Many children who carry out psychological counseling are often because of depression, school aversion, poor parent-child relationship and other problems, today's small chat will talk about the problem of school aversion.
The cause of the child's boredom with school
There are generally several reasons why children are bored with school:
●Parents have high expectations and are under great pressure on themselves.
● Children do not have the correct way of learning and cannot learn.
● Children have social problems at school, which prevent children from integrating into school life.
It's not just children who are poor at school who are bored with school
Most of the children I came into contact with in the process of work were bored with school in junior high school. Elementary or high schools also exist, but relatively few.
This is because children in the junior high school stage have just entered adolescence, and from primary school to middle school, the change in the learning environment, the transformation of teaching methods, and more diversified professional courses will make them face more problems, bear heavier pressure, and cope with more challenges.
In this case, children with good academic performance are even more likely to develop boredom. For children who study well, their parents' expectations of them will be much higher than those of children with poor academic performance. Like the parents of students whose children have poor grades, parents who have passed the test will be happy, and in contrast, children with good academic performance will score 99 points, and some parents will ask why they did not score 100 points. Under such expectations, the pressure given by parents and the pressure given by children themselves will be great, and it is easy to produce boredom.
How to deal with children's boredom?
Do not give your child too much expectation and too much pressure, and reduce comparisons with other children
Parents' high expectations will increase the pressure of children's learning, unconsciously associate learning with pain, and will produce aversion to school. If there are ups and downs in the child's grades, it is actually normal, let the child adjust the learning state by himself, and do not interfere too much.
● Help children explore and find their own suitable learning style
Some children have serious partial subjects, can't learn, can't remember things, and so on. It is easy to hit the child's self-confidence and lead to boredom, we parents should communicate with the teacher more, jointly help the child find the right learning method for him, cultivate the interest in learning, and improve the child's learning ability.
● Pay attention to children's emotions and communicate daily campus life
Parents should pay close attention to the state of the child, the child's emotional performance, and find problems in time. Usually chat with children more, grasp the dynamics of children's campus life, so as not to encounter school violence or exclusion and nowhere to talk, resulting in boredom.
If your child is bored with school, should I transfer my child to another school?
Children have the problem of boredom with school, first of all, through the improvement of family functions to help children try to solve problems in the original school and class, that is to say, improve family functions first, change schools later, it is really not possible to consider replacement. As parents, we must first find the root cause of our children's boredom with school, is it because of learning problems or because of social problems? Blindly helping children escape from the original environment is not a cure for the symptoms.
The child said that he wanted to take a break from school for a while, do I want to listen to the child?
Many of their ideas are unreliable until they reach adulthood, especially important decisions such as whether to go to school or whether to take a break. It would be irresponsible to let a child make this decision. Parents actually have absolute rights and obligations to require their children to continue their education (nine years of compulsory education). It's just that we must remember that children are tired of learning not because they don't like to learn, but because of various reasons, they have lost the motivation to learn, and what we have to restore is the motivation, not through complete laissez-faire, so that children stay at home, the so-called wait until the repair is ready to go to school, which is not feasible here.
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