Nadya, a "foreign daughter-in-law" from Ukraine, after her husband died of cancer, carried the burden of a large family with her thin shoulders, raised three sons alone, and carefully supported her elderly in-laws.
In 2013, she was elected as the "Most Beautiful Xinxiang Person" with a large number of votes, and in 2014, she was elected as one of the "Top Ten People of the Year Who Moved the Central Plains" in Henan Province.
The face of a Westerner, a Chinese filial piety. With her kindness and warmth, she writes a chapter that moves China.
From exotic love to marriage, fight hard for the family
Nadya was born in Kiev, Ukraine, in July 1975. From a well-to-do family, she has been living a carefree life.
In 1996, Nadya was admitted to the Odessa Institute of Food Engineering in Ukraine with honors. Here, she met her future husband, Zhao Peng.
Zhao Peng, born in 1976 in Xinxiang, Henan Province, is a laid-off worker to elderly parents and has a younger sister in the family.
After Zhao Peng became an adult, he came to study at the Odessa Food Engineering College in Ukraine. Najia and Zhao Peng became classmates, and their story began from this moment.
As we all know, Ukraine is rich in beautiful women, and Nadya is no exception. With long brown thick hair, snow-white skin, and large eyes and a high nose that are unique to Westerners, she is a symbolic beauty.
In 1996, Zhao Peng, who had just arrived in a foreign country, was surrounded by lonely, repressed emotions, but Nadya's appearance brought light to his dark life.
The first time he met Najia, Zhao Peng was deeply attracted by her dignified temperament and cheerful personality.
The two were like-minded, had a good conversation, and frequent exchanges enhanced their understanding of each other, and over time, Zhao Peng found himself in love with this beautiful Ukrainian girl.
Therefore, he began to pursue Najia vigorously, and it just so happened that Najia also had a good feeling for Zhao Peng. Soon after, the two were together.
However, Nadya's parents are not optimistic about the relationship.
After understanding Zhao Peng's family background, they worried that their daughter would not be able to live a happy life with this mediocre Chinese boy, and only hoped that her daughter could work peacefully in her hometown and find a husband with good conditions to marry and have children.
However, the stubborn Nadya is unwilling to listen to her parents' arrangement, and she chooses to pursue her true love without hesitation.
In 1998, Najia and Zhao Peng finished their studies.
The 23-year-old Najia followed Zhao Peng to his hometown, Zhongjie Village, Xiaoji Town, Xinxiang.
In the countryside at that time, people from childhood to adulthood were basically faced with villagers who were already very familiar with each other, and they were rarely seen outside the village, let alone a Westerner with deep facial features and brown hair and white skin.
It is conceivable that Nadya's arrival caused quite a stir in the village. People showed curiosity about this foreign girl, and they also liked her, and they got along very well.
Here, Nadya felt a different folk custom from Ukraine and was deeply touched by the warmth and simplicity of the Xinxiang people. Since then, her determination to marry Zhao Peng has become even stronger.
Soon, the two were married in Xinxiang. Villagers rushed to see the liveliness, and even several television stations heard the news and rushed to interview, and the wedding of the two was published in the headlines of newspapers and periodicals large and small, which was memorable.
Getting married means that the two will inevitably have to face the troubles of life's small and small things such as chai, rice, oil and salt in life.
In order to make a living, they suffered a lot, traveled at home and abroad, and tried a variety of jobs.
At first, Nadya and Zhao Peng decided to return to Ukraine in search of business opportunities.
They ship small Chinese goods to Ukraine for sale. Although this guaranteed their financial life, the days of running around made the two increasingly tired.
Coupled with the lack of stamina in Ukraine's trade development industry, they slowly realized that this was obviously not a long-term solution.
Later, Zhao Peng seized a chance.
He went to Russia with his excellent Russian language proficiency and became the representative of a company in Russia.
Here, he continued to work hard, not only accumulating experience and contacts, but also laying a solid foundation for later development.
In 1999, Nadya and Zhao Peng happily welcomed their first child and made him a Ukrainian citizen.
In 2001, China successfully joined the World Trade Organization, opening up a new situation in China's foreign trade. China has officially integrated into the world economy, and the foreign trade industry is thriving.
It was in this context that Zhao Peng smelled the business opportunities and decided to return to Ningbo to start cross-border trade.
Zhao Peng founded a trading company responsible for exporting industrial parts of domestically produced automobiles to Eastern Europe and West Asia. It is also taking advantage of this shareholder wind that Zhao Peng quickly made a fortune in just a few years, and the foreign trade business was operated smoothly, and soon realized the accumulation of wealth. The two finally bought a house of their own in Ningbo.
In 2002, their second child was born and became a Ukrainian citizen.
When her husband died, she decided to stay and take care of her in-laws
In order to provide better living conditions for his wife and children, in the following years, Zhao Peng devoted himself to his career, spinning like a gyroscope from morning to night.
Zhao Peng's diligent work has made the family's living conditions better and better. However, staying up late and working overtime and not being able to eat has become a common thing, and the overload of work makes him feel that his physical condition is not as good as before.
In 2006, Nadya and Zhao Peng's third child was born, also a Ukrainian citizen.
But the joy of the arrival of new life could not withstand the sudden bad news. Zhao Peng's body collapsed because he worked day and night.
After feeling the abnormality of his body, he still exhausted his physical strength to continue to work, but he was more and more powerless.
Finally, at Najia's strong request, Zhao Peng went to the hospital for an examination. Unexpectedly, the young Zhao Peng was diagnosed with advanced liver cancer.
This result weighs heavily on this ordinary family like a thunderbolt on a sunny day. The torment of illness forced Zhao Peng to stop working and seek treatment.
At this time, Najia, who was not familiar with the land in a foreign country, helplessly took Zhao Peng everywhere to seek medical treatment and find the most authoritative doctor to treat him.
However, liver cancer is already difficult to treat, let alone advanced. After more than a year of treatment, Zhao Peng's medical expenses have swept away the family's hard-earned savings.
But despite this, Zhao Peng still could not recover, on the contrary, the condition became more and more serious.
In November 2007, zhao peng, who was only 31 years old, unfortunately passed away, leaving Najia and three children behind.
In this way, the burden of life suddenly all fell on Nadya. Faced with this dilemma, Nadya's parents in Ukraine want her to return home with her three sons.
After all, the three sons are all Ukrainian nationals and can enjoy some local parenting policies. Not only that, but the economic conditions of the mother's family can also reduce Nadya's burden as much as possible.
However, on the other side, Zhao Peng's parents also suffered great mental pain.
Their daughters were married, and their only son died at a young age, and the pain of the white-haired people sending the black-haired people gave them a fatal blow.
Especially Zhao Peng's mother, her eyes were broken with tears all day long, and her cardiovascular problems were also broken.
Under such circumstances, if the Ukrainian daughter-in-law also wants to leave with her three grandchildren, how can the two helpless old people get out of their pain and walk through the rest of their lives?
Fortunately, the kind and filial Nadya really couldn't bear to abandon her in-laws and mother-in-law, so she left.
Nadya remembers her husband saying before she died that she must let her three children study in China.
Determined to fulfill Zhao Peng's last wishes, she decided to stay in China to take care of children and the elderly.
Faced with Nadya's choice, the two old men were very touched in their hearts. Although their future lives will face great hardships and ups and downs, they still hope that their daughter-in-law can live a happy life.
They said that if Nadya wanted to marry someone else, they wouldn't stand in the way. Not only that, but they would also give their property to Nadya as a dowry.
But at that time, Nadya shook her head and said, "I don't want money, I just want the children to grow up healthy, as long as you live a long and healthy life." ”
At the same time, she made her attitude clear: she would not think about her own affairs for the time being, and the most important thing now was to support the family.
Therefore, Nadya endured the pain in her heart, took care of her husband's affairs, and began to continue to live her own life.
Since her husband's death, the family has run out of savings.
With Nadya's income alone, it is very difficult to support a family.
The four people in the family need money to eat and wear, the children's education and the living expenses of the in-laws. So Nadya had to work harder.
In order to allow the family to live a normal life, Nadya had to transfer the trading company opened by her former husband, and she found a translation job to earn a meager salary to support the family.
In addition to doing translation work, sometimes Nadya also rides a bicycle and personally delivers goods in the scorching heat.
But no matter how tired and hard she is, she is always positive and optimistic, smiling and welcoming.
Every morning, she sent her eldest and second sons to school, and then took her third son to work.
In her spare time, Nadya also teaches the children Chinese. But since her Chinese had not yet reached the point of proficiency, Nadya would carefully preview it before teaching the children every time.
In this way, under Nadya's efforts, the children are very sensible, and they will call their grandparents on weekends to tell them about their learning and recent developments.
Whenever it is a New Year, Nadya will take her children back to Xinxiang for a lively New Year, and will also take advantage of the holidays to take the children back to Ukraine to visit relatives.
While in Ukraine, Nadya also teaches her children to learn Russian in order to better communicate with their families.
Zhao Peng's parents sometimes come to Ningbo to see Najia and her three grandchildren. Sometimes, the old couple wanted to give the children a little money, but Nadya insisted that the children not accept it.
She said that the two old men's salaries were already meager, and it was enough to take care of themselves. As for the three children, I will try to take care of them.
The three children are slowly growing up, and the house of more than 40 square meters that Najia and her husband have struggled to buy in Ningbo has become a bit crowded.
Nadya's in-laws offered to give nadya some of the money to buy a new bigger house, but the sensible Nadya simply refused.
For her, the size of the house is not important, the most important thing is that the family can live together in peace and happiness.
Later, the house was transformed by Nadya into a duplex double-storey building of more than 70 square meters, and each room was cleaned and spotlessly clean.
He was elected as one of the "Top Ten People Who Touched the Central Plains"
Under the careful care of their daughter-in-law, the two elderly people gradually walked out of the pain of losing their children. Nadya's three children are also very competitive, performing well in school, with excellent grades, and proficient in Chinese, Russian and English.
Over the years, Nadya's selfless efforts, in-laws and mother-in-law have seen it in their eyes and are full of gratitude to her.
In 2013, they learned that Xinxiang City was conducting a campaign to select the "most beautiful Xinxiang people".
So Zhao Peng's 64-year-old father personally went to the selection office and told his family's experience and his daughter-in-law's inseparable.
He solemnly recommended Nadya to the jury to run: it was Nadya who let the two out of their grief and see the hope of life again.
After hearing this, the selection staff was very touched and published Nadya's story in the newspaper.
In the end, Nadya was elected "the most beautiful Xinxiangren" with a high vote.
In January 2014, Najia was selected as one of the "Top Ten People Who Touched the Central Plains", and Najia attended the award ceremony with her eldest son and father-in-law, and the family seemed to be happy and harmonious.
The organizing committee gave Najia such an award speech: "There are beautiful people in the distance, from the Black Sea, the faces of Westerners, and Chinese filial piety." ”
At the ceremony, Nadya said: "Ukraine is my hometown, and Xinxiang is also our common hometown. ”
When it comes to the pain of the past, Nadya says that it is pointless to dwell on the past, and the most important thing is to live well in the present.
After becoming famous, Nadya did not have any special wishes, just wanted to travel with her family before the New Year, and then return to Xinxiang for a lively new year.
In 2015, Nadya successfully changed her children's nationality to Chinese, making them truly Xinxiang people.
Now that the eldest son is in college and has the ability to take care of himself, Nadya's burden is much easier.
The second son, Zhao Dandan, and the third son, Zhao Weijia, with their cute and handsome mixed-race looks, have appeared in the advertising book of Shanshan children's clothing, and have become small models of many children's clothing, and they are very sensible to reduce the burden for their mothers.
It can be said that Nadya has gone through the darkest moments of her life, but fortunately, she gritted her teeth and persevered. Now, she is finally on a smooth road, and the future is bright.
Nadya, with a Western face, has a Chinese filial piety. Whether as a wife, mother or daughter-in-law, she has done it to the extreme.
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