It is close to the winter vacation, and there is still more than a month to go, and the primary school has begun to have a winter vacation.
In the face of the arrival of the winter vacation, children celebrate and shout, and adults have headaches - the winter vacation is coming, and the time for children to indulge in video games day and night is also coming.
Children can take holidays, adults still have to work, the elderly are always responsive to children' needs, after all, they can't always accompany their children 24 hours a day, and when they think of children staying in front of the TV all day, parents are worried.
So during the holidays, children are addicted to watching TV, what should parents do?
01. Reach an educational consensus with your family
If you look carefully, you will find that many times children will be addicted to video games, and a large part of the reason is actually from the connivance of the elders and the influence of ordinary behavior.
When the child's parents prevent the child from watching TV, the child only needs to go to the grandparents to lie to the child, and the elders will not say a word to the parents: "The child will see what will happen"! Then smile and comfort the child to turn on the TV.
Therefore, the first step in intervening in the child's TV watching is to communicate with the whole family and agree on the concept and principles of behavior.
Here, the biggest difficulty is: how to communicate effectively with the elders, and do not cause disgust and induce contradictions?
We can solve it in this way:
First of all, first explain the pros and cons to the elders, tell the elders directly about the harm of indulging in video games, and use more authoritative experts to explain, for the elders, only from the experts are more convincing.
When communicating, we must also pay attention to skills, slow down the attitude, first be emotional and then rational, first empathize and then judge, so as to make communication meaningful and achieve results.
For example, first affirm the old people's love for their grandchildren, soft hearts, but also thank them for the energy they put into taking care of their children, and then talk about the problems that children are facing today, which need to be solved together, and ask the elders to help control the time of children watching TV.
Only when the whole family agrees on a consensus can it be possible to create a principled environment for growth.
02. Set rules, set the duration, and control the content
After the whole family has reached a consensus, the parents can set the rules for the child.
We have to admit that it is unrealistic to let children not watch TV at all during the holidays, and some TV content is not completely beneficial.
Therefore, what parents have to do is to make three chapters of the law with their children, control the time they spend watching TV, and control the content of TV.
On the one hand, it is to control the time.
Parents can make an appointment with their children, for example, the time to watch TV every day is controlled to be about one hour, and it must not exceed two hours. In order to strengthen the concept of time with children, you can also use the "timer" to strengthen the sense of boundaries.
Prepare a small hourglass or timer alarm clock, when the time comes, tell the child "Okay, it's time, can't see it anymore, can only wait for tomorrow to see."
Even if the child cries, he cannot be soft on this, and one concession represents a thousand concessions in the future, ten thousand times.
If the child violates the law, the parent should punish it appropriately.
If the child can consciously abide by the rules, then automatically stop, remember to give the child encouragement in time.
On the one hand, it is to control the content.
In the choice of content, try to avoid types of content such as martial arts murder, horror suspense, and cynicism.
The content that children like to watch, it is best to be screened by adults in advance to ensure that the content is suitable for children of this age, and it is best to accompany the viewing.
In short, parents must resolutely implement, the rules can not be broken, this is also a good opportunity to make rules with children.
03, make the real world interesting
What's the best way to get a person to stop doing one thing?
Do you just say "STOP" or "NO"?
Of course not, it is to let him discover that there are other more interesting things worth doing, to let him discover other pleasures in life.
On "What should children do if they are addicted to TV?" "This question, some time ago saw a 10-year-old girl give a very good answer.
She said: Maybe there is something wrong with the world that adults show their children...
Imagine that this world consists of only two rooms, one is the real world and the other is the world of the screen.
If the child only likes the world on the other side of the TV now, then the parents have to make the real world a little more interesting and slowly pull the child back...
For children, the world is boring.
Every day at three o'clock a line to go to school, every word without changing the sermon, on the weekend there is nothing to do... Since the real world is so boring, why not go to the TV side to find fun?
There are many ways to make life fun.
Go out with your children to fly kites in windy weather, go to the beach with your children to build castles, climb a mountain with your children, and let your children do their best when cooking...
When life becomes colorful, when the things in front of them become rich and interesting, when the child finds other "little friends", the child will not be immersed in the world of television irreversible
04, pay attention to the companionship of children
In fact, no matter which way, in the end, you still need the company of your parents.
Nowadays, adults are more and more stressed at work, and sometimes in order to escape the chaos and anxiety of the real world, they will want to find a clean on the Internet, so parents themselves will be addicted to electronic products.
Eating and looking at the mobile phone, going to the toilet to look at the mobile phone, walking to see the mobile phone... Parents are addicted to the world of flowers and flowers at the end of the electronic screen, and they inevitably ignore the companionship that their children need.
Under the influence of hearing and lack of companionship, children can only find sustenance on television, and thus become addicted.
Psychologists have studied countless TV fans and Internet addicts and concluded:
The psychological reasons for children who are prone to addiction are the lack of paternal love, and the second is the poor parent-child relationship.
It can be said that if the relationship between husband and wife and parent-child relationship is more harmonious, children are less prone to addiction problems.
To get rid of children's dependence on video games, etc., parents need to accompany their children with high quality.
Parents need to put down their mobile phones, devote their bodies and minds to interacting with their children, and accompany their children to read, play puzzle games, or role-playing games.
The child's world is very simple, and sometimes even if you just play with them and play some simple and repetitive games with them, it is a very pleasant parent-child time for them.