I remembered a video I saw on the Internet not long ago.
An 80-year-old man living alone, because of his physical discomfort, took a short video to talk about his heart:
"I'm so lonely, alone.
My children are not with me.
I have worked hard all my life, worked on the education front all my life, more than 50 years of teaching experience, but I am now alone, so lonely.
I don't know how to get by, and I don't bother to cook three meals a day.
Because, at the age of 80, in the past, my family said that the food I made was the best.
And now, even I don't think it's delicious. ”
In fact, the old man in the video has two daughters, two sons, 8 grandchildren, and 7 great-grandchildren.
Their children and grandchildren are very filial, but in order to live, they work in the United States, Guangzhou, Zhuzhou, and Chaling County.
They have very little time to go home, even once a year or two.
When the old man is full of children and grandchildren, when she is unwell, there is no child around her who can always accompany her and take care of her.
The old man is also very considerate of the child and thinks very openly, but the loneliness revealed in her expression and tone of voice makes people can't help but cry.
The true feeling of the elderly living alone has touched many people, and at the same time, many people have recognized a reality: excellent children, let parents be proud.
But the better they are, the farther away they are from their parents.
At this age after the 80s, the New Year home or friends gathering, it is inevitable that a topic is children, whose children are articulate, whose children have passed several levels of piano, whose children have won what awards and the like, whenever this time, some mothers will feel that their children are not smart, can only eat in obscurity, but recently watched this CCTV opening year drama, suddenly felt: No matter whether the children are smart or not, whether they will be out of the future, they are unique, we all have to love and accept them.
"The World of Man" This is the most anticipated drama this year, this is a TV series about the lives of ordinary people in the fifties, we are post-80s, many of us have probably listened to their grandparents from childhood to tell the life of that era, this TV series has shown the memories of the older generation again, the fate of people in that era, different classes, different dreams and efforts, in this drama, everyone's fate is full of ups and downs, but what is more valuable is the attitude that people show in the face of suffering in that era Although it is difficult, there is the most precious love and temperature between people, and people at that time were very bitter, but their faces were always full of smiles
The Zhou family in "The World of Man" has three children. The eldest son, Zhou Bingyi, has been smart and studious since childhood, and has an opinion. Whether it is going to school or being a soldier, he is the best in the crowd.
The second daughter, Zhou Rong, is beautiful and talented, and has been a bully from childhood to adulthood. She has firm beliefs, dreams and pursuits in her heart.
The third son, Zhou Bingkun, did not have a bright mind when he was a child, and his grades were far inferior to those of his brother and sister.
Coupled with his thick and honest personality, his brothers and sisters all think that he is "very stupid", and his parents also call him "old knots".
Consistently, everyone may feel that excellent brothers and sisters will be the future guarantee and reliance of the Zhou family's parents.
But the reality is that the eldest son Zhou Bingyi and the second daughter Zhou Rong left their hometown very early in order to pursue the life they wanted.
Only Zhou Bingkun, who looked stupid, stayed with his parents.
Especially after the resumption of the college entrance examination, my brothers and sisters will have to enter Peking University.
At this time, my mother suddenly suffered a stroke and was paralyzed in bed.
In order not to worry his father who was outside to support the construction, and his brother and sister of Kao Peking University, Zhou Bingkun took care of his sister's daughter while taking care of his mother who was paralyzed in bed.
Later, my brother was transferred from a state-owned factory to a city, and then to a central government, with unlimited scenery, but it was difficult to have time to spend with his parents.
My sister has lived in France for more than 10 years from a university professor, and it is even more difficult to meet her parents.
Although the third brother, Zhou Bingkun, has always been a small worker and has never been able to fight for face for his parents, he is kind, benevolent, industrious and generous.
When Mom and Dad have something to do, only he can take good care of the saddle before and after the horse, before and after the run.
In the absence of his older brother and sister, he never complained. Taking care of Mom and Dad, he also never cried tired, never stole lazy.
He did not have great pursuits and ideals, and he only wanted to take good care of his parents, wife and children, and live a simple life better and better every day.
He used his kindness and kindness to complete the wonderful life of his brothers and sisters, supported the whole family, and gave his parents a stable and happy old age.
Seeing here, suddenly sad, in fact, many post-80s are now going through this stage, running around for life, and have more than enough heart for relatives in distant places and lack of strength.
Children with good grades and excellent grades may go to big cities in the future, or go abroad to show their ambitions. But the better they are, the farther away they are from their parents...
Remember that Zhou Guoping once said:
"Everything in the world is extraordinary, and in the end it must return to the ordinary, and its value must be measured by ordinary life." Great, wonderful, successful is nothing, only the ordinary life is really good, life is complete. ”
We all want our children to get ahead and make a difference.
But we must see a cruel truth: 99% of children will eventually go to the ordinary.
We cannot measure the good and bad of children by a single standard, nor should we despise the ordinary.
Instead, we should embrace our child's imperfections and accept their children's ordinariness.
In the future, our children may not be the leaders of the people, may not be the social elite, but as long as they are good-natured, do not violate their conscience and principles, healthy, happy, and down-to-earth to take every step of life, in fact, it is a successful life.