#1
As the saying goes, "Lao Tzu is a hero and a good man." There is also the saying that "the dragon gives birth to the dragon, and the phoenix gives birth to the phoenix", which means that as long as the parents are a very good person, then there is a high probability that their children can be as good as themselves.
Many parents "hope that the child will become a dragon, and the girl will become a phoenix" is this meaning, like many parents who have graduated from famous schools, they are not willing to let their children's academic performance be mediocre. But sometimes it backfires...
Recently, a video of a mother sharing her parenting experience has attracted the attention and discussion of many netizens. The mother said that she and the child's father are "985" master's degree, the son from the first grade of primary school, the father basically accompanied him every day to do homework, homework, the result is now in the third year of high school, the grades are still no improvement, the father even because of the tutoring homework qi disease.
But in fact, such examples are not in the minority, and not all parents can teach their children.
In genetics, there is a kind of IQ inheritance called "mean reversion", which means that the high IQ of parents is not necessarily all inherited to the child, and the IQ of the baby will tend to the mass level.
Therefore, learning to accept the child's ordinariness is a course that many parents may not want to take but have to take.
#2
Writer Liu Jirong once had an article that spoke to the hearts of countless people, entitled "I want to be a person who applauds on the side of the road.".
In the article, she recounts her daughter's education experience. Like many children, learning is not high or low in the middle of the class, there is no interest that can be shown off, Liu Jirong is very anxious, but also tried a variety of methods, but the results are very small, the daughter's grades have not improved, and finally had to give up.
But what Liu Jirong did not expect was that in the "My Favorite Person" activity vote in the class, her daughter won the trust of her classmates because of her open-mindedness, enthusiasm and friendliness, and was almost unanimously elected. The daughter told Liu Jirong:
"When the hero passes by, someone has to sit on the side of the road and applaud. Mom, I just want to be a guy who applauds the hero on the side of the road. ”
At that moment, Liu Jirong suddenly understood. Poor academic performance does not mean that her daughter is useless, on the contrary, she is very good in other aspects, and she has gained the love of so many classmates in the class. It's just that she is always confined to the mud of grades and scores, and she can't extricate herself, thinking that only children with good grades are heroes, and I don't know that my daughter has long found a piece of the sky that belongs to her.
#3
Learning to accept the child's imperfection is the saddest "hurdle" in the hearts of parents.
Excellent parents must hope that their children are also good enough, such ideas and requirements are also understandable, but not all children can grow according to their parents' ideas, they have their own way to go.
Parents can not impose their own ideas on their children, all education must start from the children themselves, parents can only act as a guide to lead the children forward.
How should I do this?
First, parents grow and progress with their children
Students will experience a lot of changes on the road of life, and parents should also change their education methods accordingly, and cannot "go to the world in one move".
Second, parents and children should understand each other
Parents understand the pressure of students' learning, and children should be considerate of their parents' good intentions, so that they can establish a good parent-child relationship, and the quality of the relationship has a great impact on the growth of children.
Third, do not impose ideas on the child himself
As a parent, no matter whether you are excellent or not, you can not impose ideas on your children, starting from the development needs of children, parents guide and correct from the side, do not confuse the primary and secondary, students are the mainstay, parents are supplemented, and the joint efforts of both sides will make rapid progress.
The child is a slowly opening flower, and he cannot be evaluated one-sidedly and singlely.
As long as the child does his best, even if the child's grades and growth are not as satisfactory as they think, we must still respect the child's choice and not set the future for them.
What's not to do with allowing a child to be an ordinary, ordinary person? They have their own shining points, physical and mental health, happiness and happiness. Believe that their lives can also shine.
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