"The World of Man" hit the hot discussion: "the most unproductive" child may be a "good child"?

The TV series "The World of Man" is currently airing. Many viewers are caught up in "soul torture" while chasing the drama - after all, the drama has too many "thinking questions" for parents.

There is such a scene in the play: before the death of the Zhou family's father, the youngest son, Zhou Bingkun, asked his father: "In your heart, who is the best of the three of us brothers and sisters?" Father Zhou said, "In Daddy's heart, you are all the best and best!" In a word, people instantly "break the defense" - in the heart of Zhou Father, Zhou Bingkun, who has not achieved good grades since childhood and did not go to college, is "equally excellent" with his brother and sister who graduated from Beijing University!

Stills from the TV series "The World". Image source: Network

As for the relationship between parents and children, what kind of child is considered a filial child? A line in the play has also been regarded as a golden sentence by netizens: "Since ancient times, filial piety has been divided into two kinds: raising the mouth body and nourishing the mind, serving around the parents, taking care of food, clothing, housing, and transportation, and raising the mouth body." To fly far away, to achieve something, to make parents proud of it, is to cultivate the mind. Equally important, indispensable. ”

For parents, is it the children who are academically and first, the children of the shining lintel who are proud, or the children who have mediocre qualifications but can do filial piety around them? From the perspective of intergenerational sociology, the reality of social aging and low birthrate, coupled with the fast-paced life, has made many young parents encounter "dilemmas" and contradictions in the development of their children and schooling.

Off the screen, many scholars and parents also extended their thinking and sighed about the play: nowadays, the definition of "good child" should indeed be more diverse, and parents should also respect the differences and choices of each child more.

As Liang Xiaosheng, the original author of "The World of Man", said: "No matter what the qualifications, as long as you work hard and be kind, everyone in the world can find their own place and give full play to their talents." ”

"Nourishing the mouth" and "raising the mind", which kind of children come to "repay the favor"?

"Children who study well come to collect debts, and scum come to repay favors." On social media, many parents who have watched "The World of Man" have repeatedly expressed such feelings.

In the play, the three children of the Zhou family, with the support of their parents, the eldest brother Zhou Bingyi and the second sister Zhou Rong are focused on studying, and they have successively entered the city's key high school and been admitted to Peking University. After graduating from university, Zhou Bingyi entered the government department, while Zhou Rong returned to her hometown to teach at a provincial key university. In contrast, the youngest son, Zhou Bingkun, who remained with the Zhou family's parents, appeared "mediocre", did not go to college, became an ordinary worker, married a widow, and was imprisoned twice... Even in the present, such a child may make parents sadden.

However, it is this indisputable "old knot" that has in fact become the pillar of the Zhou family and pays the most for the whole family. With the development of the plot, Zhou Bingkun's every move has touched the softest place in the hearts of more and more audiences.

"Putting aside worldly standards, Zhou Bingkun exudes the brilliance of humanity." At the beginning of the new semester this year, the principal of a school in Shanghai could not help but talk about this popular drama at the parent-teacher meeting, and also talked about family education and parent-child relationship: some children look mediocre in qualifications, and they seem to be struggling academically, which makes people feel that the probability will not go particularly far, but from another point of view, they will have more time and energy to accompany their parents in the future, which is not a kind of happiness?

In the TV series, Zhou Rong's husband Feng Huacheng summarized the two types of children in the Zhou family as

The definition of "good boy" can be more diverse

In traditional Chinese families, looking forward to jackie chan and daughter chengfeng is the best wish of parents. However, most of the "dragons and phoenixes" want to go far and fly high, so naturally they can rarely bear the knees; parents who have their children's "mouth and body" often feel that they have "lizi" and less "face". It is true that parents are somewhat entangled in this, and they wish they had both, but it seems that this matter is difficult to complete.

Yang Xiong, chief expert of the Shanghai Family Education Research Association and researcher of the Institute of Sociology of the Shanghai Academy of Social Sciences, explained that from the perspective of intergenerational sociology, in the past, every household had multiple children, and they naturally had a division of labor in the family, each undertaking different roles and tasks. However, with the acceleration of social urbanization, coupled with the two social variables of "fewer children" and "aging", the expectations of parents who hope to have children have become dragons, and the so-called "loyalty and filial piety cannot be complete" have emerged.

In the view of Guo Ningwei, deputy director of the Songjiang District Education Bureau and a special teacher of moral education in Shanghai, the root cause of many parents' entanglement may lie in the fact that the definition of "good child" is too narrow and the understanding of "filial piety" is too simple. It should be noted that the definition of "talent" in modern society is becoming more and more diverse, and "good children" are no longer a thousand people, as long as they can contribute to society, they are talents and "good children". On the other hand, the development of modern information technology, including the efficiency and convenience of public transportation facilities, has made "filial piety" and "meritorious service" no longer a binary choice, which can be described as "working from home can still create an entrepreneurial legend, and you can quickly meet thousands of miles away." ”

The "little transparency" in the family is actually the most eager to be recognized by parents

One of the climactic plots in "The World of Man" made many audiences cry and swell their eyes: Father Zhou took his children and grandchildren to the neighbors to pay respects to the neighbors. Everyone is praising Zhou's father and son, the eldest son Zhou Bingyi and daughter Zhou Rong have added luster to the long face of the family, and the younger son Zhou Bingkun has become the "little transparency" in the family - even if the stomach grievances are written on the face, no one cares.

At the train station, a fierce clash broke out between father and son. Zhou Bingkun confided in his father that he was dissatisfied: "I am a small worker in the soy sauce factory, and I have humiliated my parents. Father Zhou scolded, "Even if you don't have these chores to drag you down and let you go to college, can you get admitted?" This conflict also caused the father and son to not communicate for several years and cut off contact. See you again many years later. Even though Zhou Bingkun later quit his job at the soy sauce factory and went to work in a restaurant under the publishing house, his income once exceeded that of his brother and sister, but he still did not dare to tell his father the fact that he resigned and did not compile.

"He has paid too much for the whole family, what he fears most is his father's disappointment, and what he craves most is his father's approval." How eager the 'least productive' child is to be affirmed by his parents and how much he is looking forward to the glory of his parents. "This plot also deeply touched Yu Qinfang, director of the Family Education Research and Guidance Center of the General Education Institute of the Shanghai Municipal Academy of Education." The scene at the train station actually hurt the heart of the youngest son, Zhou Bingkun, so before his father died, he said that the three children were the best, which was a great relief for Zhou Bingkun. This is also the wisdom and strategy of the father. ”

Yu Qinfang talked about the art of parenting: every child has a "short board", but parents can not only stare at the "short board" of the child, but should have a pair of eyes to discover, digging out the shining points of the child.

(Wen Wei Po reporter Zhang Peng)