After watching the video of Olympic champion Wang Nan training her daughter, I understood that my daughter should be raised like this
Sometimes, the strictness of parents is the best love for children, which will bring children wealth for a lifetime
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Recently saw such a video
When Olympic champion Wang Nan was practicing with her daughter Xiaoxiao, although the 5-year-old Xiaoxiao was repeatedly hit by the ball sent by Wang Nan
And it was obvious that the pain was unbearable, and the "little pearl" was unconsciously falling in his eyes
But Wang Nan didn't seem to be able to see it at all
There was not the slightest intention of stopping to reassure the child
Many netizens said this
"Laughing so small, Sister Nan is also too cruel."
"Smile and smile"
In fact, Wang Nan did not love the child, and did not feel sorry for the child
But because of this, she will not relax her requirements for her daughter
As an Olympic champion, a comer
Wang Nan himself has also undergone various arduous trainings to get all the way to today
Therefore, she knew better than anyone that a girl could not relax in the slightest if she wanted to excel
So no matter what others say, even if the child's father objects
Wang Nan has always insisted on strict requirements for her daughter, and every time she trains, she will ask her daughter to meet the standards of action over and over again
Sometimes the child cries because of the loss, and Wang Nan will tell her
"Winning and losing is a normal thing, don't cry when you lose, think about how to train and then win back"
In Wang Nan's view, a girl wants to become excellent in society in the future and achieve something
In addition to excellent professional skills, it is also necessary to have a heart that can withstand polishing and skin
Indeed, even today, when men and women are equal
The living space left for girls in society is also much more complex and narrow than that of boys
And with the advancement of science and technology and society, the problems faced by children will become richer and more difficult
Therefore, as parents, we must be a little more ruthless
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Excellent girl, her parents are willing to let her suffer
Many people will feel that the current economic conditions are so good
There is no need to let children suffer
Indeed, the physical environment is much better now than it was then
But today's children face more problems, especially mental problems than we do
Therefore, it is still necessary to sharpen the child's mind by suffering hardships
Just as the so-called hundreds of steel are refined, children who have not suffered hardships will not be able to grow strong armor
As parents, we must understand that throughout the life of a child
We can't protect her all the time, her life, her problems, or face them ourselves
I have seen such a case
A mother who grew up in order to raise her daughter forced her child to practice the piano every day
If she didn't finish the day's planned tracks, the mother wouldn't let her daughter go to sleep
Sometimes the bullet is wrong, or the daughter is distracted
Mom would also beat her harshly with a ruler
So at that time, girls hated their mothers very much
Especially when she saw other children playing happily
I felt even more pitiful, and my mother's face was incomparably hateful
But many years later, when she graduated with a doctorate, she looked back and was very grateful to her mother
She said "it was those harsh years that taught her to focus, learn to persevere, learn to fight hard for a goal until it was fully achieved."
You can't see a rainbow without experiencing wind and rain
Only those girls who have suffered hardships can sharpen their strong will and confidence and courage in the face of wind and rain in the process of perseverance
If you want to cultivate a good girl, you must be willing to let her suffer
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Excellent girls, parents are not spoiled
There are many pitfalls in life
One of the earliest and biggest traps is nothing less than parents' pampering of their children
Many children, who grow up under the protection of their parents, do not feel hardship and pain, and therefore lack the opportunity to grow
In this way, when they grow up, they are often still the same fragile
Once you encounter setbacks and tribulations, it is easy to become depressed
Writer Liu Jirong once told a story about his own experience
When her daughter was a child, Liu Jirong was very fond of her, but after going to school, her daughter often ran into a wall because she was not strong enough
In the third grade of elementary school, the teacher once transferred her daughter from the third row to the fourth row
At this point, Liu Jirong's daughter couldn't stand it and cried on the spot
The teacher told her to ignore it
In the end, the whole class laughed at her, and as a result, the girl became bored with school, and Liu Jirong had to apply for a transfer for her
The writer Zweig once wrote that all the gifts of fate are actually secretly marked with a price tag
For girls, the pampering of parents is tantamount to such a gift
One day the girl will be asked to double down on returning it
I have a friend whose parents have only one child
Therefore, from childhood, I was afraid of falling in my hand, and I was afraid of melting in my mouth, and I was willing to accommodate and pamper in every way
From kindergarten to primary school, her study was three days to play the net and two days to dry fish, and she could not take leave at every turn
As a result, by junior high school, I couldn't keep up with the curriculum at all
At this time, her parents still only cared about the pain of the child, and they were reluctant to let her eat at all
Eventually she paid for a technical school
Now I am at home all day, I don't do any work, and people are becoming more and more sloppy and autistic
As a parent, don't spoil your daughter too much
Otherwise, it will make the daughter suffer in the future and finally harm the child's life
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Excellent girls, parents are fierce
Some people say that behind every good girl, there is a cruel parent
Generally speaking, if you want your child to become independent and excellent, cheerful and confident
Parents have to do these 3 "fierce" things
The first fierce: cut off the child's dependence on himself
I saw such a case the other day
A girl wants to eat grapefruit, but she can't peel it
So he ran to his mother for help
At this time, her mother did not immediately help her peel the grapefruit
Instead, I went to find another one and asked the girl to peel it off along with her own step demonstration
In the end, the girls not only learned to peel grapefruit themselves, but also fell in love with peeling for their families
Many times, we treat our own girls
Don't let her rely too much, but learn to cultivate your child's independence
When difficulties come, don't make a big deal out of it, sometimes you just need to push it gently, and the child himself will move forward
And such girls, whether facing work or family in the future, believe that they will not be easily defeated by difficulties
Instead, it will be handled very well
The second fierce: cut off the willfulness of the child
Mr. Yu Shiwei, a well-known expert in management education, once shared such an experience
His daughter was very obsessed with cartoons as a child
Every night she would sit in front of the TV and watch TV, so many times her parents asked her for dinner, but she ignored it
Anyway, her mother would always leave her food after the fact, and there were all kinds of snacks in the house
Therefore, his daughter was unscrupulously willful, and at this time Yu Shiwei thought of a way
He put away all his daughter's snacks and deliberately did not leave her food
As a result, the next day at dinner, my daughter consciously sat down at the table
In life, I often see some girls, not princesses, but behave like princesses
Not only did it add to her life's unhappiness, but it also made many people consciously alienate her
As parents, we must not indulge the waywardness of girls
Remember that only children become well-behaved and polite
Getting along with people has come and gone, and the child's life will be happier
Third, cut off the inertia of the child
Lazy people have no future
In life, we often see some people who are hot for three minutes from a young age and can't stick to anything
Eat a little pain and get a little tired and like to shout stop
Such children, when they grow up, are mostly not out of breath
On the contrary, if a parent supervises the child from an early age, teaches her to be diligent and gives her perseverance
Then girls will be full of energy in their future lives, and they will be more determined and tenacious when things happen
As a result, it will also be easier to succeed
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