27 years old married to her husband, walked together for 13 spring and autumn, his annual income exceeded 8 million, 3 years, betrayed 12 times, my mother persuaded me to divorce, but I refused, because it was right

27 years old married to her husband, walked together for 13 spring and autumn, his annual income of more than 8 million, 3 years, betrayed 12 times, my mother persuaded me to divorce, but I refused, because of the fear of divorce, there is a cleanliness of feelings, I said: "Have been in their 40s women, and children, divorced can find a loyal partner?" ”

My name is Yang Xiaoyu, 41 years old this year, since I married my husband at the age of 27, I have been a full-time wife for 12 years, the child is about to go to junior high school, but I found a cruel thing, my husband in the past 3 years, has betrayed me many times, my parents have advised me to divorce, but I chose to stick to it, not divorce!

Maybe some people say I'm stupid, some people say you can't indulge a man, maybe I really have a spiritual purity, and if I really get divorced, I have too many things to consider.

In 2005, I knew my current husband, who had just graduated from college and was interning in finance at a company, and my husband was 2 years older than me.

Once, I participated in an event held by a friend, when we were doing games together, it just happened that my partner was my husband, who looked at the right eye at the time, and added WeChat to the back, at least the first impression was not bad, the boy looked very real, and he did not slip his tongue.

Because I'm still good looking, slim, from the time I was in school, there were a lot of boys who chased me, but I didn't like men who only liked my appearance, so it seemed too superficial, sweet talk men I didn't like it, I liked the real, not hypocritical.

Later, I took my husband to meet my parents, with the experience of my parents, they all agreed that this boy was outstanding, and we talked for more than 2 years before we entered the palace of marriage.

In 2008, it happened to be the Beijing Olympic Games, one of my children was born, but almost an accident occurred, because it was a caesarean section, I could not give birth to a difficult child, at that time I was confused, my husband walked around nervously, constantly begging the doctor to save me, if it was a last resort, to protect the adult, the child depends on luck.

Eventually I got through it, the child was born, and when I walked out of the operating room, my husband held my hand tightly: "Thank God, mother and child are safe!" ”

When I was confinement, I was taken care of by himself. Only he knows me best, not even my mother knows what I like to eat, let alone my mother-in-law, and only the one who cares most about you knows what is in my heart.

After the birth of the child, the feeling is very peculiar, with the crystallization of love, I became a new mother, I feel that a family with children is really complete, maybe this is life.

Since I have to take the children, everything in the business is handled by my husband. Once the company's business was very busy, the husband did not come home for several days, when he saw him return, he lay on the sofa and fell asleep, that kind of satisfaction, although he was tired but lived steadily.

When the child was 4 years old, her husband decided to expand the scale of the enterprise, and the money earned in the previous few years was invested in the company. Everyone advised him not to take risks, after all, there were some dangers, and as far as the money he earned now, the point of saving money, he could live a lifetime, at least more than part-time work.

My husband doesn't think so, he is bold, has a spirit of adventure, and rushes forward when he sees the opportunity.

He has his own opinions, when he finds himself encountering things, others can not be persuaded, he dares to think and dare to do. It turned out that he succeeded. It must be said that the business in those years was really good, as long as you find the right project, be bold, the probability of success will be high.

But as the size of the business expanded, the social participation became frequent, and sometimes even did not even go home. In the winter of 2016, I came home from a trip to Haikou and found something in the trash can, which shocked me, during my absence, there were other women in the house. Later, I went to their company to inquire, only to learn that my husband had recently walked close to Xiao Yao, the front desk of their company.

Frankly, this moment was very shocking. From love to marriage for nearly 10 years, he is impeccable to me and to my family. Thinking back in my head, the picture of her being good to me over the years, sometimes I find that people are really contradictory, love and betrayal can have at the same time?

I was devastated by this and immediately thought of divorce. You can calm down right away, why divorce? The husband's company is doing well now, with more than a million dollars in income every year, and if I get divorced, the good hostess will not be gone, cheaper than other women.

He cried and confessed to me, saying that he was confused and begging me to give him another chance. Later, he began to take action, directly dismissed the company front desk, and then transferred a house to me.

In the end, I softened my heart and expressed my willingness to give her a chance, of course, I was suspicious, this matter hit me too hard, but I really have emotional purity, in front of the child, I still choose to forgive him.

In the years that followed, I found signs of my husband's multiple infidelities, from the initial shock to the later numbness, I was even a little accustomed to it, which was a bit ironic.

Just say to him, "You play, but don't get caught up in it!" "Maybe some people think my idea is a bit ruined, but friends, I'm a woman in my 40s, I don't have the guts to remarry, and there are too many things in my life."

These years I am a full-time wife, I have a sense of fear of divorce, I am very inferior, plus the child is already so old, the choice of divorce will have a great impact, and even if divorced, how to live life in the future, is it a lonely old age, or to find a wife, the new partner must be loyal?

Are you right when you say I think that?

@Tender Mao Dan Analysis:

Hello sister! I very much disagree with you that when we face the betrayal of our partner, we really can't condone it, otherwise the harm to you is continuous, and men will see that you dare not resist, it will become more and more intense, so that throughout your married life, you will become very humble.

In marriage, men and women must be equal, and to respect and trust each other, obviously your husband has changed after he has money, no longer the man you knew, but you still expect him to change, which is impossible.

For a man who has betrayed more than 10 times, the tolerance for him is zero, don't think too much, it will only make you fall deeper and deeper.