Some skills cannot be taught in school, and some knowledge is not available in textbooks.
As the first person in charge of the child, we can start from the details around us and tell the child some truths that affect his life. Author | Grape Mama
The Beijing Winter Olympics have been over for 6 days, but the enthusiasm triggered by the Winter Olympics has not yet dissipated.
Coinciding with the opening season, the "First Lesson of the Beijing Winter Olympics" released by the People's Daily once again brushed the screen.
In this "first lesson", there is less excitement, but a different kind of power has been precipitated.
Such as self-confidence, love, happiness, dedication, indomitability and so on.
The video is short, less than 2 minutes.
But it is this less than 2-minute video that condenses the educational significance of the entire Winter Olympics to children.
These 5 truths are worth telling our children:
Learn to be optimistic:
Confidence is more important than success
Dante once said:
"What makes me float in the quagmire of life without getting bogged down is my faith."
The reason why I think of this sentence is because of Zhu Yi on the Winter Olympics.
At the Winter Olympics, she competed in three games and cried twice.
The first time was in the Winter Olympics figure skating women's short program competition, she made a mistake.
First she jumped into the air, then fell to the ground when she fell on the ice, and when she left the arena, she couldn't help but cry.
Later, in the women's singles free skating competition, she made another serious mistake and cried before she got off the field.
At that time, there was a lot of scolding on the Internet.
What everyone dislikes is not her failure, but her appearance of standing on the field shrinking and unimpressed.
After 10 days, she finished 27th in the women's singles short program of figure skating, and missed the follow-up free skating competition.
But this time, even if she failed on the field, there were many fewer people scolding her online.
Because she swept away the haze of the first two games, she confidently showed her skills and posture on the field.
At that time, a netizen said:
"She can finish the game confidently and generously, and she can smile after failure, and that's success."
Because failure is never terrible, what is terrible is not to dare to face failure.
Remember the English writer Persin said:
"In addition to personality, the biggest loss in life is the loss of self-confidence."
A person who has no confidence in himself does not have the courage to cut through thorns.
A self-confidence, a good attitude, is the key to success.
There was a friend who was a middle school teacher who told a student's story.
When Xiao Feng was in his second year of junior high school, he participated in an English speech contest.
Among the nearly 30 students, her spoken English is relatively poor.
But when she opened her mouth and said the first sentence, it attracted everyone's attention.
She held the microphone in one hand, and the other hand naturally waved at everyone, and the smile on her face and the light spread on her body made her look like she was shining all over.
Her speech is very ordinary, and her oral pronunciation is not very accurate, but the confident light on her body makes the judges and teachers in the audience can't help but applaud.
In the end, she originally "focused on participation" and won a third prize.
Backstage, other students came up to her and asked:
"Aren't you stage-scared and nervous on stage?"
She said: "I was nervous, but I prepared for this game for a long time, and it was already great to be on the stage!" ”
Self-confidence does not mean necessarily success, but a person's success must be inseparable from self-confidence.
Learn to carry pressure:
Pressure is also motivation
After a game in the Winter Olympics, Gu Ailing said this in an interview:
"Stress is all about giving you energy.
I'm going to put it in my body and let it help me do better. ”
She had a game where, in the first jump, she completed a difficult move and came in third.
In the second jump, because he did not stand still, he fell heavily on the snow and got a score of 16.98.
At that time, she ranked very low.
The pressure rushed to her like a tidal wave.
Mistakes due to strong pressure are not uncommon wherever they are.
Therefore, at that time, many people felt that the probability of Gu Ailing's third jump mistake was very high.
Unexpectedly, Gu Ailing withstood this pressure, perfectly completed the third jump, obtained a high score, and counterattacked to win the silver medal in this game.
As she herself said, the pressure made her perform better.
This is also what we should tell our children:
In the face of stress, it is most undesirable to be negative and pessimistic.
In the face of pressure, the most important thing to do is to sum up experience and turn pressure into motivation, so as to overcome setbacks, get out of the predicament, and constantly improve ourselves.
The same goes for learning.
Whether it is a scum or a bully, pressure is an inevitable thing in the student era.
But sometimes, stress is also a motivator.
Two years ago, when I was looking at the news website, I happened to see the text of an interview with a middle school entrance examination in Guangzhou.
She confessed: "There is not a single student who is not stressed to learn. ”
But it is precisely because of this pressure that she continues to surpass herself and continue to make progress.
Whenever she saw that her classmates were making progress, the pressure in her heart would increase.
But at the same time, she also tried to pursue progress, requiring herself to master every point of knowledge.
As a result, her grades are getting better and better, more and more stable.
She gives two apt examples:
Antelopes, which live in the African savannah, are under the pressure of being hunted by lions, so they train themselves to be "runners".
And lions are under pressure to prey on their stomachs, so they train themselves as "prairie hunters".
Proper pressure can, on the contrary, stimulate their own potential.
We also need to let children know that stress cannot be avoided at any time, because life is a process of constant pressure increase and reduction.
If you want to go far, you have to beat the pressure again and again and turn it into motivation.
Learn to be unyielding:
You can fall behind for the time being, but don't give in easily
The Winter Olympics have a sport called ice hockey.
At the time of grouping, China, ranked 32nd in the world, was divided into Group A with The World No. 1 Canadian Team, the powerful Team Usa, and the last runner-up Team Germany.
It is no exaggeration to say that the Chinese team has almost no chance of winning in Group A.
But the spirit of not admitting defeat in them has inspired many people.
In the first game, the Chinese team played against the United States team.
Although there is no chance of winning, on the field, China's players are still full of momentum.
In the second game, the Chinese team played against the last runner-up Team, Germany.
In the situation of 0:3 behind, the Chinese team forced the score to 2:3.
In the third game, they met the world's number one Canada, which felt like a novice meeting the Great Devil.
However, from the beginning to the end, they have not given up on themselves.
Although it lost the game 0:5 in the end, it also made Canada a lot of trouble.
In "Bright Sword", Li Yunlong once said:
"Even if you know that your opponent is the world's first swordsman, you must sheath your sword, and even if you fall under your opponent's sword, you will not be ashamed."
As long as you don't admit defeat, there are many people who come after you.
A few years ago, at the graduation ceremony of Tsinghua University, a girl named Zhang Wei shared her experience.
She comes from a state-level poverty-stricken county on the Loess Plateau in Gansu, where traffic is blocked and the economy is backward.
The first time she went to the provincial city to participate in a physics competition, she had never even seen what the instruments used for the competition looked like.
After three years of hard work in high school, she was admitted to Tsinghua University.
However, whether it is economic ability, knowledge reserves, vision, etc., there is still a huge gap with classmates.
In her diary, she constantly admonished herself, encouraging herself:
In any case, do not shrink back, do not work hard, do not give up.
By the time she graduated, she had gone from being the "bottom" person to a student representative, surpassing many others.
Tell your child that when you are behind, it is easy to give up on yourself, but it will also make the dilemma last forever.
Those who do not admit defeat will have the opportunity to wait until the "willow is dark and the flowers are bright".
Even if I still lost in the end, I also learned a lot of lessons and gained some experience from the experience of failure.
These are the strength and strength accumulated in the future.
Learn to love:
No matter how good the talent, it also needs to be persevered
Behind the genius, 99% is supported by hard work and perseverance.
For example, Su Yiming, who is known as a "ski genius".
He won a gold and silver medal at the Winter Olympics, and became the youngest gold medalist in the history of the Winter Olympics for the men's big jump in snowboarding.
But in the documentary about Su Yiming, we see only countless falls.
In public daily training, he said:
"A new difficult action, I practice for 6 hours a day, I keep practicing this one movement, it may take a summer to complete this action."
When his peers were still asleep, he had to go out in the early morning at minus tens of degrees.
The coach said the training started at 8 o'clock and he felt it was too late, it was 6:45.
In the two years of preparation for the Winter Olympics, he was almost the first person to train on the mountain every day until the snow field closed.
His efforts confirm a formula circulating on the Internet:
Talent + effort = skill, skill + persistence = achievement.
Talent is only a small part of the success factors, and hard work and perseverance can truly achieve a person.
Some people asked, if there is no 1% talent, is there any point in persevering?
There are respondents who have answered this question with their own experience.
He was called stupid by others since he was a child, but when he took the college entrance examination, he was admitted to 211, 985 when he was admitted to graduate school, and finally went abroad to study for a doctorate.
Others may think that he is lucky, but only he himself knows that he is really no smarter than others, and the only thing he does is to work harder and persevere than others.
Writer Gladwell said:
"The genius in people's eyes is extraordinary, not because of superhuman talent, but because of continuous effort."
We have to tell our children that the so-called good luck and talent are exchanged for many painful days and gritted teeth day after day.
Only after sticking to one thing long enough can you get what you want most.
Academic Conference Co-ed:
One person can go fast, but a group of people can go far
In the men's 1000m final of short track speed skating at the Winter Olympics, there was a scene that was particularly touching.
In the final, Ren Ziwei wanted to assist Wu Dajing to win the championship, so he kept behind Wu Dajing.
However, after the start of the competition, Wu Dajing, who had participated in many games, was physically weak.
While juxtaposing with Ren Ziwei, Wu Dajing said something to Ren Ziwei, and then blocked the Hungarian player behind him, and touched Ren Ziwei's hand with his hand to let him go first.
Ren Ziwei looked back and began to accelerate forward.
In the end, Ren Ziwei won the gold medal, Li Wenlong took the silver medal, and Wu Dajing only finished fourth.
This scene made many people burst into tears.
You know, there isn't a single athlete who doesn't want to stand on the podium.
But they did not hesitate to choose unity and cooperation to lock this gold medal.
Only by learning to cooperate can we let everyone work together and go higher and farther.
It's like a world sprint champion, a world marathon champion and an ordinary person playing two-legged and three-legged.
Sprint champions can rush out like arrows, leaving others far behind.
Although the marathon champion does not run fast, he can run very far.
But when competing in a two-on-three-legged game with others, one of them can only slow down, and the other needs to speed up to match the pace of an ordinary person.
Because if they run their own, there will only be two outcomes:
Either you keep falling, or you can't walk.
As the old saying goes: It is difficult to become a boat by a single tree, and it is difficult to become a forest by a single tree.
Whether it is in school or in society, it is inseparable from the collective and the team.
Therefore, when encountering difficulties in learning, children must learn to ask classmates and teachers.
When they come out of society in the future, children must also learn to cooperate with other colleagues.
Even if a person is excellent and outstanding, if there is no team, do not know how to cooperate with each other, and only have self and win or lose in his heart, then it is difficult for him to go anywhere, and it is difficult to become a great instrument.
Raising a child who is good at cooperation is the top wisdom of parents.
Because, one person can run fast, but a group of people can go far.
The so-called education has never been a whim, but has penetrated into the details of daily life.
A Winter Olympics, although only 17 days long, is the best classroom for children.
The first lesson of the child's school year is also the first lesson of the parent's school year.
As parents, we are doomed to not be able to participate in the whole process of our children's lives.
Confidence, stress resistance, persistence, cooperation... These are the skills that children must have to walk in the world.
What we can do is to seize every educational opportunity and pass it on to our children as much as possible to help them become healthier and better selves.
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