Some people say that it is a kind of courage for women to have a second child, especially those who need to do everything themselves.
Before giving birth to a second child, if there is no comprehensive and careful consideration, then after the birth of the second child, it may be the envy of outsiders, but in the end it is the woman herself who suffers.
A 37-year-old mother had an emotional breakdown in the middle of the night and posted a complaint on Weibo that she really regretted having a second child.
After giving birth to Dabao, this mother did not plan to have a second child, but she could not resist the nagging of her in-laws, and finally became a second mother some time ago.
However, Dabao had just entered elementary school, and every night he was always in a state of confusion against those pinyin letters and Chinese characters that he had never seen before.
So this mother had to take time to tutor Dabao to study, it was difficult to tutor Dabao, washed and let him go to bed, but then she could not sleep, because she had to get up in two or three hours to feed The Second Treasure Breast Milk.
But even though it was already so hard, she still had to get up on time at 6:30 a.m. because she had to catch the subway to work.
Such days day after day, let this mother feel physically and mentally exhausted, if given another chance to choose, maybe she will not rush to give birth to the second treasure.
In the comment area of this Weibo, it was fried, and many mothers have left messages, saying that they have also had such an experience, regretting that they had an impulse to give birth to a second child.
Before giving birth to the second treasure, what should the mother think?
1. Whether the economy allows it
Today's children are different from before, and with the increasingly fierce competition in society, more and higher requirements are put forward for children.
If it was said that in the past, it was just good to let children eat and wear warm, then now people value their children's education most.
If you want your child to receive a good education, then you must let your child develop in an all-round way.
In addition to the culture class, parents will also give their children a variety of interest class tutoring classes, which are undoubtedly a lot of expenses, if the family has a second child, then the pressure will naturally be greater.
2, whether the energy allows
Bringing a child requires not only patience, but also a manual task.
Because I have to spend a lot of time with them every day, I often hold them when they can't walk, and after they learn to walk, they will often stage the scene of the baby running in front and the adult chasing after them.
This does not include frequent getting up at night to feed children, children can't sleep at night, and have to play with them.
So if you don't have enough energy and physical strength, you will really make yourself collapse minute by minute, and you will be eager to stuff them into your stomach.
After having a second treasure, what should the husband do?
1. Share the housework
In many traditional families on the mainland, housework is a woman's business, and taking children is also a woman's business, and even many people will require women to be able to work hard in their careers and achieve economic independence.
However, a happy family needs to be run by husband and wife, especially for families with two children, and the husband should take the initiative to take the responsibility of taking care of the children.
In your spare time, you should also take the initiative to take on some housework, and work with your wife to make the family better.
2. Care for wives and children
Some men feel that having children is something that women should do, even after they have just had children, they will not have any booing and greetings to them, and sometimes even quarrel with them for various reasons.
But at this time, women are often the most vulnerable and need people's attention the most, especially the husband's care is more important. Spend a little more time with your wife and children, give them a little more care, and the family will be happier.