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Parent-child relationship is a science, a good parent-child relationship is that each other can cross the age gap, find commonalities in thought and behavior, simply put, parents and children can get along and communicate on an equal footing.
But in real life, there are very few examples of such relationships, and in most families, parents are absolutely dominant, and they often exhibit double-standard behavior when communicating with their children.
Not long ago, a topic was brushed up on the Internet: What double standard behavior does your parents have?
In response, random street visits were conducted on the street.
The parents' double-standard behavior among the children, each one is too real, these children are too difficult!
One of the parents' double-standard behavior: they sleep I have to sleep, they wake up I have to wake up.
In the face of the interview, the first girl said that her parents' double-standard behavior is reflected in controlling their daily routines.
In life, this can be said to be very true, many parents will force their children's schedule to be consistent with their own schedule.
Whether it is a normal school or a holiday break, after parents get up, they will inevitably urge their children to get up, and the same is true at night, when parents find that their children are still staying up late, they will definitely force a stop.
Although the parents' intentions are good, this double-standard behavior obviously makes the children feel very constrained.
The second of my parents' double standard behavior: staying at home feels lazy, and when I go out to play, I am urged to go home.
The second child interviewed said that the parents' double-standard behavior is reflected in their attitudes toward their own behavioral activities.
In fact, many children have this feeling, staying at home during breaks will always cause parents to complain about it, one of which is to be accused of being too lazy.
But what is puzzling is that if you don't stay at home but go out to play with friends, your parents will make a deadly call after phone call.
Staying at home is wrong, going out to find friends to play is also wrong, many netizens see this article and call the current child too difficult!
The third of the parents' double standard behavior: I lost the hair on the ground, and their money was spent by me.
The third girl showed a very helpless smile in the interview, she said that her parents' double standard behavior is reflected in their complaints about themselves, as long as it is bad things, they do it themselves.
The girl's words have also resonated with many netizens, indeed, Chinese parents always habitually complain about their children, and their common feature is that they never talk about evidence.
In the eyes of parents, their children always have such shortcomings, although many of this complaint is unintentional disgust, but in the eyes of children, the parents' language is undoubtedly a wordless double-standard behavior.
Why is it that good things are done by others, and bad things are all on me?
The fourth of the parents' double standard behavior: learning is only compared with the good, and eating and wearing is only compared with the poor.
The last girl said a classic answer, and the parents' double-standard behavior is reflected in the requirements for their own food, clothing and learning.
When children and parents talk about eating, drinking and entertainment, the other party will always let the child reduce the requirements, do not always compare with others, and when parents and children talk about learning, they will let the children improve their requirements for themselves, often compared with classmates with good grades.
The same is all comparison, why can't eating, drinking and learning be compared according to the same standard?
In addition, regarding the parents' double standard behavior, many netizens also added in the comment area:
"They are sick because of the fatigue of this family, you are sick completely playing with mobile phones, our family's most real parents double standard!" 」
"When I was a child, my parents always praised other people's children in front of me, and once I told them that I was very envious of other people's parents, and as a result, my father came and said that we were so good to you, what reason do you have to dislike us?" 」
"Let me say one, my parents go out to drink and eat is a reasonable social, for the sake of this family, I and my friends go out to eat and sing is not doing business... I'm too hard! ”
How does a parent's double-standard behavior affect the child?
In the process of educating children, the vast majority of parents have a good starting point. But many times, these double-standard behaviors that think they are good for their children make children feel that their parents are inconsistent, and even resent their parents.
Therefore, the most effective way to educate children is to abandon the double standard.
Parents and children try to maintain an equal and free parent-child relationship, parents do not condescend to assign children, order children, parents for children should also do their own requirements, otherwise double standard family education will only make the parent-child relationship gradually distant.
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