Today is the second day of the Chinese New Year in 2022, to give you a farewell to the old age, I wish you a new year: last year is a thousand years, this year everything is satisfactory!
Idle boredom, share what happened in the twelve years of marriage to everyone!
First of all, I introduce myself, I am an authentic rural girl, introverted, not good at expression, because I am an only child, love to make some small tempers, should be the parents of the pet it! My parents are also authentic rural people, my father is a worker, although our family is not rich, but I am also the pearl in the palm of my parents. 10 years under the introduction of the matchmaker, married to my husband, because we are a village, the home is not far away, we have some understanding of each other, and soon we will get married!
My mother-in-law has two sons, my husband is the youngest son, he is a very filial son, but also a great brother, I heard that my husband dropped out of school at the age of 15 to herd sheep at home for his brother to go to college. When my husband was 20 years old, his father took over the work of herding sheep, and he worked as a maintenance electrician at a gold mine in the village. His brother got married shortly after graduation, and in 16 years the family gave him a dowry of 20,000 yuan. They went to the county to rent a house after marriage, the child was born to the elderly to bring, the two people earned not enough money to spend, the family still had to make up, the child's milk powder money is also my husband earned money to buy.
We got married on November 17, 2010, the husband's family built a new house in the first half of 10 years, my parents also sympathized with his family's conditions, the bride price was only 30,000 yuan, and the things that could be seen in the house were all married by my parents. After getting married, we lived with the old man, and my brother and sister-in-law continued to put the children in the old man. From 10 to 11 years, my nephew lived in my house for more than a year, during the day my father-in-law and mother-in-law went up the mountain to herd sheep, the child was almost brought by me, at that time I was also pregnant, not to mention how difficult it was!
We have 140,000 yuan of foreign debt after marriage, the husband goes to work, the father-in-law herds sheep, we operate together, through our family's seven years of efforts, finally paid off the foreign debt, the debt repayment, the public bus social security spent 60,000 or 70,000, his brother bought a house in the county, we took 50,000 yuan. In 2017, my mother-in-law supported me with 30,000 yuan, and my mother-in-law sold cashmere to support 30,000 yuan, and bought a scooter for my husband. His brother saw the urgency, at the end of 17 years, go home and mother-in-law to buy a car, then the mother-in-law has no money in her hand, the father-in-law still has to vote for social security, I can't bear to let them go out to borrow money, I took out my dowry money out of twenty thousand to borrow him, they had no money in their own hands, bought a car of less than fifty thousand, in addition to the twenty thousand yuan down payment, but also have to repay the car loan for two years. On September 12, 2017, when my father-in-law was older, my husband said that he had sold the sheep, and at that time he sold fifty-nine thousand yuan, and his mother-in-law saved fifty thousand and gave me five thousand, (why give me five thousand, because in the end I followed the sheep up the mountain for more than a month) The four thousand gave to her eldest grandson.
Talk about my mother-in-law, she is a strong person, at home to say, my father-in-law is a person who only earns money regardless of money, after marriage, I am also in line with the purpose of home and everything, there is my husband is good to me, for my husband, everything I am endured! Live with a strong mother-in-law and think about it to know what kind of result it is!
18 years of New Year's Day, the mother-in-law's sister with her two-year-old grandson came to my house to visit the door, sudden cerebral hemorrhage, sent to the hospital in time, fortunately no big deal, the sister-in-law is the only child, the father died early, she and his husband have a job, the child no one to see, I did not work, and finally everyone unanimously decided, let me help to see the child, they nursed in the hospital, I gave more than a month to see the child, when the sister-in-law came to pick up the child, gave me three thousand yuan, I confiscated, and finally bought a gold pendant for my child, spent one thousand and eight. After the child was taken home for more than two months, the sister-in-law once again sent the second aunt and child, who had just been able to take care of themselves, back to my house. 18 to 19 years a whole year, almost all spent in my home, because of the epidemic, at the end of 19 years, the brother's children are also in my home, a stay for more than half a year, from five people to eight people, at that time I was really exhausted, sometimes really feel that the block can not go on, really tired, no way, for my family harmony, can only endure!
In June 21, the father-in-law was found to have stomach to liver cancer in a physical examination, the operation could not be done, conservative treatment had to be done, the hospital was treated once every 21 days, and the husband and his brother went to the hospital to accompany the father-in-law for treatment. Probably because the old man has some money in his hand, plus the old two have social security, more than three thousand a month, when the father-in-law is not sick, he can also earn more than ten thousand yuan a year by doing odd jobs, and then he lives with us, and the brother does not give the old man a penny to treat the disease, we are in the old man's piece, the usual eating and wearing degree is almost all of us out, and the salary they open to the family is also counted, to say more, a year is also five thousand yuan. The rest of them saved themselves, less than 20,000 a year. As a daughter-in-law, I never ask how much money they have in their hands, after all, money is the money earned by people themselves, and I am not qualified to ask, their money is theirs. In the end, my husband and I also summed up, only the money in their own hands to spend it, spent in a way, we are spending money to eat and drink, sick people need to replenish physical strength, every time they go to the hospital to come back need to supplement.
This year's New Year brother to the family to take a Chinese sturgeon (farmed), sister-in-law hurriedly told the mother-in-law, (sister-in-law is divorced and do not leave home, she and brother's personality are strong, after marriage want to say the count, personality is not compatible, always quarrelsome, and later heard that they divorced seem to have our relationship, said that we have been in the old man together, the old man earned money are subsidized to us, we take advantage of the old man, and finally make them get divorced, ) This fish is a good thing, a big supplement, she has not eaten, have to give the father-in-law back to supplement the body, And instructed the mother-in-law not to give it to others. On the 28th, the brother's children came back, and every year they were in my house for the New Year, because next year's middle school exam, the 27th only finished the class, so this year came back a little late. On the day of the New Year, I carefully prepared a table of dishes, my brother also returned, and my sister-in-law did not return.
It is said that women have no home after marriage, think about it! The wound is not on anyone's body, no one knows how much pain, the grievance is not in anyone's heart, no one knows how uncomfortable it is, the world has never felt empathy, only cold and warm self-knowledge!
