In the TV series "Do You Know It or Not", Gu Tingye and Sheng Minglan were like glue when they were just married, and Gu Tingye rushed to find Sheng Minglan as soon as he was in a hurry, and he was willing to go to dinner after making love.
We envy such a marriage, sweet and mixed with enthusiasm, such a marriage will give us positive psychological hints, so that we have more courage to face the storms in life.
People at different stages, different ways of thinking, and different things they want to have.
Just like when we were young, we wished we could be supermen who saved the world, and when we grow up, it is enough to hope that we can become supermans who save ourselves.
Perhaps when you are young, the marriage that men want is vigorous, and love is interesting.
It's just that people are constantly moving forward, people can't focus on only one thing all their lives, and at this stage of middle age, the marriage they want will be different from when they were young.
In the relationship between the sexes, people to middle age, men want to live married life, are these three
A quiet marriage
Love has always been a consumable, and if a couple is married for too long, the initial vigorousness will be consumed and the freshness will be consumed.
At this time, being under the same roof for a long time, middle-aged couples will have aesthetic fatigue.
You will feel how unpleasant the other party looks, and you will feel how your marriage has become so bad.
Such a marriage can easily fall apart from one or two quarrels, even without things that violate moral boundaries, such as betrayal and domestic violence.
At this time, marriage has become an extremely noisy place for middle-aged men, because two people are arguing in addition to arguing.
Therefore, middle-aged men long for their marriage to be quieter, less quarrelsome, and more warm.
Some people say that the little couple is actually afraid of losing each other, so they always question loudly; while the old couple can always speak warmly and softly because they understand each other.
Because there is no love and noise, there is silence.
Timely communication of marriage
Marriage is a way of life, not an end, and we can't sit back and relax with it because it's been going through a long time.
Many times, it is not the sudden and huge changes that destroy a relationship, but the trivial details hidden in life that are not cared for.
Shakespeare said: "Love is not a sweet word in the shade of a flower, not a honey word in the peach blossom source, not a light tear, nor a hard compulsion, love is based on a common language." ”
Such a common language comes from timely and effective communication.
To take the simplest example – the husband and wife say that they have a classmate party and want to go out to dinner, but they have not paid attention to the wife all afternoon, and the wife is very unhappy and angry about this.
The husband feels that he has told his wife, how can it still be like this?
The wife feels that her husband is patronizing and playing, and does not care about herself at all.
No one said, it was just kept draining.
But in fact, as long as the husband says that the class reunion is very important, afraid of not replying in time to make the wife angry, he chooses to end it as soon as possible and come back to accompany his wife.
The wife also said that the reason why she was angry was that she felt that her husband did not care about him.
Three words can solve the misunderstanding, and each other knows their position in each other's hearts, killing two birds with one stone.
It can be seen that timely and effective communication can avoid a lot of unnecessary contradictions, and such a marriage is also what middle-aged men want.
Bland marriage
Lin Yutang once said: "There are only four things in life: one is to sleep in your own bed; the second is to eat meals made by your parents; the third is to listen to your lover's love words; and the fourth is to play games with your children." ”
When we were young, we always wanted to get rich overnight and earn more money so that our families could live a good life.
When we are no longer young, we will find that in fact, not all things in life will have results when we work hard.
Some things, even if they do their best, are still indifferent.
Just like Su Chun in the TV series "Snail Residence", in order to improve the economic conditions of his family, he took foreign orders privately, and as a result, he was sued by the company for "leaking company secrets", and finally went to jail.
Why bother?
It is good to have money, and everyone wants to be rich and buy whatever they want, but this also needs to be based on the actual situation, and it needs to be based on personal ability.
At the age of forty, he has gone through half a life of ups and downs, gained and lost, and after ups and downs, he found that the best happiness was around him.
The secret of happiness is not to just look at yourself as nothing, but to see more of what you have.
So, middle-aged men understand that a bland marriage is the best, the wife lives well with herself, the child is obedient and sensible, she also has a career, and every day after work, the wife prepares steaming meals in the kitchen.
"An acre of land, three cows, wife and children hot kangtou", at first sight did not think that such a marriage has anything, when it has become a person in the play, only to marvel, the original such a plain happiness is the most precious.