Recently, my S classmates often sneakily read some game online novels. For this reason, S Mom and I were also very annoyed.
Parents complaining that their children are addicted to smartphones, fantasy novels, and online games is indeed one of the trickier problems in the educational process.
Once such a phenomenon occurs, the vast majority of people will directly target the child, believing that the child's self-control is too poor and there is no way to resist bad temptation.
Others complain about the electronic information age, believing that smartphones are the culprits. Whether they complain about their children or the times, few people will focus on family education and parents.
Addiction to online games and novels is a "common problem" for teenagers
For now, children's addiction to online games or smartphones has become a serious problem.
An article published in a British journal said that most Internet addicts do not consider themselves addicted, and pointed out that "10% of Internet users, about 2 million people are addicted to online games."
That is to say, the scope of the industry is getting wider and wider, and the problem is getting more and more serious. And more than half of the 2 million addicts are teenagers.
People at this age should feel the beauty of the world, but they are addicted to reality and illusion, and the spirit and body are decadent, which is also a huge loss to society.
Recently, not only children have become addicted to online games, but also many children who are addicted to fantasy novels and live streaming and online chats, etc.
This is a common problem for children in this age group, and it is also a problem that must be faced at this stage of education, so parents should face it calmly and calmly and then gradually find a breakthrough.
Let children realize that play cannot "reduce stress"
When a child is obsessed with something, parents must first distinguish between the advantages and disadvantages of these things.
Children who are just beginning to become addicted may not listen to the advice of their parents, saying that they are not addicted, but through these to reduce stress.
This is the best time to correct the child's bad behavior, so parents must seize this opportunity. If you love to play online games, parents should not conclude that their children have become addicted, but start from "games can improve intelligence" to accept and identify with the advantages and disadvantages of a game.
Don't beat all the games to death, first see if this game has the effect of relaxing and reducing stress.
Then, parents should let their children realize that most games are for commercial profit, and that there are undesirable factors that do not help to improve intelligence.
Allow children to play moderately and get close to the child's heart
If you find that your child is addicted to online novels and games, first of all, don't come up and accuse and insult, teenage children are rebellious periods, don't talk to him in a commanding tone.
Don't rush to recommend him a high-quality physical book.
You must know that he reads online novels only for entertainment and pleasure, not to use his brain to learn any life principles.
It is best to first understand the general content of the novel he reads, or to read it with him, and then communicate with him from the standpoint of a friend, euphemistically point out the shortcomings of this kind of novel, guide him to read some useful books in a timely manner, and it is best to cultivate some other interests and hobbies to enrich his amateur life.
You can also encourage him to write novels, and when he starts writing, he will find that writing is not so easy, he will find his own shortcomings, he will find out how majestic the sky of literature is, and then he will be interested in those excellent classic books.
Psychotherapy or coercive behavior will only make the child's resistance to the psychology stronger and stronger, so do not use it until you are forced to do so.
If you feel that it is not very serious, then do not blindly prohibit children from playing games, but allow it appropriately.
Communicate with your child, listen to your child's inner thoughts, and gradually improve your addiction.
For example, you can ask your child, "Do you want to become the best professional e-sports player in the world in the future when you spend more than 6 hours a day playing games?" If you have such an idea, Dad will definitely support you. "If the child doesn't have that idea at all, he will say, "Dad, I didn't think about being a game competitor, I just thought it was fun, and before I knew it, it took so long." Parents can answer, "Really? Then Dad wants you to treat the game as an interest, appropriately reduce the time spent playing the game, and spend the time on things that will help you in the future. ”
Parents need to find an outlet for their children to vent their energy like this.
In fact, adults also spend some time reading martial arts novels or comic books. Because this relieves the stress of work and can also get inspiration from it.
Therefore, when parents think that their children are addicted to the Internet or fantasy novels, they can also let their children associate these with their future plans or dreams to obtain more positive results.
Requests are more efficient than instructions
When chatting with your child, use a tone with a request, which is more effective than the indicated tone.
If you want to guide your addictive child more effectively, parents need to identify with their child's enthusiasm.
For addicted children, parents should start from the perspective of the family, let the children rethink the direction and goals of life, and pursue the real goals of life, and guide the children to come out of the mud.
Parents can only help their children from the side, and the real withdrawal from addiction still depends on the child's own will.
In fact, children's addictions are derived from daily habits.
For example, if it is a child who is addicted to smartphones, parents can specify five guidelines for the correct use of smartphones as a way to correct the child and let the child develop the habit of using the phone correctly.
This guideline is then implemented daily, and according to the results, the child can be given appropriate rewards, so that the child gradually changes his habits.
epilogue:
Parents should remember that if the child is addicted to something, directly putting aside the parental factor and finding a solution from the outside will not help the problem.
Of course, to prevent children from indulging in online novels, we must take precautions early and develop good living habits.
Parents also need to know where the boundaries of addiction are?
Some parents get angry and accuse their child of playing on the computer for an hour on the weekend, which is not the right thing to do and may backfire.
Addiction refers to obsession to the point where it can hardly stop, and stopping will be painful and affect learning and life. In fact, the average child will not be so serious. Occasionally let him play computer games, play mobile phones, watch TV is also harmless, control in a reasonable time range is good.
The goal of parental guidance is not extreme separation, but regulation.
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