The 99th emphasis: A good father can stand up to 100 good teachers, and all fathers should look at it
The company of the father is the source of the child's childhood happiness
It is also the decisive force for a lifetime of happiness
This role, even mothers can not replace
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Some time ago, I saw a very warm and loving picture on the Internet
A family of five, namely father, three daughters, and a son
The five of them were bowing their heads and writing calligraphy on the table, only to see five of them engrossed, not even the youngest boy distracted
Later, as the calligraphy was completed, Dad began to accompany the children to do their homework again, and did not go to bed until very late
What is even more distressing is that the next morning, it is still dad who gets up early to cook
Accompanying the daughters to read in the morning is also the father
This dad can be said to be very dedicated, and in his spare time, he will play the game of idiom solitaire with the children
It is precisely because of Dad's attentive companionship
His children are also very good
The Tao Te Ching of the eldest daughter, the Thousand Character Text of the second daughter, and the Three Character Sutra of the third daughter
They are all neatly copied and have a look
Even the youngest son has already glimpsed the doorway in calligraphy and is learning to control the pen
As for idioms, children's mastery is also very high
After reading the deeds of this father, many netizens have issued praise
I think such a father is really exemplary, and he is also envious of his wife and children, and some netizens said
"This kind of companionship is the biggest gift to the child, which is much more meaningful than earning a bunch of tickets for the child."
Yeah, for kids
More than material, they need the companionship and love of their parents, especially their fathers
It directly affects the happiness of children's childhood and the future pattern of life
01
Dad is irreplaceable by anyone
The famous writer Liu Jirong once told about one of his own experiences
She said she once did a parent-child test with her son
Face many questions on the test
For example, who you have a better relationship with, who teaches you more, etc., she and her son have chosen the "mom" option
She is very proud of this, and she is very proud of her usual wholehearted and generous education of her children
She felt like the perfect mom
As a result, after the test results came out, she was stupid
Because the results showed that their family's parent-child education was only 50 points, the reason was that the child lacked the company of his father
And this will undoubtedly cause the child's character development to be unsound!
It was also this test that Liu Jirong suddenly realized
Her own daughter is indeed very introverted and shy, and usually does not dare to try anything
So when she woke up like a dream, she never stopped the child's father from taking his daughter crazy and playing
After a period of time, under the company and drive of her father, her daughter became more and more cheerful and confident, and her body became much stronger
Psychologist Gerdy once said
Fathers are a unique being and have a special power to nurture children.
Please remember that in the process of children's growth, parents should be indispensable and cannot replace each other
02
Dad is the best mentor for a child's life
I don't know if you feel the same way
The hearts of life are always willing to talk more to their mothers, and most of the major events related to various life decisions want to ask their fathers for advice
Compared to the gentleness and thoughtfulness of the mother, everything is no big or small
Dad is more like a beacon that points the way at critical moments, a mentor in our lives
The host, Sabine, said so
If it were not for his father guiding and accompanying him, his path to fame would not have been so smooth and smooth
According to him, in the year he graduated from elementary school, he lost touch with the key primary school with only 0.5 points, and the mood at that time can be said to have fallen to the bottom
At one point, he even wanted to give up school, and it was at this time that dad chose to take him on a trip
Walking down in a circle, he saw a lot of the above at a young age, and he was naturally full of fantasies about the future again
And Dad took the opportunity to tell him
"The road of life is very long, don't give up easily"
It was from this time on that whenever he encountered setbacks, he would remember his father's teachings, and every time he could cheer up from it and continue to forge ahead
Some people say that a good dad can top 100 good teachers
As the British psychologist Elfer said
"The influence of fathers on children is huge, and they will penetrate into the blood of children bit by bit and embed them in the souls of children."
03
The spiritual companionship of the father is the backbone of the child's growth
I've seen such a story
In a certain area of Shandong, there is a father who wants to create a good living environment for his children
So from the birth of his child, he went to Shanghai to work
For ten years, except for a few days during the New Year, he and his son had hardly had any communication
Time flew by, and this year his son was 12 years old
One day, he was at work when he received a call from the Shanghai Public Security Bureau saying that his son had been arrested for theft at the station
The father had to hurry over, pay the fine, and take his son back home
Because of his busy work, he reprimanded the child, did not ask much, and left to continue to earn money
Not long after, he went to Nanjing to work, but he did not expect to go to work for a few days, and then received a call from the Nanjing police station
My son is stealing money in Nanjing again!
This time The father couldn't figure it out, this child is not good at home to study, follow his own footprints everywhere, this is why
What shocked him even more was that in the face of the police and himself, the child actually took the initiative to ask to enter the juvenile detention center!
In fact, this is not difficult to explain
For the child, his every move seems to be revenge on the father, but in fact, it is because of the inner desire for the father's companionship and discipline
There are many examples of this in life, too, because fathers don't pay attention
Or either hit or scold, the child gradually embarked on a crooked road
A survey was conducted by a children's educational institution and found that
71% of teenagers who drop out of school are due to the lack of their father's company
And 63% of adolescents who commit suicide are from families that lack paternal love
As parents, we have to admit that the spiritual companionship of the father is the wind and bone of the child's life
Children who are accompanied and disciplined by their fathers tend to be more self-disciplined and self-loving
04
Dad's words and deeds are the best example for children
Some people say that the family is the best school and the parents are the best teachers
As Teacher Li Meijin said
You give everything you can to buy the best school district houses and give your kids the best schools
In fact, it is not as good as giving children a good home education
Some time ago I saw such a news
A father in Shenzhen, because of his daughter in the first year of junior high school, her grades declined and her studies were not effective
So he decided to accompany his daughter to the first year of junior high school again
Picking up and dropping off my daughter every day, I also have to help my daughter do my homework at night, and I also bought a set of questions to accompany my daughter to do it
In the past, he chased dramas, brushed videos, and went out to parties whenever he had time, and now he threw himself on his daughter
In this way, soon the daughter had obvious progress
Many times, the power of example is infinite
In particular, the role model of the father can make the child feel motivated and driven
Psychologists have said this
The same sentence, dad said out, will be 50 times more effective than mom said
05
The most important mission of a father is to accompany his children to grow up
Many dads feel like their family mission
It is desperate to make money to support the family, as for accompanying the child and educating the child, it should be the mother's mission
But forget, for children
Their growth is also inseparable from the company of their fathers
As the writer Fan Jin wrote in "Family Education: My Story"
"Father's greatest mission is not to create a life, but to accompany a life, so that he can grow up healthily in a loving environment."
A qualified father should accompany his children from an early age
Complement the attentive and soft-hearted moms and give full play to their masculine strength
Help children develop good living and learning habits from an early age, in addition, fathers should take their children to exercise more
In your free time, take your children to run, climb mountains, and play games
At this time, it can not only help to exercise the child's body, but also enhance their willpower and make them more courageous and confident
Finally, a qualified father should also be the child's most trusted friend
According to a joint study by the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, Harvard University and the University of Pennsylvania, high-frequency conversation can not only make children smarter and more social, but also make the parent-child relationship more harmonious
As a father, you should talk more with your children in elementary school, increase your child's trust, and let your child feel that you are being concerned
At the same time, it is also convenient for parents to grasp the dynamics of their children, so as to better help their children and guide their children
06
The growth of children is irreversible, and fathers must not ignore it
I saw such a video that day
A father came home from a six-month job and hurried to school to pick up his son
But when the child came out, he couldn't recognize his father, and even when the father walked up to his son, the son couldn't tell
Obviously, they are close relatives, but they are estranged to this point, which is really sad
As dads, we should understand
Time flies, and the growth of a child is an irreversible one-way street, and once you miss it, you can no longer catch up
Cherish the time now and spend time with your child
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