Young people who have been working outside the home for a long time and do white things at home will still have someone to help? Yesterday, I brushed a video, the old man in the village died, the courtyard was deserted, and there were few people who came to help

Young people who have been working outside the home for a long time and do white things at home will still have someone to help? Yesterday brushed a video, the village old man died, the courtyard is cold and cold, there are very few people who come to help, they are all over sixty years old, they have prepared a banquet but no one comes to eat, and the funeral can't even find anyone who helps carry the coffin, it's really pitiful! [Tears]

After inquiring, I learned that the son of the old man worked in Suzhou for many years, returned home once a year, and rarely interacted with the people in the village, who had a red and white happy event, naturally never participated.

The people in the village pay attention to etiquette and exchanges, I have a business, you are not present. If you have something to do, I naturally won't go.

Finally, under the suggestion of "Big"(the person in charge of the rural affairs), The filial piety had no choice but to pay for the coffin to be carried, and the spirit of the person who cried was really helpless! [Tears]

After watching this video, I always feel a little afraid, our sister is the third, but also out of the house all year round, can not go home several times a year, parents have the day of old age, will we be as helpless as filial piety in the video?

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Netizen comments

My father was a soldier before liberation, and then transferred to Zhengzhou to work, and when my father died in 1991, my mother insisted that my father fall to his roots. At that time, we rarely returned to our hometown, and we did not understand the rules of funeral in our hometown. What's more, there are many relatives of our own family that we do not know. The old mother said: Your brothers will go out and prostrate their heads from house to house... Finally, the village chief and secretary of the village organized several villagers to help my brothers and sisters, and took care of my father's affairs, and almost all the people in the village came to eat that day. I had two singing classes and sang for two nights. Therefore, I think that things are man-made, but also depend on whether they are sincere...

The world is hot and cold, and the countryside is like this. The white affairs in the village can let the family help the elements, explain the reasons for the work and cannot return, most people understand.

A colleague of the unit, two sons are working outside, when the old father died, the two sons pulled a small cart of gifts door to door scattered hair!

The white neighbors of the family also have a few good neighbors to send down, no one will carry the coffin, the coffin is from their own family, and the funeral is also the main relative of the family

Very normal! My parents as long as there is a red and white happy event in the hometown, even if people have not arrived, but the ceremony will arrive, a few years ago my mother died of illness, according to the customs of the hometown, prepare four gifts such as tobacco and alcohol, my brother and I need to kneel in front of the door of the coffin to invite, but they will quickly help us up This will change with the change of the environment.

Twenty years ago, I had predicted that this would happen. The township will gradually form a professional team for fees, carrying coffins, cooking kitchens, and equipment for running banquets... Paid commercialization! Filial piety just prepares the money. The current state of society can force certain customs to change. unbelief? Wait twenty years for you to see. Now 50 or 60-year-old workers, the rural areas have not built a house or built a house are almost the same. I haven't lived in my hometown for twenty or thirty years, and I go back once every two years or once every five years.

What can you do to help the villagers? Most of the younger generations do not know each other, and their children have been studying and working part-time... It is not so simple to think that the leaves fall back to the roots. At least one-third of the people will passively cremate and passively give up burial!

No one's family marries a daughter-in-law or a dead person every day. Red and white things are used for two days, and the lively or deserted things are two or three days, and after surviving, the days after that are long. When people have something to do, you will coax them to look ugly, and in the days to come, you don't know who can use whom and who to ask for.

The face of rural people, doing white things is just to make a face, it is not as good as the old man before he died, the old man passed away, knocking and beating is not necessary, waste of money, not necessarily good for the deceased, rural customs should be changed, do not hold bad habits as treasure.

As long as your parents are still there, you must maintain clan relations, and no one's red and white celebrations can be less than a share of money, especially white things, you must burn paper money. My grandfather died, and the men in the family were working outside, but the next day every man in the family came back to help with the funeral. Afterwards, my father said that in the future, these elders in the family will have to rush back to participate, which is a courtesy exchange. In fact, up to my generation, it was already the fifth generation, and after that, it was five times.

My cousin died, no one informed me at all, after half a year I went home to get a certificate to know that he had no sons, only two daughters, no one gave him an incense burner, those old antiques in the village did not let the body enter the ancestral hall, only put it on the side of the road, if I could go back to the incense burner, his body would definitely be able to enter the ancestral hall. Now I think of my heart full of regrets, this cousin is very good to me, when he was a child, he would always quietly stuff money into me when he came back from the field, there were many biscuits, corn candy and the like, occasionally came back from the festival, and also brought a lot of delicious food to my house, I did not see him for many years after I came out to work, I did not expect to hear his news again, it was half a year after his death...

I say here we are, used to be to carry the coffin, employ many people, now all cremation, we have been cremation for more than 30 years, after someone in the family died, a phone call has a person who specializes in pulling the body to your home to pull down the cremation plant, (this person belongs to the civil affairs department) you pay for cremation, cremated with an urn, the car waiting for a piece to pull you back to pull down the grave, we have no coffin here to bury a small box, there is a public cemetery in the village, digging a pit one meter square is enough, need a lot of people, keep pace with the times, Some ideas are about to change

Coordinates Hunan Yongzhou, where we white things young people must have one to the scene, several brothers can return to one, otherwise the consequences are at their own risk.

My sisters and brothers are also out all year round, a few years can not go back to the hometown once, the relationship is good in the old man at home to respond, the former old father was in a car accident, half of the village at home are in the hospital to accompany, and the next day when we arrived home to see this scene moved

Happy events can be absent, white things must be present, personnel do not go, that is called not understanding people's affairs, of course, others will not be strong on you

In the future, the concept will also change, do not do any seats, the family will be present to mourn and commemorate it, and then go to the cemetery to bury it together, burn the paper money, and end. In fact, it is also very good, don't bother so much.

Definitely. Relationships need to be maintained. I remember when the second floor of my house was capped (the roof of the tiles, all wood, labor-intensive), there were dozens of people in the village who came to help (no wages, but managed rice).