When women and men get along, they always hope that the other party will change their bad habits, and if they do not change, women's mood will become very bad. Especially after being in love for a long time, they feel that men are always busy alone and too unconcerned about women's needs. As a result, quarrels or conflicts often occur between men and women.
When women feel stressed, they need to talk to men and get comfort and understanding. Men don't reduce stress in ways that women do, they relieve stress by solving problems. So when women confide in them, they always actively come up with ways to fix it.
If women have the right understanding of men's way of thinking and behavior patterns, they will not focus on the things they can't get, but focus on the things they can get, then their troubles will be much less.
When I wanted to talk to him, he was either absent-minded or suggested a lot of solutions to the problem. He didn't care about me at all, he worked during the day and came home either watching TV or sleeping. I spent the whole day dealing with housework and taking care of the children, and when he came home, he blamed me for not doing a good job in many places. He used to be gentle and considerate to me and always romanticized me, but now he doesn't care about me at all unless he asks for me.
When I was busy, he always sat there watching TV and never shared it for me. He would only help me if I offered to ask, he didn't understand my real needs. After I dressed up, he never seemed to notice, and I wish he could praise me a few words. I also have to go to work during the day and clean up the housework after work, so why can't he help me do something?
Men and women have different feelings, and they also have a lot of complaints about women's reactions: they always have endless things to do, why can't they sit down and rest for a while?
When I give her advice, she always asks all kinds of questions, and I'm really asking for trouble! When I wanted to rest, she always told me to do this and that. She was always complaining, always making a fuss, always emotional.
When I wanted to take a break, she complained that I didn't communicate with her, and I really didn't understand what needed to communicate. When I'm with kids, she always tells me not to do this, not to do that, and I don't want her to tell me what to do. I helped her with a lot of things, but she was still not satisfied, I really don't know what she needs! She either complained that she was too tired at work or that she made too little money, and I didn't know what to do.
Women want men to chat with them and men to help with all problems. Women work hard during the day and take on the responsibilities of mothers and housewives after work, and they need understanding, support and help from men. They want men to take on the same responsibilities as they do in the family as well as in emotional relationships, but that doesn't mean the man needs to change his nature.
Equality between men and women does not mean that there are no differences between men and women. There is no need for women to give up their feminine traits in order to achieve career success and build themselves into a strong woman with an iron backbone. Women should face up to the differences between themselves and men, acknowledge each other's essential attributes and inner needs, and understand with a broad mind everything that the other party provides for themselves.
Only by truly recognizing that there are many differences between each other can the feelings of both men and women become more intimate. After recognizing these differences, women will no longer force men to make changes, but will become interested in the differences between the two sides. As the saying goes, "nature is difficult to move", if you always expect men to make changes, isn't that self-inflicted trouble?