People who fall in love, never have anyone, how generous will it be.
What you want is always that the other party can be single-minded about himself and will not have any other thoughts.
In other words, there will be no one else living in the heart, and there will always be no desire to have another choice.
The world of feelings is crowded, there is never room for a third person, and once there is a third person, whether that person belongs to the past or exists in the present, this is not a good thing.
Based on this, when looking for the other half, everyone is the same, and they hope that the other party's heart will only live in themselves.
However, with a certain age, when meeting a person, the other party is often not still a blank piece of paper, without any past.
There are past, but some people have put it down, some people have always been thinking about it, when a man, he still lives in his heart, he will inevitably not be able to do so hard for you, at this time his behavior will also tell you very clearly, he is still reminiscing.
Keep the ex's stuff and don't want to throw it away.
One reader, she and her current boyfriend spent two years together, during which time they kept pictures of their ex on their phones, and the house kept some of her ex's things and gifts from her ex.
She had always been well aware of all this, but never punctured it, always imagining that one day the other party would delete it herself, clean up those things herself, and then devote herself to herself.
For two years, she had been waiting for that day, but she had not waited until after a quarrel she couldn't bear it, and finally broke out, moved those things, and at that moment, her boyfriend was directly angry, and said that she couldn't accept it and broke up.
When the relationship ends, for a period of time, it is understandable that you are reluctant to remove the traces of the other party.
But if it has been a long time, the other party is with you, he still keeps, knowing that you will mind, and is not willing to deal with it at all, then for him, the ex is still the cinnabar mole in his heart.
Choosing you, or so, actually shows that he is not ready to forget, but hopes that you and your ex can coexist.
The man who really puts it down, who really loves you, he will not be with you on the one hand, and he will only put all his thoughts, all on you, for fear that you will find traces of the ex.
When a man can make that much fanfare, in his heart, you probably don't really have much of a place.
In getting along, there is always a loss of concentration.
If a man has come out and is with you, his attention will be more concentrated.
Will just think of you, will also just feel the bits and pieces between you, will always be particularly focused on you, all their energy, all poured into you.
You will hope that the man you meet happens to be like this, but there will also be some men, he is obviously by your side, but you often feel that he seems to be quite far away from you.
From time to time, he will not hear what you are saying at all, and he will simply lose his mind and not know what he is thinking.
And what he was thinking was not necessarily something else, but probably just thinking of his ex.
For example, one of your actions reminds him of his ex's smile, a certain dish you eat together, reminds him of a certain road that his ex also likes to eat, a certain road you have walked together, and he remembers that he and his ex have also walked together.
Can't help it, he will always compare you with your ex, and look for the shadow of your ex in you.
It seems that he is with you, but in fact he is just through you, missing the bits and pieces of his ex, always can't be how serious he is with you, but often seems absent-minded, and the attention is not on you at all.
Will ask you to be something.
In a relationship, some men will allow you to be yourself, no matter what you look like, he will gladly accept.
But there are also times when you meet a man, whether you have just met or after you have been together, he will often have some different opinions about your appearance and your behavior.
Let you choose your hairstyle, dress up, and do something according to his requirements.
You may think that that is some of his preferences, he likes that kind of woman, in fact, behind this, it may just be the appearance of his ex-girlfriend, he hopes that you can also be like that, recreate the appearance of the other party.
In this way, you can always see the shadow of your predecessor, so that you can have a feeling that your predecessor is still around.
The man who really likes you, he will not always ask you a lot, ask you how you are, because he loves you the most real way, not the way he imagined it, let alone anything else.
He won't always want to build you, make you look like you don't know, and just make you live as you want to be happy.
But any man who always points fingers at you, his love for you, that is actually not very real, but just to entertain you, but just want to find another value through you.
Whether a man has you in his heart or not, and whether there is anyone else in his heart, it is always very clear and can be seen.
The man who only has you in his heart will feel very sorry for you, take care of you very much, and be particularly tolerant of you.
Over the years, he will get along with you well, especially cherish your relationship, and want to have a good result with you.
And when a man has someone else in mind, even if he wants to hide, his mobile phone, his look, some of his behavior, it will still expose him, so that he has no way to hide.
A man who doesn't have you in his heart, just lives with someone else, even if he likes it, you better think twice.
No matter how much you like it, no matter how good it is to him, it probably won't be of much use.
Love is such a thing, you better find someone who is willing to give you the heart and just live a good life with you.
Text/Tan Meng
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