The author | Three threes
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Lin Shengbin's "fraudulent donation" turned out to be true?
Recently, many netizens posted pictures and said that they received a public welfare refund for "Tong Zhen's life".
The names shown on the picture are: Sheng Bin.
In fact, these refunds have been taking place since September last year.
On August 3 last year, the Hangzhou Joint Investigation Team also issued a notice on the Lin Shengbin incident.
It clearly reads:
"The relevant departments have seriously carried out investigations in accordance with procedures, and if it is verified that there are facts of violations of laws and regulations, they will be dealt with seriously in accordance with laws and regulations."
Immediately after, Lin Shengbin began to refund on a large scale.
Explain what?
He was weak-hearted.
If the charges of "illegal fundraising" and "fraudulent donation" are confirmed, there is a high probability that they will go to prison.
Seeing this news, I only felt cold, and it was not worth it for Xiao zhen.
Married for 12 years, she helped Lin Shengbin start from scratch, gave birth to three children, and gave everything.
The result?
After his tragic death, Lin Shengbin consumed her and her children and performed pain in front of people.
Tears of love and thoughts are actually seeking money for themselves.
From beginning to end, Lin Shengbin was thinking about himself.
How selfish!
What makes me even more sad is that this is a true portrayal of many marriages in reality:
Women tend to make sacrifices for children and families, while men prefer to enjoy the sweetness of marriage.
01
Mom's world
Kids are all there is to it
A few days ago, Li Lianglei posted a long article on Weibo accusing Wang Lihong of "robbing children."
But in his words, he was mostly eager for Wang Lihong to return to his family.
She said that during these days, she and the children, as usual, counted down the days when dad came home.
Not only that, but she also discussed with the children what Dad could do together when he came home.
In order for Wang Lihong to go home early, she called many times to inquire and urge.
She longed for the family to be able to sit together and laugh and chat as usual.
Even if the other party has a bad track record, is derailed, has no responsibility, and is a complete scum.
She didn't care.
Many netizens said after reading that Li Lianglei was not for money, but for people.
But this person is not Wang Lihong, but her child.
In the entire 7 pages of the essay, she refers to three children.
Li Lianglei said:
"What I've always wanted is for children to grow up in a normal environment with the sound love of their parents."
Therefore, she hid the fact of divorce from her children.
Therefore, she has always been full of expectations for Wang Lihong to return home.
In the beginning, the competition for real estate, servants, drivers, and nannies was also to protect the children's lives.
Speaking out again is also because the child's personal safety is threatened.
From beginning to end, Li Lianglei did not want her children to be involved in the dispute over their parents' marriages.
It is a mother, with love and protection for her children.
What about Wang Lihong?
In front of the media, he said that the most important thing was the child.
As a result, when videotaping with the child, persuade the child to go downstairs to face the media.
He also passed on the intimate content of the conversation with the child to unrelated people.
The child's appearance and privacy were all exposed.
He did this only to play the parent-child card and save his reputation.
An infinite forbearance is for the child to feel the love of the father.
One, in the name of his father's love, washed himself white and turned himself over.
This shows the gap.
With children, even if the mother is hurt, she is willing to compromise and be soft.
Because in the mother's world, the child is all.
Children are the armor of every mother, and they are untouchable weaknesses.
As for men, it is nothing more than the identity of a father.
They can be left irresponsible, they can stay out of the matter, and they can be absent from the growth of their children.
Women need to spend a lifetime to interpret the role of mother.
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For the sake of the children
Moms often choose to be patient
A few days ago, I was chasing a documentary film called "Guarding the Liberation of the West."
There's a case in it, and it's very heartfelt.
A nursing mother received a call from the police station late at night.
It turned out that her husband was out drinking and fighting, and the police could not contact her, so they had to find her.
During the surveillance, her husband was drunk and put his arm around a sexy dressed woman.
The mother calmly dialed her husband's phone again and again.
After the phone was answered, she did not scold, but gently instructed:
"You don't drive, you drink."
After a long time, her husband appeared at the police station with xiao san in his arms, paying no attention to his wife.
No one else can look at it:
"Your husband just helped that woman fight, you recognize it early and it is better to do it early."
Even so, this mother's eyes were full of concern for her husband.
She also interceded on behalf of her husband:
"I hope you forgive him, no matter what, he is also the father of my child."
In the eyes of outsiders, this mother is really too stupid and too humble.
After becoming a mother, I can more or less understand her.
Of course, in the face of betrayal, everyone will be angry, will be unhappy, and will want to separate immediately.
But with children, there are concerns.
What's more, this mother's child was only born and is still waiting to be fed.
Reality left her with few choices.
That's where it's unfair in marriage, it's the man who makes the mistake.
But it is the mother who pays the final bill.
When Gao Yunxiang was exposed to sexual assault, Dong Xuan stood up for the first time and chose to believe.
She traveled around, spending money on bail and collecting evidence to prove her husband's innocence.
Many people mocked her, called her stupid, and named her "Forgiveness Sect Leader."
Later, in "Speech Under the Stars", Dong Xuan mentioned this experience and said:
"There are old and young people in the family, and I am the only person in the family who can carry things now."
She didn't care about any harm, and the only thing she could do was to take on the responsibilities of a family.
Children need a father, and the elderly cannot be without a son.
The burden of humiliation behind this can only be borne by the mother.
With children, marriage is no longer simply a matter of two people.
Especially for women.
Children are the biggest concern and bondage for women in marriage.
For the happiness of their families, they can only sacrifice their own happiness many times.
Even if you are injured, even if you are wronged, you choose to swallow silently.
03
Never blame
The mom who chose to forgive
Little S once lamented in the show:
"Marriage is really not a joke, it's not that you can get a divorce if you don't like it."
Married for 16 years and having 3 children, Little S probably experienced it the most.
All along, everyone has been mourning her misfortune and angering her attitude.
Here's why: She's not divorced.
After all, her marriage seemed to outsiders to be crumbling and unworthy.
In this era, more and more people call for women to stop losses in time, to be independent, and marriages are unreliable.
This is, of course, an improvement.
However, for a mom, there are too many considerations and trade-offs behind it.
Growing up in a broken family hurts children, divorce casts a shadow on children ...
Mom can't help but think about this.
Many women will look at the face of young children and finally forget it.
Giving your children a complete home is more important to them than their own happiness.
Therefore, after the article derailed, Ma Yili did not choose to divorce immediately.
It wasn't until 5 years later, seeing through the nature of marriage, that she resolutely broke up.
There are also many mothers, in order not to affect their children's learning, endure until after the college entrance examination and then leave.
This is true of many of my friends.
Before marriage, they firmly stated that once they found out that their husbands were cheating, they would never forgive and divorce immediately.
When you have a child, you will know the entanglement and helplessness.
Without children, he can turn around and be resolute and decisive.
With children, it is often difficult to retreat involuntarily.
Not weakness, not stupidity, but because forgiveness is the best choice for children at the moment.
Although it is very helpless, this is the situation in real life.
Children are the armor of every mother, and they are also the weakness of mothers.
They sacrificed more than we could have imagined.
Their love for their children is also deeper than we think.
Therefore, I really don't harshly criticize the mothers who choose to compromise, be patient, and forgive.
I just don't think it's fair.
The cost of male infidelity is really too low, because most of them can be forgiven.
Therefore, instead of mocking women who are secretive for their children, it is better to question why men do not take on the responsibilities of the family.
When they make mistakes, they should probably think that they are also a father.
04
Whatever you choose
Always remember to leave a love for yourself
Women in marriage, always more emotional, will sacrifice for love.
Most men are more rational and practical, looking back at their current needs.
Therefore, women should leave a love for themselves.
Love yourself, it's never too late.
On Douban, there was a post: 45-year-old mother went ashore in a battle.
This is not only an inspirational story, but also a self-awakening of middle-aged women.
This mother was also a member of the traditional women.
For the sake of her children, she has always been in the marriage to seek perfection and has no self.
In this way, she endured until the age of 45.
As her daughter grew older, she began to pursue the life she wanted.
While working, he went to graduate school, quit his job, and went from Xinjiang to Chongqing to study for graduate school.
During her studies, she lived out herself, saw the world, and her consciousness began to awaken.
Eventually, she made up her mind to end her unsatisfactory marriage.
She said:
"I no longer want to live my life by loving someone else, or someone else loves me."
When you start to love yourself, you will find that the world is big and vast.
As for such a small matter as marriage, it is not worth mentioning at all.
You can choose to sacrifice for your children, but you don't have to give your whole life.
Believe me, your child also wants his mom to be happy.
After the divorce, Ma Yili also suddenly woke up: after the age of 40, people must live for themselves.
In the first half of life, for the sake of the family and for the sake of the children, everywhere is stoic.
In the second half, we should live for ourselves once.
If you can't bear it, you choose to leave; if the payment is not proportional, you don't insist.
Throughout your life, the only person you can rely on is yourself.
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