Netizens left a message saying: Their children are particularly angry, sometimes just because parents can't satisfy themselves, they throw punches at their families, and even at a young age, they have to learn to beat their parents.
"Our children's temper is really bad, they start to act violently when they don't agree, and they have been like this since then, how will the children get along and work with people in the future?" The mom raised her concerns.
In fact, children's emotional management problems have always been a major problem for parents in the process of parenting, and many mothers read parenting experience and books in order to teach their children to develop stable emotions. Children love to lose their temper, sometimes it is not that the child's temper is too bad, but he does not know how to vent, the parent's approach is very critical, you can start from these 3 points!
First, teach children to understand what emotions are
In fact, many children do not know what emotions mean specifically, because when they are young, their ability to express their relevant emotions is relatively weak, and they can only vent their dissatisfaction through the more extreme behavior of violence.
In view of this, parents and friends can instill children with relevant knowledge of how to express emotions in daily life education, so that children can express their feelings through language or body movements, so as to better get parents' help and advice.
In addition, you can tell your child that if you feel unhappy and dissatisfied, there are other ways to solve it in addition to talking, such as appropriate exercise or listening to music, etc., through such a small way to change your mood; tell the child that in fact, everyone will be more or less sad and depressed, which is very normal, the most important thing is how we should learn to self-regulate and improve.
Second, teach children how to understand emotions correctly
To understand personal emotions, we must first accept the emotions we produce, the occurrence of emotions is not shameful, but we must learn how to deal with them.
For example, when children cry in public because parents cannot meet their needs, parents can take this opportunity to educate their children: "I know that you are very sad now, but there is already one in the family, and we can use the money to buy toys to buy other useful daily necessities..." First of all, we can express our understanding of the needs of the children, and then explain the reasons why parents choose to reject their children, and show that parents also hope to be able to get their children's understanding.
Third, learn to regulate emotions
The child's regulation of emotions gradually increases with age, this process requires the continuous guidance and patience of parents, if the child is still noisy, we recommend that parents do not get angry and scold, the best way at this time is to quietly wait for the child to vent, let the child understand that her behavior has attracted your attention but it is useless, quietly tell her if you want to do what you want to do can talk to me well, if you do not listen to let her continue to vent, tired.
After the child's emotions are stable, parents will then help the child realize whether there is something wrong with the behavior just now, what is the better solution to such a problem in the future, and when the emotion comes, you can first give yourself time to fully calm down, and do not hurt the family under the abduction of emotions.
Do your kids also lose their temper? How do you smart parents deal with it? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area~
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