Writer Zhang Ailing once said:
"I want you to know that there is a man in this world who will always be waiting for you. No matter when, no matter where you are, you know anyway, there is always such a person. ”
Once a person meets the person he likes in his heart, it is like planting a seed of love, which will make it take root and blossom in his heart, to interpret his expression of love, to prove his importance to this relationship.
Men and women's likes are very different, women are introverted and shy, even if they have him in their hearts, they will not easily reveal their hearts, afraid of rejection, afraid of ending up without a disease.
Although men will be more direct than women's love, before they get the signal that the other party gives them a good feeling, they always use the temptation to explore the way forward little by little, hoping to find each other's love from each other's interaction, so that they are more motivated to devote themselves to this relationship.
The most common way for men to test is not to say bluntly and directly that I like you again and again, and then look at the feedback the other person gives themselves. Instead, through the temptation over and over again, carefully check whether the woman also cares about herself, and then decide where to go next.
Specifically, men are bothering you like this, not by abandoning you, but by saying "I like you", don't misunderstand.
1 Trouble you to help yourself, and then find reasons to be alone
As a man, the most common trick to test whether a woman is interested in herself is to find an excuse for the other party to help her, and then find a reason to be alone with the other party.
In the process of getting along, we generally talk about problems first, and then talk about bits and pieces of life, the purpose is to hope that two people can understand each other more.
In fact, if a man goes to trouble a woman to help himself, if the other party does not refuse, he will feel that the other party does not resent himself, at least willing to help himself. After that, with the more times of interaction, the interaction between two people will gradually begin to escalate, and the relationship between the two people will become closer and closer.
Xiao Zhang, who worked in our unit before, was like this. When I first came to the unit, I liked a girl at the front desk at a glance, but his personality was more introverted, embarrassed to ask the other party directly whether there was an object, and then frequently went to the other party to seek some help, such as the use of office cards, how to use meal cards and so on.
The other party is also happy to help him, as the number of times the two people interact, the relationship is getting closer and closer, he also slowly feels that the other party also has a good feeling for himself, and finally the two people come together.
In the real world, men go to trouble a woman again and again, and in many cases, it is not that they can't solve the problem, but that they have a purposeful contact, that is, they hope to be able to get along with each other alone.
Moreover, if the woman helps herself solve the problem, it is also natural for the man to give thanks, and it will not appear very abrupt, such as inviting guests to dinner, etc., which creates space for two people to get along alone, so that the two people know more and more.
2 Trouble you to discuss some things, I hope you can know more about yourself
When a man likes a woman, in fact, the most favorite thing to do is to share some of his own things with the other party, and then he will always "trouble" the other party in a consultative way, hoping that the other party can give himself some suggestions and opinions, the purpose is to hope that the other party can know more about himself at the same time, pass to the other party: I like you.
For example, when a man is at the crossroads of life and faces a dilemma, he will generally look for his most trusted friend to talk to, hoping that the other party can give him advice. If at this time he frequently goes to find a woman, always care about the other party's views and opinions, in fact, from the heart is a manifestation of great care, this is a kind of trust, but also a kind of trust.
In fact, when a man just says that he likes a person is not credible, but when he begins to trust the other party and hopes that the other party can enter his life, it fully shows that the heart has cared about the other party very much.
In the relationship, the more you like a person, the more you will care about the other party's opinion of yourself, and the more you hope that the other party can become the most important part of your life.
Therefore, when men begin to frequently trouble women to discuss their own affairs, and especially listen to each other's views, it is most likely that they care about and like her very much in their hearts, and he hopes that the other party can learn more from these things, and also hopes that the other party can feel the love he transmits.
3 Trouble you to care more about yourself in order to enhance your relationship
The relationship between people seems simple and very complicated, which mainly depends on whether the heart cares about each other.
If it is someone we care about very much, the other party's every move will be in the eyes; on the contrary, if the other party does not have a half-cent relationship with themselves, no matter what the other party does, they will feel that it is superfluous.
In the emotional world, once a man likes a woman, the heart is most eager to get the other party's care, because it will make the man feel happy and happy.
Therefore, he will not directly say "I like you" on the surface, but it will trouble you to care more about yourself, even if it is a little bit of life, it will make him feel the approach of a good life, and feel that every day is happy and happy.
Some women mistakenly think that this man lacks the care of those around him, but in fact, it is not at all, which is a way for him to convey love to the other party. Because only your love will make you feel warm, will let yourself and your interaction enhance each other's relationship, from the details of getting along to make the two people closer and closer.
To be honest, the way men trouble women is a way to "throw stones and ask for directions" on the emotional road, especially in the face of the attitude of the other party who is not sure about himself at first, such temptations will appear frequently. Therefore, if a woman encounters the above situations, don't be stupid and make mistakes, you must know that this is a man's expression of love to you.
If you are lucky that you also have a good feeling for him, you can get to know each other more in the relationship between the two people. However, if you don't have any good feelings for him, you can directly reject the other party's "trouble", so as not to make the other party feel embarrassed, he will also choose to retreat, and there will be nothing wrong with the two people getting along later.
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