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Be a person to be atmospheric, do not casually covet some small cheap, greedy and cheap people will often be looked down upon. Because greed is small and cheap, it is easy to be deceived, and greedy and small profits and big gains often occur. For example, some people lend money to unreliable people in order to covet high interest rates, and as a result, they even lose the principal.
In family life, we must also be atmospheric, don't count your own people, this is a joke. Besides, money is something outside the body after all, and life does not bring death. In order to covet a little cheap and make the family disharmony, this is not worth the loss.
Between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, do not have the idea of greed and cheapness, the daughter-in-law enters the door, it is her own person. The mother-in-law takes advantage of the daughter-in-law, which makes the daughter-in-law think of the mother-in-law? The daughter-in-law should not take advantage of the mother-in-law's small advantage, no matter what, the mother-in-law is the husband's mother-in-law, and she must not look at the monk's face but also look at the Buddha's face!
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After the daughter-in-law gave birth, relatives and friends came to visit her and the child with gifts, and the mother-in-law actively put the gifts in her room. After the daughter-in-law was full moon, when she went to get the gift, she found that the gift was gone.
This is what happened to Xu Qingrou's family, Xu Qingrou saw that so many gifts were missing, and she was suddenly angry. Later, she resolutely did not want her mother-in-law to help her with the child, and she felt that her mother-in-law was like a thief. Let's hear the story of their family
Self-narrator: Xu Qingrou
Age: 29 years old
Occupation: Stay-at-home mom
City: Jiayuguan
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After my husband and I got married, I was going to have a child for my mother-in-law to bring, but what happened later made me completely change my mind. I think that if I let my mother-in-law take the child, the child will be damaged by her, and I don't want the child to become a person like the mother-in-law.
Before getting married, I didn't have contact with my mother-in-law a few times, so I didn't know much about my mother-in-law's personality. After getting married, I lived with my mother-in-law, and I found that my mother-in-law was a person who especially liked to be greedy and cheap.
For example, when I accompany her to go shopping, she always has to bargain with people for half a day. When the price is good and buys good things, she will take some more from others. She always quarreled with people for these things, and I felt embarrassed to buy things with her.
Once, my husband, my husband, and my mother-in-law went shopping in a mall, and the mall happened to be doing an event. In order to ask for a free barrel of oil, the mother-in-law insisted on staying in the mall and refusing to go, and as a result, she did not get the barrel of oil until nearly 12 o'clock at night. My husband and I are so angry that we have to go to work tomorrow, but my mother-in-law doesn't care about this.
Because of the mother-in-law's greed and cheapness, I had friction with her, and she felt that I was not refined, and I did not take advantage of the cheap; I thought she was too refined, and I loved to take advantage of anything cheap. Because of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, my husband and I later moved out to live alone, and the house was bought with a loan.
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I was pregnant, my mother-in-law was very happy to know, and my husband said to let her take the child, and she agreed. Her husband also told her not to mess with me in the future, don't worry about some trivial things, and her mother-in-law also agreed.
After I was pregnant in October, I gave birth to a daughter, and my mother-in-law was a little upset when she heard that it was a girl, but she still came to take care of me. The day after the mother-in-law came, her husband gave her 2,000 yuan to buy vegetables and said that he would give it to her after spending it.
But after only a week, the mother-in-law asked her husband for money again, and the husband said how to spend it so fast. My mother-in-law said that the price is high now, and I have to buy good vegetables for me, of course, the money is spent quickly. In fact, the dishes my mother-in-law bought for me didn't need much money at all, she just greedily asked for money herself.
When relatives and friends knew that I had a baby, they all came to visit me and my child, and they all came with a lot of gifts. Most of these gifts are nutritional supplements for my body, and I am confinement, and I want to wait until the end of the confinement to eat.
Every time relatives and friends left, the mother-in-law immediately took the gift to the second bedroom where she lived. She said the gifts were placed in the living room, and when other relatives and friends came, they looked bad. It is too crowded in our master bedroom, which will affect my husband and I to rest, so let's put it in the second bedroom where she lives!
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During the month, the father-in-law came several times, the first time he took the initiative to come, and the next few times his mother-in-law called him to come. At that time, I was lying in bed taking care of the children, and my husband went to work, so I didn't know when my father-in-law left. My mother-in-law also went back several times, all in the morning and again in the afternoon.
When I was confined for nearly 20 days, my mother-in-law asked my husband for money, and my husband felt a little overwhelmed, and we still had to repay the loan! I told my husband that my mother-in-law must have secretly embezzled some vegetable money, and she loved to take advantage of it so much, and now it is a great opportunity.
The husband went to talk about her mother-in-law, saying that she loved to take advantage of her outside, and now she also loves to take advantage of her son's house. The mother-in-law was very angry, saying that her son framed her, and the mother and son quarreled. After the fight, the mother-in-law said that I provoked it and gritted her teeth in hatred for me.
Because she was angry with me, the next day my mother-in-law only made me two dishes, one vegetable, and the other put a few shredded meat, even if it was meat dishes. I said eating such a dish, where did I get the milk to feed the child, and my mother-in-law quarreled with me.
I confinement for a month, my husband gave my mother-in-law a total of 6,000 yuan of vegetable gold, which is our usual two or three months of vegetable money. I think that if I let my mother-in-law help us with our children, then my salary is not enough to buy vegetables. So, I began to waver to let my mother-in-law take the child, and my husband was a little worried.
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After the confinement, I went to the next bedroom to get a box of gifts bought by relatives and friends, and found that there was no box of gifts in the room. My mother-in-law was choosing dishes in the kitchen, so I asked my mother-in-law what was going on, relatives and friends bought so many gifts, why didn't they have any?
The mother-in-law said disapprovingly that she had asked the old man to bring it back, because those things were going to expire here. I wonder, what is this called? If the gift is to expire in my home, then it will not expire when it is placed in the in-laws' house?
The mother-in-law also said that I was breastfeeding and could not take supplements, and her son did not eat supplements since he was a child, so she took those supplements back. In case she's going to visit a patient or something like that, she doesn't have to spend any more money to buy them, and she can carry these things with her.
I was so angry that I couldn't say anything, this mother-in-law was so delicate, how could I not count her. So I immediately decided that I didn't need her to help me with the child, and I resigned to bring it myself. If you let your mother-in-law take the child, I don't know how many things I have to do, she really loves to take advantage.
My husband came back from work and I told him about the gift, and he was surprised! I told my husband about being a full-time mother, and my husband did not object, but went to let my mother-in-law go home.
epilogue:
Some people love to take advantage of it, and when they get used to it, they will take advantage of it wherever they want. Xu Qingrou's mother-in-law has loved to take advantage of her all her life, which has been engraved in her bones, so she went to her son's house to serve her daughter-in-law to sit on the confinement, and she also wanted to take advantage of it.
When encountering someone like Xu Qingrou's mother-in-law, it is better for the daughter-in-law to live separately from her, and if she lives together every day, she will definitely have a contradiction. The mother-in-law loves to take advantage of her all her life, it is difficult to change, the country is easy to change, and the nature is difficult to move. If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can't come together, living together is only harmful, there is no benefit.
A person who loves to take advantage of himself too much, it is really not good, he will not even have friends, who wants to make friends with a person who always takes advantage of himself? Xu Qingrou's mother-in-law takes advantage of her son's family, which will only make her daughter-in-law look down on her and make it difficult for her son to be a person.
Being a person is still good for the atmosphere, it is your own things to take, not your own things do not covet. There is never something in the world that is gained in vain, and at the same time it must be lost. In order to get a little cheaper, lose something bigger, that is not worth the loss.
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