Will you sympathize with the elderly who have caused their own bleak evening because of their preference for sons and daughters?
Whoever says anything is rewarded with three Chunhui, and parents love their children, it is nature.
True parental love, regardless of gender, age, beauty and ugliness of children, and will not be treated differently because of their children's economic situation and ability. Parents love their children for only one reason, and that is that he is my own flesh and blood.
However, as the psychologist Wu Zhihong said: "No parent does not love children, this is the NO.1 among the countless lies in the world", some parents are really sorry for the two sacred titles of parents and mothers, and really complain that their children are not filial piety.
They do not love their children, or they only love their favorite children, but they treat other children badly, they still refuse to admit their mistakes, and they take me to give birth to you and raise you, you are disobedient or disobedient to suppress their children in order to achieve their own goals.
It is the duty of parents to be good to their children, after all, he cannot choose his original family, and you chose to bring him into this world. If you let him be born in this world, and let him suffer all his grievances and pain, and his parents are not qualified, then if the father is not merciful to the son and filial piety, you do not blame the children for not honoring you.
"There is no place for me in both families of 7, what should I do?" These two unfilial sons, who refused to take care of their 66-year-old mother, both hated me. The 66-year-old Aunt Geng cried while telling everyone what happened to her.
01. Little daughter-in-law: She favors sons over daughters, causing my daughter to fall out of harmony with her son, and for the sake of the children, I have to take her away;
11 years ago, Aunt Geng's husband died of illness, and Aunt Geng retired with her eldest son.
Eight years ago, Aunt Geng fell out with the eldest son's family, and the eldest son took his granddaughter and never returned to his hometown. Aunt Geng's younger son married his daughter-in-law and lived in the town, and Aunt Geng moved with them.
In these 8 years, Aunt Geng has given everything for her younger son's family, helped them bring up a pair of children, and took care of housework, so that both of them can go out to work. What Aunt Geng did not expect was that some time ago, after she quarreled with her daughter-in-law, her daughter-in-law turned her face and was ruthless, asking her to get out.
After listening to Aunt Geng's accusations, several relatives were unclear, so they were indignant, so they accompanied Aunt Geng to her younger son's house, accusing the younger son and the daughter-in-law of their unfilial behavior, and the daughter-in-law scolded her.
"I gave birth to a daughter for the first time, and she gave birth every day, and she longed to nag around my ear twenty-four hours a day, and I wished that I would have another one immediately after I was born, and whether my body could eat or not, had she considered it?"
"3 years ago, I gave birth to a grandchild as she wished, and she helped me take care of the child, but how did she take care of it?" Stuff all the good food and drink into my son's arms, and my daughter can't catch anything. Is the family short of money to buy a chicken leg? Why don't you even meet my daughter's small request to eat a chicken leg? No wonder, my daughter would tell me that she hated her brother and wanted to lose her brother. ”
Hearing the daughter's words, the daughter-in-law felt very angry at first, but soon found the problem, although she also loved her son more, but did not want the sister and brother to fall out of harmony, the flesh and bones of the flesh and bones, said the mother-in-law several times, the mother-in-law I do my own thing, but also in front of her face can not give the brother a snack daughter.
In order not to let her daughter be hurt again, for the sake of her daughter's physical and mental health, the daughter-in-law could not bear it and drove away her mother-in-law: "Who said that I was not filial piety?" Give 600 yuan a month, enough for her to spend, and the rest, find her eldest son. ”
02. Eldest son: When I entrusted my daughter to her and went out to work, I didn't think much about it, after all, she was my mother;
Listening to the words of the little daughter-in-law, several relatives were dumbfounded, and Aunt Geng had no choice but to find a way to contact the eldest son, but although the phone was about to arrive and was opened, the eldest son refused to tell Aunt Geng his home address.
The reason why Aunt Geng's eldest son does not want to see his mother is also because of aunt Geng's patriarchal thoughts carved into the bone marrow. Eight years ago, when they fell out, Aunt Geng's eldest son also told his relatives and friends what had happened.
11 years ago, Aunt Geng's eldest son's family farmed in his hometown, and the younger son who had not yet married his wife did odd jobs in the county to make money, 10 years ago, Aunt Geng's eldest son in order to make more money, support the family, and give her daughter better living conditions, he consulted with his mother, their husband and wife went out to work, and Aunt Geng helped with the children.
At that time, Aunt Geng promised to be very cheerful: "You have made money, you must fight back in time, and the child will be handed over to me!" ”
The eldest son and his wife were very grateful to Aunt Geng, went out to work with confidence, and handed over their eight-year-old daughter to Aunt Geng's care. The eldest son and his wife send money to the family every month to use for their daughter's living expenses.
"When we first went out, a month's salary was not much at all, we saved money, lived in the basement, walked to work, and had to pay as much money as possible to go home, my daughter didn't need so much, and the rest should be our filial piety to you." 」 But how do you do it? I work to ask you to bring a baby, 2 years of daughter did not add new clothes, brother married a wife, Mom, you really can. ”
03. Take my daughter's maintenance fee to the younger son to marry, I will not be able to forgive her for a while and a half;
The eldest son and his wife went out to work for two years, and finally got the opportunity to visit their mother and daughter at home for the New Year, which was very happy, but the daughter-in-law who missed her beloved daughter soon found a problem, that is, her daughter was still wearing old clothes for the New Year.
The eldest daughter-in-law asked the child, the grandmother was good to her, although the child nodded, but the look was obviously wrong, so that the eldest daughter-in-law could not rest assured, so she went to inquire with others. The grandmother of the daughter's friend had long seen that Aunt Geng's patriarchal behavior was unpleasant, and told the eldest daughter-in-law the truth.
It turned out that when the little uncle married his daughter-in-law, he gave a dowry of 100,000 yuan, which was prepared before Aunt Geng's husband died. However, the woman also requested her own housing. In desperation, Aunt Geng hit the idea on the money that the eldest son called back, and the granddaughter saved money, clothes were reluctant to buy for the granddaughter, pocket money was never given, school supplies were rarely bought, and even the meals were mainly vegetarian dishes, and borrowed a sum of money, made money for the younger son, and bought a house in the town.
When Aunt Geng borrowed money, she also promised that her eldest son would continue to fight money back, and he would definitely have money to go back.
When Aunt Geng's eldest daughter-in-law questioned her, Aunt Geng said, It's good for a to have food to eat, why spend so much money? You will not give birth to a son, so I can only let the younger son quickly marry his wife, let me hold the grandson", "completely annoyed the eldest daughter-in-law."
In the end, the eldest son's family broke with Aunt Geng, took away their daughter, and refused to come back.
After figuring out what had happened, except for a few relatives who still adhered to the view of "parents who are all in the world" and believed that the two brothers were not filial piety, no one else helped Aunt Geng to speak.
Finally, the eldest daughter-in-law spoke: "The little uncle's family gave you 600 yuan for living expenses, right?" Well, we give more, give 700, 1300 a month, in the hometown enough for you to live, is our heart. As for what to do when you can't move, let's talk about it later! Anyway, now I can't forgive you, I can't let you come and live. ”
Although Aunt Geng was still dissatisfied, it was already the best way.
04. Instead of advising others to be generous and not to think about it, it is better to advise people to make fewer mistakes and not to do things that hurt others.
Han Han once said: "If you don't understand, you shut up; if you understand, then you should shut up even more." Because you never know what other people are going through. ”
Some people are good at intimidating others, standing on the commanding heights of morality, overflowing with compassion, and seeing that some elderly people have a desolate evening scene, they disregard their excessive behaviors such as abandoning their children and favoring sons and daughters and hurting their daughters and granddaughters, but instead accuse their children and their spouses of not being generous enough, not filial piety, trying to force others to obey, and appearing morally noble.
However, as the saying goes, forgiveness is a sentiment, not forgiveness is a duty, forgiveness should come from the heart, and it is the victim who is willing, not forced by others. You are not a victim, the person who suffers is not you, the person who was stabbed is not you, why do you forgive him and force him to forgive?
There is a saying in the "Yan Family Training": those who are weathered by husbands are also those who walk from the top to the bottom, and those who are first and give to the latter. If the father is not kind, the son is not filial, the brother is not friendly, the brother is not respectful, and if the husband is unrighteous, the woman is not smooth.
Instead of advising others to be generous and not to think about it, it is better to advise people to make fewer mistakes and not to do things that hurt others. If you are a parent, if you can level a bowl of water, do your best to be good to your children, live up to the identity of your parents, and give your children a happy original family, after you are old, your children will not ignore you. Even if you do encounter white-eyed wolves, when you accuse them, you will at least talk about them, rather than being scolded after being questioned by them.
If you do bad things such as son preference, birth without support, etc., hurt your children, so that they cannot forgive you, then you can only taste the consequences yourself.
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