Educate your child early.
In "The First Lesson of School", Dong Qing once said:
"When educating a child, you choose to earn money, not to discipline the child, and when the child grows up, you have worked hard to earn a lifetime of money, and you will not be able to defeat his family for a year." 」
It turns out that there is also a time limit for managing children.
I often hear some parents say, "Children are small, and when they grow up, they will understand." ”
Whenever I hear this sentence, I always sigh silently in my heart, and the influence of childhood education on a child seems to be ignored by parents.
If the child is broken, don't care, hoping that time will make him better, and the probability of not repairing something when it is broken is the same as waiting for it to recover automatically.
It's like wisdom teeth, from the beginning of the inconspicuous, to the intermittent faint pain in the back, you naively think that it will be better to endure for a few days, until the pain is so bad that you grin your teeth, and then react with hindsight:
The best solution for wisdom teeth is not to endure, but to remove them.
The child is small, not a shield for all kinds of bad diseases, nor is it a reason for parents to give up discipline, otherwise after he grows up, after he is stereotyped in various aspects such as personality, habits, and three views, it is too late to think about it.
01
Willful and arbitrary, to be managed
"Ticket 140 take a stone, what's up?"
"On such a hot day, patrolling others to go, two- or three-year-old children what do you want to do!"
"The child is crying, what's wrong with taking one?"
02
Bad habits, to be managed
William James said:
"Our whole life is nothing more than the sum of countless habits."
Before the child is 6 years old, it is a critical period for the formation of personality and habits, in this period, there will be a lot of bad habits, such as loving to play mobile phones, never doing housework, not paying attention to hygiene, if adults do not care, the child grows up, these bad habits are likely to follow him.
When you are young, you are just rude, but when you grow up, you may not be educated;
When I was a child, I was just addicted to playing mobile phone games, but when I grew up, I may not have self-control;
When I was a child, I liked to rely on my parents, but when I grew up, it became difficult to be independent...
Seemingly painless and itchy small problems slowly evolve into big problems.
There is a saying:
Bad habits are natural, and good habits are difficult to form. Good habits, difficult is difficult to persist day after day.
I remember when I was a child, my mother often urged me:
"When things are used up, go back to where they are."
03
Selfish and indifferent, to be managed
"Why don't you know to leave something for your grandparents?"
The child's head is not lifted:
"They don't eat."
The old man immediately answered the phone:
"Yes yes yes, grandparents have bad teeth and can't eat."
After such a few times, how can a child learn to actively understand adults?
When the child is young, we are like this, consciously or unconsciously rejecting his love, waiting until he grows up, but in turn looking forward to the stars and the moon, hoping that the child will care more about himself.
Once the child shows indifference, it feels cold, but looking back, the child is not born selfish and indifferent, we have not given him the opportunity to love others.
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