Emotions are not the whole of your life, but they can control your entire life. How are you feeling today? After the child enters puberty, the parents begin to be troubled because the child will have various rebellious behaviors. People who don't understand the characteristics of teenage kids may label them bad kids for that. But that's not what they really look like. Each of us goes through two retrogressive periods, the first being around the age of three, and that period is mostly retrospective. Parental restrictions on physical activity and reversals of puberty are all-encompassing, and conflict with parents can occur in many ways. Teens also have different types of rebellion. One is hard resistance, as the name suggests, is to face the collision of any thing, with a tough attitude and an impulsive personality. The second is soft resistance, humbly accepting, but resolutely not changing. It's hard to suddenly manage your child like a different person. Many of us resonate with our children's rebellion, but few know what causes it. So why are teens afraid of you? Today, Lemon will talk to you about the subjective reasons and external and objective reasons of children. From the child's subjective point of view, adolescents have a stronger sense of adulthood and independence, or want to get rid of parental supervision. The physical and mental changes of adolescent students have taken place and are therefore faced with enormous challenges, especially those brought about by psychological conflicts
The physical and mental changes of adolescent students have taken place and are therefore faced with enormous challenges, especially those brought about by psychological conflicts. On the one hand, they psychologically see themselves as adults, showing a strong pursuit of maturity, but also have a strong desire for respect, equality, and understanding. But in fact, they are still in a semi-mature state, their way of thinking about problems is still too naïve, and their social experience often lacks personality and has not yet fully developed. On the other hand, they aspire to be independent of their parents and want to solve problems themselves when they encounter them. Parents should not meddle in their own affairs, but some things sometimes have to be solved by their parents
The conflict between ideals and reality distresses them, but they refuse to express their troubles. So they began to lose their temper and resist. Objectively speaking, it may be that the parent's education method is too simple and rude, or it may be directly teaching him what he hears every day. This is what you should do, what you should not do, what you need to know. Deprivation of autonomy is naturally not acceptable. This kind of education has been suppressed for a long time, and children are even more reluctant to communicate with their parents. Children during this period also face pressures in terms of further education and interpersonal relationships. Of course, parents also have good wishes, hoping that their sons will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes
The conflict between ideals and reality distresses them, but they refuse to express their troubles. So they began to lose their temper and resist. Objectively speaking, it may be that the parent's education method is too simple and rude, or it may be directly teaching him what he hears every day. This is what you should do, what you should not do, what you need to know. Deprivation of autonomy is naturally not acceptable. This kind of education has been suppressed for a long time, and children are even more reluctant to communicate with their parents. Children during this period also face pressures in terms of further education and interpersonal relationships. Of course, parents also have good wishes, hoping that their sons will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes. But if he's tired, anxious, and faced with exams, his parents will only nag in his ear, and the result will only bring them greater mental stress. If both parents and children have emotions, it will only cause the child to be more resistant and rebellious and more difficult to control. However, a sail does not mean that it is not bad. It's not terrible that teenagers don't listen, but it's the lack of their own personality and insights that is the most frightening thing. Therefore, as parents, we should take the rebelliousness of our children in perspective and then adopt the correct educational methods. Well, that's it for today's sharing. As the saying goes, life is unsatisfactory, and there are too many things in life that make us miserable. For example, when you are rejected by others, when you are frustrated, you cannot understand. It's all about leaving your life in tatters, how do you get rid of those pains? Dabu slip willing to be your haven,