1. Mom's embarrassment
My cousin's son Yang Yang is 11 years old, in the fifth grade of primary school, and he is the top three in the class in every exam, and the awards he has brought home in recent years are almost plastered on a wall. Even the teachers in the class said: "This child has strong concentration and good understanding, can keep up with the teacher's thinking in class, and can still give examples of homework.
Logically, even the teacher said so, the cousin should be happy to dance, the strange thing is: the cousin is happy to be happy, but every time someone praises the cousin for raising the child well, the cousin always has an embarrassed expression.
Isn't it good that someone praises? How can I be embarrassed by the exaggerated mother? Shouldn't it be afraid that others will come to learn the scriptures and deliberately pretend?
It turned out that such an excellent Yangyang was not brought out by the cousin, but by the cousin-in-law!
I think at the beginning, on how to cultivate children's concentration, the couple also had an awkward quarrel. Now that everyone has put all the credit for their father on their mother, isn't the cousin embarrassed?
So, what's going on?
2. Children with this ability will be excellent
Emerson said that the greatest trait of geniuses is that they can concentrate on one thing for a long time.
As highly educated people, the couple agreed with this sentence and agreed that it was necessary to cultivate the child's concentration.
You know, the future competition is all learning competition, and the key factor that determines whether a child's academic performance is good or not is concentration. Under the same learning conditions, children with super concentration have more knowledge and more competitiveness. Especially in the upper grades, as the difficulty of learning increases, the requirements for concentration will also be higher.
Although there is a consensus, however, when it comes to the specific training, the couple has a disagreement: the cousin believes that she should go to an early education class to develop intelligence, and even if it is not good, she must start from toys.
Therefore, his cousin quoted him for a sky-high early education class when he was more than 1 year old, and bought a bunch of toys that claimed to cultivate concentration and develop intelligence. Full of thoughts, Yang Yang can concentrate super strongly and intelligence superiorly. As a result, after more than 2 years of training, when Yangyang went to kindergarten, her cousin became a regular customer of the teacher's interview: the child could not sit still, was active, and had poor understanding.
The teacher even hinted that the cousin took Yang Yang to the hospital for a check-up to determine whether the child was hyperactive and that the intelligence was normal or not.
This frightened my cousin so much that tears came out.
Although the test results were normal, my cousin was still worried.
Instead, the cousin-in-law calmly replied: "It is not right to say that you are cultivating concentration in this way, and you still don't believe it, is this urgent?"
The cousin was angry and anxious, and in a fit of anger, she entrusted the responsibility of raising children to her cousin-in-law, just to see what tricks he had.
Who knows, the cousin brother-in-law is lazy and lazy, learning together with Yangyang is an occasional thing, throwing a few stickers to Yangyang to play with is the norm, every time the cousin wants to say something, the cousin brother-in-law is the same sentence: "You take the child you decide, I take the child I have the final say!"
My cousin looked in her eyes and was anxious in her heart, but my cousin-in-law looked like I was motionless and couldn't get in.
In the cousin's doubts, Yangyang's changes are getting bigger and bigger: after the second semester of the small class, the cousin has never been interviewed again; when Yangyang went to elementary school, he became an excellent student in the class, and even the most worrying "third-grade" phenomenon did not appear, and the cousin had to admit: In the matter of cultivating children's concentration, the cousin really has a set!
3. From sitting still to focusing on doing things, just because you insist on doing it
The same is to cultivate the child's concentration, the cousin is not good, the cousin brother-in-law is doing a particularly good job, what did he do right?
First, protect concentration: when children play, parents can not participate, but absolutely can not disturb
The cousin has a principle when he brings Yangyang: as long as Yangyang is playing and there is no safety hazard, he will never bother.
In the cousin's view, he does not want to do it himself, to make excuses for his laziness, it turns out that when the child is concentrating on playing, he is too lazy to pay attention to the child, too lazy to greet the child, which protects the child's concentration, so that the child can spend more time focusing on one thing without distraction.
In the process of taking the child, the less he is disturbed, and the longer he concentrates on playing, the more conducive it is to the cultivation of concentration.
Second, if the child wants to sit still, the parent first picks up the book
My cousin-in-law has always believed in the power of teaching by example and by example, insisting: what you want your children to become, you must first become what you must be. Therefore, he has a principle with his baby: whenever the child is in front of him, he will never take a mobile phone, an iPad, or a computer except for books.
He always took Yangyang to the study, read books by himself, and let Yangyang play on the side.
Although Yang Yang was illiterate, but he saw his father with relish, he would also go over, and his cousin-in-law would tell him "Journey to the West", "Thirty-Six Plans", and "Classic of Mountains and Seas".
Yang Yang was fascinated by it, thinking that his father was a treasure chest, and after worshiping, he also had a kind of learning, and naturally he could sit still, at least when his father was around. Through continuous worship, thinking, and learning, Yangyang's concentration has been further enhanced.
Third, I want my child to be more focused and train books to help
Roman Roland said:
"Instead of spending a lot of time and effort digging many shallow wells, it's better to spend the same amount of time and energy digging a deep well."
The cousin-in-law was deeply impressed, watching the cousin spend a lot of money to buy those things in the corner to eat ash, the cousin-in-law felt that instead of buying some gimmicky things, it was better to choose a toy that could attract the child's interest at the first time, let the child sit down, and let the child play with it.
To this end, he specially consulted a friend who specializes in early education, and at her suggestion, he finally chose this set of "Concentration Stickers".
So, what does playing with stickers have to do with developing concentration?
The famous educationalist Sukhomlinsky famously said: "The wisdom of the child is on the tip of his finger".
This is because children after the age of 2 are in a critical period of brain concentration development, when children are self-aware and like to do things by themselves.
And children naturally love to play, in the process of hands-on games, children can play in middle school, learning to play, so that not only can conform to the nature of children, but also promote the development of children's brains, concentration has naturally been improved.
This set of "Concentration Stickers" includes 16 different themes such as life, language, reasoning, mathematical ability, IQ, judgment, potential, behavior, observation, reaction, creativity, concentration, imagination, emotional intelligence, logic, comprehension, etc., with 196 different theme scenes, 3080 exquisite stickers, covering all aspects of daily life, so that children can exercise children's thinking ability, analysis ability, observation ability, hands-on ability, and memory ability in all aspects in the process of tearing- finding and pasting. It also cultivates the child's concentration in learning to use the brain!
Let the child truly become "skillful".
The gameplay of this set of books is very simple, only parents need to explain the rules of the game to the child, and then show the child one or two stickers, and the child can play on his own!
The games and question types are very attractive and are designed for children aged 0-6!
In the naughty and active children, will not be able to help sit down to play, a play is easy to indulge in it, focus on a long time not to say, the most important thing is that the more children play the smarter!
In "Effective Ways to Cultivate Young Children's Concentration", it is mentioned that the key period for cultivating children's concentration is 0-3 years old; if the child's concentration is destroyed, 3-6 years old is the golden period of intervention.
Therefore, it can be seen from this book that there are only 2 opportunities to cultivate children's concentration, 0-3 years old is the best golden period, and 3-6 years old is the golden age of intervention.
Instead of going to primary school to complain that children do not focus and cannot learn, it is better to find the right way, tools, etc. in the preschool period, so that children can play wholeheartedly in "playing", and can get some aspect of ability from it, "play" super concentration.