From dad's story, I learned the view of love and marriage. When did you start to find out that your parents are getting older, and this winter, the weather is exceptionally cold, even the New Year's Eve is raining

From dad's story, I learned the view of love and marriage.

When did you start to find that your parents are getting older, this winter, the weather is particularly cold, even the New Year is raining heavily, because it is the only daughter in the family, my brother often travels away from home, and I rarely go home, only twice a year, dad because he has no pension, only rely on that poor 100 more than a month, low income to live, remember the year I worked, only took 400 yuan to go out to work, that year he suffered from kidney stones in order to save money only to take medicine treatment, Now almost 70 years old, I don't talk much, and I love to watch war movies.

When Dad was young, he loved a woman very much, and he was also a bitter woman, that woman 👩🏻, who was married from Liuzhou, Guangxi to Maoming Xinyi, Guangdong, at the age of 30, widowed.

At the age of 31, through the introduction of the matchmaker to know my father, my father belongs to the 60s, due to the poor family, many brothers and sisters, ranked third in the family, when he was a child, he listened to his grandmother 👵🏻, especially naughty, did not love to read, did not graduate from primary school, did not read, aunt in order to teach him, every day to go to those commissaries, arrested him back to school to study, he is still truant, absent from class, grandma and aunt can only the heart broken.

In the father that does not love to read, think that he is not the material of reading, the family is poor age, in order to avoid school to find excuses, to the school to apply for withdrawal, the school also agreed, after the father has been at home herding cattle, doing construction work, a day from dozens of dollars to hundreds of dollars a day, this process is with countless drops of sweat, in exchange for hard-earned money, in that material scarcity, the family is not rich age, missed the marriageable age, at the urging of parents, blind date, met the bitter woman, combined to form a family.

That bitter woman, also the second marriage bitter fate, thought that after the second marriage will really change her fate, accompanied by her father from a tile house to a tile room, from the beginning of nothing to now live in a variety of furniture, rice cooker, refrigerator, battery stove, air conditioning, black and white TELEVISION, replaced by a color TELEVISION, it seems to be going to survive out, but the result is strongly requested by his own son, go home to help with the child, give five or six thousand a month living expenses, in order not to let his mother suffer with my father, many times to the court to apply for a resignation slip, So that two people can sign and seal and complete the divorce certificate.

But because the two people love each other deeply, neither person will sign, even if the father faces the other party's strong social status in front of the law, he is full of indifference, and has always held a very tough attitude that two people who truly love each other god cannot separate them.

Unfortunately, "the weather has an unexpected storm, people have bad luck" on, 2011, May 20, I was in the fourth grade, it was a sunny summer, the bitter woman, and her two sons, drove her home, that day I was napping, was woken up by her eldest son, asked me to read the letter of legal responsibility, and told me that I had "uterine cancer", I hope that both people can cooperate with the signing and sealing of divorce, which will not affect the two people's future life with each other, and dad had to reluctantly agree to sign and seal the divorce.

That year I was only, 14 years old, ignorant of understanding the age, for this woman, only sigh, but this woman, terminally ill, but did not sigh to the fate, but also for the sake of the other party, because of concern for each other's economic conditions, do not want to increase the burden of each other's life, choose divorce, away from each other, but also do not want to let the man who has loved deeply sad for him.

Since then, Dad has not really touched a woman, has been single for more than ten years, waiting for the fate to come, from the father's story, let me feel that it is not the fate that is unfair to him, nor the impact of the original family on him, but his own inability to accept the original family, and his life goal planning is not clear, in his time, the shallow consciousness in the brain has always believed that there is no way out of reading, reading is not necessarily capable, in the end it is the older generation of thoughts, there is a big feudal and gap, He simply could not understand that reading is learning is the mastery of knowledge, and reading is the degree of personal cognition of things.

So I hope that those of us after 90.80, when choosing our own mate selection criteria, try to take a long-term view, girls, try to choose a slightly better condition, not necessarily have to have a car and a house, marry closer, also OK, boys, do not necessarily have to find girls from other places, that bride price, if it is an ordinary family, give hundreds of thousands, hundreds of thousands, just find a local bar, blind date, friends to introduce and know, the matchmaker must be reliable, must find an economic condition better than their own, have responsibility, family conditions and their own, communication without obstacles, solve problems with the opinion, do not escape the problem, have their own subjective consciousness , not a mother treasure man, not a phoenix man, through the management of themselves, to manage their own ideal type, to manage their own marriage.