Introduction: Children are very happy in the New Year, but adults are a little worried. Because in the face of children's pressure money, many people said that some can't afford it. Of course, some people wonder, isn't it to give children money to worry about, the New Year should be happy ah!
The family formed by Xiaomei and her husband is not rich, the family is all working outside the home, and the New Year's home reunion should be happy, but the two children who are close to the New Year can't be happy. Xiaomei and her husband are also tacit, knowing that both sides are thinking about this matter.
The child shouts every day: "New Year's Day!" Go home! You can receive money again! ”。 Looking at the happy look of the child, Xiaomei and her husband were even more miserable! Because every New Year's Day home is indispensable to the child's pressure money, and Xiaomei and her husband's brothers and sisters are mixed well, others give the child pressure money is hundreds of hundreds, they will definitely have to go back to the past.
However, according to the economic situation of Xiaomei and her husband, the New Year's pressure money is sent out to their own hard work of 1-2 months of wages. It may not be much for others, but it is a "huge amount" for Xiaomei's two mouths!
New Year's home to the child to pressure the age of less money, but also afraid of relatives and friends are not willing, but give more, their own economy is really not allowed. So every time I go home for the New Year, both of them are worried about it.
Sometimes Xiaomei also wants to discuss with relatives and friends, or she will not give the money without pressure, so that she will not feel pressured. However, whenever she saw the children's mood of looking forward to collecting the new year's money, Xiaomei felt that she could not open her mouth.
01, parents face the New Year's pressure on the old money, why are they getting more and more headaches?
Some families are gifts and exchanges, and those who give it can be recovered, but some families are really "losing money", only sending it out but not receiving it back. If you give a child dozens of dollars is fine, but some families give less and complain. The persecuted parents press the child's old money, but what they give is the sweat money they have worked hard to earn! Only out of the back, parents must be distressed!
In addition, many families are not particularly "content" now, others give their children money, but parents pretend to be stupid and stunned either to give less to others, or not to give. In the face of such parents, sometimes they are helpless, they can only think that they have suffered losses, and over time, parents are not willing to give outside.
In addition, now parents to their children to pressure the age of money has also begun to compare, who gives more who has face. Many parents are embarrassed to give their hands, and many parents have a headache about how much money to give their children. Less feeling can not be taken out of hand, more than their own burden. Even many parents, after entering the Waxing Moon, began to worry about the problem of pressing the old money for their children.
Now the meaning of parents to press the age of the child has changed, the New Year pressure money is a kind of allegorical and good blessing. But now giving children money has become a show-off, and it has lost its original meaning.
Moreover, many children are also spoiled by their parents, and they measure their parents by pressing the old money. Even some children take the initiative to flatter their parents in order to get the money for the age, which makes the person who presses the money very embarrassed. Sometimes the parents are ready to press the old money, and the children take out a lot of money by themselves.
02, the three principles of giving old money
Principle one: Don't compare and don't complain
Giving children money is not to show their face, let alone to show off how rich they are. Return to the "original intention" of pressing the old money and bring the best wishes to the children.
In addition, parents should do that the money for the children must not be compared or complained, how much they give is the will of others, and how much they give to others is also their own heart. The intention is the most important.
Principle two: Don't use it as an opportunity to make money
Some parents regard the New Year's children's collection of old age money as an opportunity to "make money", because some families are better than their own lives, and maybe others will give more. And their own economic conditions are not particularly good, you can give others less, so that their children can "earn" more.
In fact, this kind of thinking of parents is not right, and no one's money comes out of thin air. If you really can't afford it financially, parents can negotiate with relatives in advance. Balance as much as possible, so that it is good not only for the family but also for the children.
Principle three: calm down and do what you can
Parents should not put too much pressure on their children to press the age of money, and parents should calm their minds. If parents let themselves fall into pain because of comparison, the children will not be happy to receive the pressure money. If you have the ability to have the heart, you can give more, and if your own economy does not allow it, there is no need to give hard for the sake of face. When you calm your mind, you don't have to care what others say, just be yourself.
Of course, the New Year not only gives children a headache for the old age, but some family children receive other people's pressure money, and parents also have a headache. Because some children have a lot of money for the New Year, and even some parents have several months' wages.
epilogue:
All in all, no matter how much the parents give, the child is very happy. It's just that parents have changed this pressure money into a "taste". Parents are mixed with too many personal emotions in it, if the parents' minds are as simple as the children, it is estimated that parents will not have a headache because of the pressure on the children.
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