The year has passed like a year, and there are a few people in the family, it really has nothing to do with it. I lived alone this year, my son lives on campus, and the British Spring Festival does not take a holiday. I plan early, make food, watch the Spring Festival Gala, and then spend a few days at home quietly, running, fitness, and reading. I prepared three days of delicious food, and one person had to live in full bloom. Busy and busy, friends began to come to visit the New Year. So, I also learned about the New Year situation of several friends.
The first was a good friend who lived nearby, and I made a char siu for her to come over and get, and by the way, I packed some egg dumplings for her to take back. She brought two cans of tempeh and canned mud carp. I don't eat canned meat, carcinogenic. I was embarrassed not to, so I stayed. She looked at the various foods in my kitchen and asked me, "Do you have a friend coming?" I said, "I'm alone, and I'll take half of the delicious package for my son to take." She said, "I envy that you have time to make food, I have to do everything alone in the New Year, and the children's husband can't keep me busy." Husband rest for a few days is better to go to work, there is nothing to say at home, but also three meals a day to serve, bored to death, do not quarrel on the line. "I kind of understand, so give her more food to take away."
The second one stayed far away and texted me to ask what happened? I said I was making food and sending a few pictures of the finished product. She said her daughter didn't come home from college, she and her husband lived at home. What Chinese New Year's Eve meals should the child eat when he is not at home? [Cover your face] Cook a few quick-frozen dumplings in a while and then send them off.
The third is a domestic friend who also lives alone at home. She said that this year she was selfish, did not go back to her husband's house for the New Year with her husband, and could not get along with her mother-in-law, and did not want to make trouble in the New Year. The husband went back with the child, and she was happy to be single and had to rest for a few days. It seems that the New Year's single of marriage is a benefit. Seeing that she was in a good mood, we had a good chat about health care and other topics.
The fourth is also a single mother, coincidentally, Chinese New Year's Eve we coincide, we all plan to watch a movie, so we talk for a while and go to the movie separately.
The fifth Chinese New Year's Eve got into a fight, sent me pictures, and the glass shards were on the ground, and the children 😭 were shaking. A little thing is fried, usually husband and wife are busy, stay at home all day in the New Year, the children fall, they complain to each other, the men smash the toilet lid, the woman calls back to the mother's house to cry. It seems that some people really cannot sit idle, otherwise contradictions among the masses will easily occur.
In fact, during the New Year, it is time to test the quality of life and experience the world. When people are idle, it is easy to amplify contradictions and problems, and after staying in a space for a long time, after people's self-space is compressed, they will stimulate their self-feelings and infinitely enlarge. If you want the other party to act in a life drama according to your own script, 80% of it will cause contradictions. During the epidemic at home, the incidence of various domestic violence and disputes is several times higher than usual, which is the best example.
Therefore, my feeling is that no matter who people live with, they still have to live alone. Because whether you have a good year or not has nothing to do with other people, it all depends on your own mentality. Whether you are happy or unhappy, you don't need someone else to pay for it. Ask less of others, think more about how you can make yourself happy. If you don't want to spend the New Year with your family, you can also ask for a single one yourself like my third friend. Anyway, 365 days, every day together, not bad for the New Year these days. As long as you are happy, everyone can have a stable and peaceful Spring Festival, which is better than being tied up and unhappy. Instead of pursuing that formal reunion, it is more important to be complete in our hearts.
Then there is no one, their own life is their own responsibility, do not waste the holiday because of the absence of others, and even feel that they are not worthy of eating well and having fun alone. The child is not at home, but also a good New Year, after all, no matter how close the relationship, one day there will be someone left alone, there is no unbroken feast in the world! Even if a person eats to the end, they should be happy, right?
No matter how many people in your family celebrate the New Year this year, I wish you to cherish it. The Spring Festival of the Year of the Tiger in 2022 is only once in this life, unique, good life, and give this year a good start. The days are managed by their own hearts, don't always say how the future is, now is not good to enjoy, the future can not be enjoyed, you say yes?
Today, on the first day of the New Year, the sun is shining, I go out for a morning run, and I feel that everything is a new beginning. After breakfast, read books, make reading notes, and learn nutritional knowledge. Every day A little bit of progress. Rome was not built in a day, nor was it achieved in a day to become excellent, the only thing needed was self-discipline and persistence.
