Parents educate their children to have a common psychology, that is, they are afraid that their children will suffer losses, especially if the children leave their parents to go to kindergarten and primary school, we are afraid that someone will bully him. Under the parents' educational concept of "not losing losses", the growth of some children is a bit off the road.
The daughter was raised as a little bully, was dropped out of kindergarten, and the mother-in-law came and used a trick to resolve it
Lin Nan is a white-collar worker of a company, she herself graduated from graduate school, and her income is also very good. She gave birth to a daughter Nana, after the birth of the child, she has been hiring a professional sister-in-law to take the child, and then she has been a live-in nanny to help with the child, the mother-in-law is rural, she is afraid that the grandmother will not educate the child well.
Nana grew up under the love of her parents, looked very beautiful, and had a temper like a full little princess. When she was only three years old, she often instructed the nanny aunt at home to do this and that, with the style of a queen. The daughter is very domineering at home, but the mother thinks that this is not bad, and the child will not be bullied when she goes out of the house.
When my daughter went to kindergarten, my mother realized that there was something wrong with her way of educating. This child in the kindergarten, is also a state of lawlessness, like other children's toys, grab when you get started, bite, scratch, kick if you can't grab it, and use all the means that can be used.
Once, the child grabbed the other children and did not let go, the teacher went over and dragged them away, Nana actually said to the teacher: "My mother said, no one can touch me, you let go, you are a villain!" Several times, she was not inferior to the teacher, and finally the teacher said: "This child, we really can't manage, you take it home and discipline it yourself, and then go to kindergarten." ”
The child was dropped out of kindergarten, and the aunt resigned and went home. The mother had to take the grandmother from the countryside, take care of the child for a while, prepare to find a new nanny, and also look for a new kindergarten for the child.
On the first day of Grandma's arrival, Nana gave Grandma a dismount, Grandma made a meal, served it to her, and she overturned the bowl at once. Grandma did not lose her temper or criticize her, but silently packed up and put away all the snacks in the house.
In the evening, Grandma cooked again and ate alone. Nana approached and said to Grandma, "Grandma, I'm hungry, I want to eat too." For the first time, Nana ate a meal in a disciplined and unpromising manner. Later, as long as grandma talked, Nana was very cooperative, and even her mother was very happy, hoping that Grandma would stay and take care of her granddaughter.
The grandmother from the countryside became the "nemesis" of the domineering granddaughter. What is the reason for this? I think the biggest reason is that Grandma is not used to children like the rest of the family, and children can't get cheap here.
Now there are many children at home who are like the little bully, saying one thing and not two. Of course, every child has his own characteristics, some children are more stable, and some children are more grumpy. However, the biggest reason why children are lawless is because of the doting of their families.
Parents raise their children as the "little emperor" of the family, and the children gradually become accustomed to the superior position in the family, and they are also accustomed to being powerful and blessed. Parents always meet all the requirements of their children, and children hope that others can do the same.
Everyone's children are the same, parents will get used to you and spoil you, but others will not always let you. Children are very domineering, there will always be a day to learn a lesson, but also lose a lot of friends, lose a lot of opportunities for development. Therefore, we should educate our children to know the book, not to be unreasonable.
Once we find that the child has a tendency to be domineering, we must guide and correct his wrong behavior in time.
The child is domineering, and the parents want to stop his behavior.
When the child is with his family, or when he is with friends, if there is a particularly domineering behavior, we should first stop the child's behavior in time and tell the child that your behavior is wrong.
In the face of their children's wrong behavior, parents should not tolerate their children, but should severely criticize and educate him, so that children will not make such mistakes again.
Mom and Dad set an example for their children and teach them how to get along with others.
Mom and Dad want to raise a child with integrity and kindness, and the influence of their words and deeds on their children is very important. We want our children to learn to share, and in life, we must learn to help others, set an example for our children, and guide our children to be what kind of people they are.
When children get along with other children, we also need to give more guidance to children's behavior, such as queuing for group activities, abiding by the rules of the game, talking to others with respect, and being polite people.
Children are very domineering and willful, and treat them in the same way as they are.
Children are particularly unreasonable, such as sprinkling and rolling, reasoning does not make sense, we can deal with it coldly, let him vent his emotions, and then treat him with unreasonable methods, for example, it is impossible to meet his needs, there is no why. When the child looks at it, his own set, parents will not eat it at all, and will use less arbitrary means in the future.
The family is the child's first school, and the parents are the first teachers, and the child's future path can become wider and wider.