Since becoming a mother, I have bought a lot of books on parenting and tutoring, such as "A Good Mother Is Better Than a Good Teacher", "Positive Discipline", "P · E· Parent Effectiveness Training", "No Yelling, No Yelling", etc.
Who isn't a mom who loves (pretending) to learn?
Of course, in order to make the children grow up well, I also bought a lot of books for the children, such as what Tang poems and Song Ci, the four masterpieces, adventure novels, science fiction novels and various picture books and story books.
I believe that there are not a few parents like me, and our mood of looking forward to Jackie Chan and daughter Chengfeng is the same.
Even some parents are reluctant to spend money on books for themselves and let themselves recharge their studies, but buying books for their children or investing in education is not soft at all.
This is normal, nothing wrong with it.
It's just that life is always changing, and there are times when the chicken baby is reversed.
When I saw that the children were anti-customer-oriented, buying successful learning books for their parents and motivating their parents to progress, I was messy.
The thing is this, a certain boy in the first year of Hunan used his own money to buy his mother more than a dozen successful learning books, such as "You just pretend to be with the child", "Don't yell, don't scream, a practice of a good mother", "Non-violent communication" and so on.
The boy's father said that his wife was usually very busy at work, and she wanted to relax after work, look at her mobile phone, brush videos and so on. But the wife is more strict with the children and arranges many lessons for the children.
The boy was dissatisfied and felt that he was always studying, but his mother was leisurely brushing his mobile phone, so he had an idea.
The boy referred to the books of his classmates' parents and used his own pressure money to buy some "Parents Succeed in Learning" books for his mother. He also said to his mother in a serious tone: "I hope you study hard, improve every day, and strive to become a mother that makes me proud." ”
The mother was stunned to receive the book, but she quickly accepted the book, said yes to her son, and thanked him.
This operation, who has seen not to say a word, this year's children are powerful, they have begun to routine their parents.
Some netizens also concluded that the chicken baby was not successful, but the child reversed the "chicken mother" and opposed the general.
Some netizens also said mischievously, "How can you buy such extracurricular books, you must buy work-related or conducive to career promotion, such as helping your mother prepare for certified public accountants, lawyer qualifications, administrative management and so on." ”
I have to say that the comments of netizens are very happy and wonderful.
Of course, the practice of this boy in Hunan Chuyi has also triggered people to discuss, in the process of educating their children, which is more important, word or deed?
In fact, the education community has long reached a consensus on this, and it is better to teach by example than to pass on words.
Teacher Yin Jianli, an education expert, said, what is the most precious treasure we can give to children to ensure their happiness and health in life?
She believes that three things are the most important, the first is "reading", the second is "freedom", and the third is "good example".
Teacher Yin regards the good example of parents as the third treasure given to children, which shows its importance.
Many parents sit on the couch, brush videos and play games with their mobile phones, but accuse their children of not writing homework and not studying.
Many parents face the living room in a mess, but accuse their children of not cleaning up their rooms, dirty and messy.
Parents say "tell you how to do it..." a hundred times, it is better to practice it yourself and let the child see it with their own eyes.
In the "Little Bully" of the Babe Bear Picture Book Story, the little bear sister was bullied by a little girl, and later after the training of the little bear brother, the little bear sister mastered some boxing skills, when she faced the little bully provocation again, the little bear sister bravely counterattacked, and hit the little bully with one punch.
Surprisingly, the bully bully was extremely arrogant when she bullied others, but she was very afraid that her parents would know that she was invited to the principal's office, and said that if her parents knew, she would be beaten for a long time and could not sit on the stool.
It turned out that Xiao Bawang liked to beat people with her hands because her parents often beat her.
Parents often beat and scold their children, and the children learn to be violent and turn around to bully other children.
Therefore, parents should pay more attention to their own behavior, because the child looks in the eyes and remembers it in the heart.
At the ongoing Beijing Winter Olympics, 18-year-old talented girl Gu Ailing achieved two gold and one silver, drawing a perfect end to her Olympic trip.
Many people say that Gu Ailing's success has many factors, genes, her own efforts, the environment, etc. are indispensable, but in her growth process, her mother Gu Yan's education and support are indispensable.
Gu Yan said to her daughter, "You don't have to go to Stanford, you go to any school as long as you like it, but more importantly, you don't give up studying for a lifetime." ”
Gu Yan loves to learn, and after graduating from Peking University, she went abroad to study at Stanford University.
Gu Yan loves sports and was a member of the school's short track speed skating team and ski instructor in college. In the matter of skiing, Gu Yan did not deliberately cultivate her daughter, she went skiing, she took Xiao Ailing. Gu Ailing was exposed to skiing in a few months and began formally studying at the age of 3.
It can be said that the mother silently influenced her daughter with her own actions, which led to Gu Ailing, who shined in the Winter Olympics in the future.
The German philosopher Jaspers said that the essence of education means that one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, and one soul awakens another soul.
Yes, in the matter of educating children, parents instead of simply using words to motivate children, it is better to take practical actions, let themselves move, and use their own actions to tell children that as long as they study hard, parents and children can become better selves.
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