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When discussing the way of family education, many parents will give themselves a setting, either the strict father and mother combination of the father's strict mother and the gentle mother's mother, or the strict mother's loving father combination with the strong mother and the weak father.
Which combination to choose mainly depends on the personality and way of getting along with each other, but for children of different genders, the effect of strict father and strict mother and strict father in parenting is also completely different.
Which way is more conducive to the child's growth? After reading many examples around me, I found that many people actually chose the wrong one.
Strict father and mother VS strict mother and loving father, which combination is better to raise children? There is a difference between boys and girls
Colleague Zhang Jie is a recognized strong woman, very strong in personality, in the company to say one or two, after returning home also occupies an absolute family dominance.
Contrary to his wife, Sister Zhang's husband is easily satisfied with everything, and he does not have a strong ambition in his career, so he is often ridiculed by Sister Zhang as a "salted fish".
In educating her son, Sister Zhang's family is a typical strict mother and loving father.
But what makes Sister Zhang feel a headache is that no matter how much effort she spends on her son, the child is "not contentious", has no opinion on doing things, does not seek progress academically, and has no inheritance to the mother's strong personality.
Logically, the mother is self-motivated and diligent, which should set a good example for the child, but how can the son inherit the father's salted fish character?
In fact, this is a problem in the way the "strict mother" family education is.
The combination of strict mother and loving father is more advantageous for the girl's family, the mother can set an example for the daughter, cultivate the daughter's independent character and self-motivation, at the same time, the loving father will bring the daughter love and care, so that the girl is full of security.
But such a combination does not apply to boy families, there is a saying in China called "strong mother must be weak child", in boy families, the mother is too strong, everything will weaken the male sense of existence, so that husbands and children lose the right to speak.
Especially for children, the mother's everything and saying that it is easy to cause their own dependent and obedient personality, which is very unfavorable to the cultivation of boy independence, but it is easy to raise a cowardly mother.
Let's look at the family education method of strict fathers and mothers.
This combination is undoubtedly more common for boys, and its advantage is that the father's strictness will act as a spur to the boy.
Strict fathers usually make rules for boys from an early age, so that they know what principles are and what is responsibility, and in an environment dominated by male education, boys will soon be able to become independent.
At the same time, the mother's love will also bring peace of mind to the boy, so the strict father and mother are a good choice for the education of boys.
But it should be noted here that the mother's love cannot conflict with the father's strictness, and the two must be consistent in the attitude of educating the child, and one strict and one protective will cause the father to lose his prestige.
Although strict parenthood is more beneficial for educating boys, it is not the best way for girls.
Girls themselves are delicate in their hearts, especially after their minds gradually mature, many inner words and little secrets will only be shared with their mothers.
At this time, if the father's attitude towards his daughter is too strict, it will make the daughter more sensitive and introverted, and the distance from the father will gradually become estranged.
Therefore, in the process of raising daughters, mothers should be firm in principle and set an example for their daughters with actions, while as fathers, fathers can have more love and care for their daughters, so that girls have a full sense of security.
In addition, the father's attitude towards his daughter also largely determines the girl's attitude toward marriage in the future, so being a loving father can make the daughter feel happier than a strict father.
As far as the president is concerned, whether it is a strict father and a strict mother and a strict mother, there is a difference between boys and girls.
Of course, since each family situation is different, this approach cannot be generalized.
However, in the process of educating children, parents must know how to adjust inappropriate character settings and communication methods in a timely manner, so that children can grow up healthily under the common care of fathers and mothers.
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