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Society is developing, and the patterns of getting along between men and women are gradually changing.
In ancient times, the emphasis was on "men and women not to be intimate", and even when seeing their future husbands, women had to cover their faces with curtains or handkerchiefs, not to mention physical contact.
Now, the boundaries of contact between men and women have gradually been relaxed, starting from the co-ed school, unisex table, men and women have begun to get used to living in a space, whether it is some physical contact, or becoming a good friend, is a very common thing.
But if a man and a woman just want to maintain a classmate relationship or friendship between two people, they must grasp the measure, do not gossip, and do not let each other fall into a dilemma.
For example, once you share these things, it is difficult to go back to the past, because it means that you are no longer pure.
One: Share your phone password
Wang Yue joined the club in college, and had a good relationship with the senior in charge of the club at that time, and slowly became a very good friend, they witnessed each other falling in love, falling out of love, graduating, looking for a job, etc., and there were still many things to say every time they met.
Once, Wang Yue went to the city where the senior was on a business trip, and in the senior's car, she wanted to play some songs to listen to, so she asked the senior to unlock the mobile phone, and after unlocking it, the senior said:
"Just record your fingerprints and drive them yourself."
At that time, Wang Yue felt the long-lost heartbeat accelerating, and she did not know whether the senior knew that entering her fingerprints in his mobile phone meant a very close relationship, but at that moment, she felt very moved.
Then, in order to exchange courtesy, the senior also recorded his fingerprints in her mobile phone. During the short break after the business trip, Wang Yue spent a day and a half with the senior, and they could pick up each other's mobile phones at any time to unlock them, to take photos, watch the time, and even watch WeChat, acquiescing to each other's privileges.
Starting from the sharing of mobile phone passwords, their relationship seems to be suddenly brought closer, no longer the two people who used to call brothers and brothers, but more like friends, lovers are not enough.
After Wang Yue returned home, she would often think of the two days with the senior, for her, it was both sweet and annoying, she was not sure whether she liked each other, and she was not sure whether the other party really liked herself.
After a period of ambiguity, they gradually felt inseparable from each other, and it did not take long to establish a relationship.
Mobile phone passwords have always been shared only with people they are close to and trust, because this is a small space that belongs to individuals, there are many secrets hidden in it, and once ordinary friends of the opposite sex share, the relationship is mostly impure.
Two: Share personal belongings
Some objects are private because we don't want to use them with others, unless we are really close to ourselves, we are bound to feel disgusted.
When I think about myself reading, do I often get angry because some unfamiliar classmate uses my stationery? After work, is it because a colleague moved something on his desk and was not happy?
This is a small space for ourselves and the items we belong to, outside of which we can comfortably deal with others, and we can generously give kindness to others, but within the scope, we are not willing to let people touch.
The sense of proportion between friends of the opposite sex can just take the private scope as the boundary, respect each other, and do not cross the line, this friendship can last, but once it crosses the line, it will not only annoy yourself, but also breed a lot of gossip.
For example, many friends of the opposite sex will share a water cup to drink water, or share a straw to drink milk tea, share a bowl, a pair of chopsticks to eat, etc., such intimate contact, it is obvious that it has crossed the line.
When the relationship between them becomes ambiguous, it is impossible to go back to the past.
Three: Share money
If mobile phone passwords and personal items are obvious signs, then money is a kind of sharing behavior that is difficult for us to detect, you only feel that you are good to each other, it is good to make him happy, but you do not realize that spending money just proves that the weight of this friend of the opposite sex in your heart.
Now, it's not easy for everyone to make money, and as the old saying goes, money is spent on the cutting edge. Although we don't have to treat ourselves badly within the limits of what we can afford, spending money for other people will always make us think about it more.
When you are willing to spend money for a person, it means that the person has occupied a place in your heart.
Because as ordinary friends, we may send gifts to each other on birthdays to send blessings, and send a red envelope on important holidays to make a scene; but for special friends, even if they are ordinary, they are likely to have the idea of spending money for each other.
Before Xiao Qin established a relationship with his girlfriend, he never skimped on spending money for her.
At that time, he felt that as long as the other party was happy, he would feel happy. Every time I am happy, I pay for it myself, and give her gifts, I am never soft, and I will also send her a lot of red envelopes during the New Year's Festival.
Not only that, he also told her his mobile phone password, and told her that he needed to use the money to transfer it directly.
From the moment the money is shared, the relationship between two people is already unusual, unless the truth is moved, who will be so close to a member of the opposite sex.
Whether it is love or friendship, it is an extremely important part of our lives. If you meet someone you like, please cherish this fate, otherwise keep your distance and boundaries, so as not to impure the relationship between each other.
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