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In 2016, 38-year-old Wang Nan had a second child as he wished.
For 46-year-old Guo Bin, the arrival of his daughter is simply the greatest gift from God, and he named his daughter "Xiaoxiao", which means that his daughter will laugh all her life.
At that time, Guo Bin never expected that his daughter, who was regarded as the pearl of his palm, would suffer the hardships that his mother Wang Nan had endured in the future!
In his words: At that time, I didn't understand why Wang Nan let her daughter take this road, obviously this road, she herself knew how bitter it was!
And the path Wang Nan chose for her daughter was to inherit her mantle and continue to play table tennis.
When Xiaoxiao was 4 years old, she officially started playing, and her mother Wang Nan was her first coach.
At first, Guo Bin did not object to learning to play, and even a little proud, every time he saw Wang Nan taking his daughter to play, he also joked that "this is a big champion with a small champion".
Because in Guo Bin's eyes, playing table tennis is at most a hobby, and he never thought in his heart that his daughter would really follow the path of an athlete.
It wasn't until he saw his 4-year-old daughter who was "reprimanded and cried" by Wang Nan countless times that Guo Bin really realized that things had exceeded his imagination.
In Guo Bin's memories, the two years when Xiaoxiao first learned to play were the two years when he quarreled with Wang Nan the most, because he felt that Wang Nan was too demanding of his daughter!
"The serve is not up to the requirements, you have to practice more!"
"If you can't swing the racket many times, you will be punished!"
"I can't get up physically, push-ups!"
In order to meet Wang Nan's requirements, Xiaoxiao is often so tired that she cries, and whenever she sees her daughter crying, Guo Bin can't help but argue with Wang Nan and strongly asks her daughter to stop training!
When the dispute continued, Guo Bin was also very angry, and he asked Wang Nan: Do you have to make your daughter so bitter? It is good to cultivate children's interests, but is it necessary to let children suffer such a great crime?
Not only did Guo Bin not understand, but his relatives and friends also felt that Wang Nan was too strict.
Even many people persuaded Wang Nan, "It's true that you are a "Grand Slam", but does your daughter have to follow your old path? Why do you have to let your daughter suffer the hardships you endured back then! ”
After all, with the economic conditions of Wang Nan and Guo Bin, Xiaoxiao can obviously "lie down and win" to be a little princess, and there is no need to go through tempering at a young age.
But no matter how the outside world questioned it, Wang Nan was unwavering, she said: "Xiaoxiao is a girl, but you can't be pampered just because she is a girl, and you can't stop fighting by yourself because she was born in a privileged environment." ”
In Wang Nan's view, no matter how good the parents are, the children will have to rely on themselves in the future, because the children who have a future can fly by themselves, and the more wealth the parents leave behind for a child who has no income, it will harm him.
Therefore, she insisted on "tempering" her daughter, so that her daughter understood from an early age that no matter what conditions a person is, the biggest backer will always be herself.
Wang Nan, who was firm at that time, didn't expect that in just 4 years, her daughter would change so much!
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In 2024, Xiaoxiao will be 8 years old, and compared with children of the same age, she can no longer be defined by "excellent".
Because her "excellence" is no longer measured by how many points she has scored in the study test or how many honors she has won, but that she has the calmness and tenacity that far surpasses her peers.
For example, when children of the same age still need to be supervised by their parents when they write their homework, Xiaoxiao can already achieve both learning and training.
When you train in a day, when you go to class, and when you do your homework, you can balance it with a smile and smile at yourself, and you don't need parents and teachers to worry about it at all.
Guo Bin once had a smile on his schedule: usually playing ball training in the morning, studying in class in the afternoon, and writing homework in the evening.
But after training, Xiaoxiao often writes test papers directly on the playing table, or listens to English in the interval between taking the car home, because of the time squeezed out, Xiaoxiao can do more things she likes, such as playing the piano and drawing.
In this regard, Guo Bin also joked that the busiest person in the family is his daughter, and sometimes he wants to chat with his daughter, so he can only take advantage of his daughter's time to soak her feet at night, because her daughter has arrangements for other times.
For example, when many parents are still worried about their children's clothing and food, and are worried that they will not be able to take care of themselves without their parents, Xiaoxiao has already started to play games all over the country.
From packing suitcases to taking transportation to the destination, Xiaoxiao doesn't have to worry too much about the teacher who leads the team, because she can do it alone, how to take the high-speed rail, how to take the plane, how to spend the rushing journey, how to face the unfamiliar environment, Xiaoxiao has long been accustomed to it.
For another example, children of the same age will be at a loss in many cases if they encounter an unexpected situation, but the smile mentality is particularly stable and the willpower is very firm.
Guo Bin also sighed infinitely when his daughter was so calm at a young age, he said that ordinary children, if they encounter a cold and fever, they may not want to do anything, but when they smile and have a fever, they still ask to continue training, because she feels that they can persevere.
Even adults are afraid to pull out their teeth, and after laughing and laughing, they ridicule it as "drizzle".
In addition to independence and tenacity, the most admirable thing about Xiaoxiao is her character and upbringing.
For example, when practicing in the stadium, after playing, Xiaoxiao will compete to help the coach pick up the ball, take the initiative to stay and clean up, and clean up the garbage left by his teammates.
It is said that she is the youngest child in the team and Wang Nan's daughter, and these things are generally not her turn to do, but Xiaoxiao has long been accustomed to it, and she doesn't feel anything wrong at all.
For example, Xiaoxiao plays a game, no matter whether she wins or loses, her face is quite calm, if the game is won, she will applaud her opponent, and if the game is lost, she will also shake hands with her opponent politely.
For another example, Xiaoxiao likes to help children very much, whether it is in the stadium or at school, she is a "warm-hearted", in Guo Bin's words, she is a "little Wang Nan", because Wang Nan is such a person.
So, the question is?
How did Xiaoxiao get so good, self-disciplined, and emotionally stable?
The hero behind this, naturally, the biggest is his mother Wang Nan.
In Guo Bin's words, we all know that Wang Nan used to be an Olympic champion who killed all sides, but in fact, in my opinion, Wang Nan is better than being a champion.
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The reason why Xiaoxiao is now strong willpower and can be light in the face of pressure.
That's because Wang Nan practiced with Xiaoxiao day after day, from watching her daughter cry and cry, to letting her daughter gradually adapt to training, her mentality became stronger and stronger, the whole process was cruel and harsh, and the soft-hearted mother may not be able to hold on at all, but the firm Wang Nan has now let her daughter practice her muscles.
And when it comes to Xiaoxiao's self-discipline and independence, it is also the result of Wang Nan's dedication and companionship.
Since Xiaoxiao was sensible, Wang Nan has begun to cultivate Xiaoxiao's independent ability, since the age of 3, Xiaoxiao has begun to do housework, mopping the floor, taking out the garbage, and washing dishes; After being a little older, Wang Nan began to let go, letting Xiaoxiao enter the training camp alone and follow the coach around to compete.
As for learning, Xiaoxiao's ability to be so self-disciplined is also influenced by Wang Nan.
Wang Nan has always asked Xiaoxiao, to focus on everything you do, but also to have a plan, only if you control the time yourself, can you learn to grasp the overall situation.
In addition, Wang Nan has also been working hard to create a learning environment for Xiaoxiao, for example, when Xiaoxiao is at home, Wang Nan rarely looks at his mobile phone, but accompanies Xiaoxiao with all his might, Xiaoxiao reads, Xiaoxiao reads, Xiaoxiao paints, Wang Nan also paints.
As for Xiaoxiao's character and upbringing, in addition to "close to Zhu Zhechi", it is inseparable from Wang Nan's guidance and education.
For example, Xiaoxiao also made a lot of mistakes when she grew up: because she had no concept of time, she was late for practice; also contradicted the coach because of disobedience; The most worrying "desire to win" and the inability to do things are the most worrying for parents, etc., and there have been smiles.
In the face of these problems, Wang Nan is also well managed, and he must be strict.
For example, in the "late" part, Wang Nanka's card is particularly tight, as long as he is late with a smile, he must be punished; Another example is talking back to the coach, Wang Nan also has zero tolerance, she told Xiaoxiao that if you want to play well, you must first be a good person, and the coach is someone you must respect.
And when it was time to relax, Wang Nan also knew how to guide children.
For example, Xiaoxiao's "desire to win", because of his young age and little experience on the court, Xiaoxiao went out to play, and most of them lost more and won less, at this time Wang Nan would not be angry and blamed, but would comfort Xiaoxiao.
If you want to win, you must first learn to lose, you are not ashamed of losing, and you are ashamed of losing; Moreover, when you lose, it's useless to cry, and it's even more useless to give up, you can only win back next time if you wipe away your tears and continue to work hard.
It is Wang Nan's persistence and companionship that Xiaoxiao has come to this day step by step, and has become the "child who repays the favor" that many parents dream of.
Today's smile can be called a model of all-round development.
In table tennis, after 4 years of training, she has not only greatly improved her skills, but now she is also competing everywhere to improve her ability and experience.
At most, Xiaoxiao played nearly 60 games in 3 and a half days, and this kind of physical strength and perseverance is really not something that ordinary children can have.
In addition to table tennis, Xiaoxiao also has a wide range of hobbies in other sports.
Rock climbing, boxing, horseback riding, these sports that adults may not dare to try, smile but not afraid at all, try to ask an 8-year-old girl, can have such a psychological quality, it is really not simple!
In terms of study, although Xiaoxiao only takes half a day of classes every day, she does not rank in the top three in the class in every exam, and she has nearly full marks in mathematics, English, and Chinese.
Originally, I thought that Xiaoxiao was tired enough than ordinary children, after all, in addition to studying, she also had training tasks, but she still had time to learn to draw and play the piano.
Later, I learned that Xiaoxiao regarded painting and playing the piano as a rest and relaxation, and did not take it as a task to complete.
If you think the above is very powerful, but this is not the most admirable thing about Xiaoxiao.
What she admires most is her personality.
First, don't be vain, don't compare.
The clothes Xiaoxiao wears have never been famous brands, she is either sportswear, or the clothes that her mother bought one size older, and now she even starts to wear her brother's "second-hand" clothes.
Will this depress the child's self-esteem? Wang Nan and Guo Bin are not worried, they instill in their children the concept that the simpler the material, the happier they are, the clothes and shoes are for the warmth of the body, not for comparison, and the real strength never depends on appearance.
Second, be pragmatic and simple, and be careful in budgeting.
Although Wang Nan and Guo Bin have long been wealthy, they have let their children learn to live a "hard life", and they must not waste and squander it because of their wealthy family.
For example, Xiaoxiao's monthly pocket money is only 150 yuan, and Wang Nan does not interfere with what snacks are bought with this money, but if you buy it and don't eat it, the pocket money will be halved directly next month.
That's right, she eats with a smile and is never picky about dressing, because she has understood since she was a child that wealth is not easy to come by.
Third, she understands why "real and lasting happiness".
Compared with children of the same age who are immersed in mobile phones and games, the joy of laughter comes from sports and experience.
She likes to sweat on the court, to play against opponents on the field, and to feel the liveliness and excitement of various activities in her free time.
Seeing such a smile, I couldn't help but admire Wang Nan even more!
She can clearly shelter her daughter under her, but she still chooses to let her daughter grow wings to fly alone; She can obviously let her daughter "lie down and win", but she still insists that her daughter understand what struggle is.
With such a mother as an example, I believe that the smile in the future, even if she does not shine in the table tennis world, what Wang Nan taught her is enough to live a good life!