.
Finally, I wish all the elderly people a happy old age.
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